Verbal Abuse

Harsh words and Criticism

Being Victimized

Are you or is somebody you know exposed to verbal and emotional abuse? This Blog is entitled “Mateja Petje Verbal Abuse” and is dedicated to you. Please take time to read on! All my life I’ve been an advocate of stopping abuse at its roots. Many times verbal and emotional abuse is just a stepping stone to physical abuse.


Unfortunately, I’ve also been a victim of verbal, emotional, sexual, and physical abuse since a very early age. As you might imagine it has taken me many years of therapy and healing to find forgiveness in my heart. Yet something as deep as this can never go away.

Mateja Petje Verbal Abuse- Criticism

Harsh words and criticism still hurt me. However now I am able to say NO! This is not acceptable. Furthermore, I can then detach from people who mistreat me. You see I’m a “Highly Sensitive Person”. You know what? I’m not shamed about that anymore!

Verbal Abuse- “Highly Sensitive People”

Recently, I wrote a terrific Blog on the subject of “Highly Sensitive People.” I want to provide you a link to that Blog because it would be great for you to access that information.

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Mateja Petje Verbal Abuse- Author

I describe my spiritual journey in my book “My Journey to Self-Discovery, A Memoir of my Slovenian Roots and Growth in America” which can be purchased by going to my website Home page

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Mateja Petje, M.S, LMFT,- My Book

I’m a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist as well as a Spiritual Counselor and Certified Neuro-Linguistic Programming Practitioner. I’m also the Founder of Holistic Coaching International.

This is a mind-body-spirit coaching practice. It is designed to help individuals achieve more balance in their lives. I was born in Slovenia and graduated from the University of Ljubljana where I obtained my BS in Education and English. Then in October 1997 I moved to Miami FL.

Mateja Petje Verbal Abuse- Training

In 2003 I obtained my Master’s Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from the University of Miami. Now I have over 20 years of experience in counseling and coaching. My coaching style is based on my unique background and experiences. As well as I have a blend of Eastern and Western teachings that I have been perfecting over the years.

My passion resides in alternative medicine, energy healing, meditation, and metaphysics. For over twenty years I have invested in extensive training’s. This training has been in alternative healing methods including NLP and Clinical Hypnosis.

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Mateja Petje Verbal Abuse- Wrong people

I used to keep attracting the “wrong” people in my life. They mistreated me the same way that my mom did when I was young. This is an ongoing healing journey for me. In a way, it was a blessing in disguise for me. If I didn’t learn how to heal, and adopt techniques that worked, I wouldn’t have been able to help thousands of people in my clinical practice.

Women especially resonate with my story. It gives them hope! Hope inspires them to continue healing and working on self-love among other things. Here is where they will find positive change. Now hopefully, they will finally feel good about themselves.

Mateja Petje Verbal Abuse- Family

The worst thing is when abuse starts with your family members. Remember they of course are the ones who are supposed to love you and protect you. I know how it feels to continuously walk on egg shelves. To be in constant fear that you will be severely punished, criticized, and humiliated. You have no self-esteem and don’t trust people.

Now drama and a toxic environment is a norm for you. So when you find yourself in a relationship that is loving and peaceful you almost don’t know what to do with it. I say to my clients that if it is “boring” it is HEALTHY.

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Suzette Haden Elgin “You Can’t Say No To Me”

In her book, “You Can’t Say No To Me” Suzette Haden Elgin speaks about the importance of recognizing abuse. Awareness is the first step. Two major risk factors for illness and injury are HOSTILITY and LONELINESS. People who are hostile or lonely (or both) get sick and injured more often. Verbal abuse is literally DANGEROUS to our health. In the same way that contaminated food and polluted water and toxic waste.

I’ve been suffering from anxiety and depression all my life which was directly related to the trauma associated with the abuse. Luckily, I knew early in my life that it is NOT MY FAULT. Working with a compassionate therapist was key to my healing. Remember, you DID NOT cause this in any way to be mistreated this way. Abusers will try to convince you that YOU made them this way. Don’t believe this!

Verbal Abuse Guidelines:

1. No verbal abuser can achieve their goals of verbal abuse without the PARTICIPATION of a verbal victim.

2. Because it takes for both abuser and victim to carry out verbal abuse, the victim shares SOME responsibility for what happens and the victim is not helpless. I will add that you can leave the person or situation if the abuser is not open to getting professional help.

3. There are other ways that don’t involve pleading and interacting to achieve your goal of putting an end to the hurtful behavior.

4. The ONLY way to deal effectively with the abuse is to use LANGUAGE (including body language) – make it ABSOLUTELY CLEAR to the abuser that you WILL NOT serve as a verbal abuse victim.

Mateja Petje Verbal Abuse

Other helpful techniques

What helped me in addition to therapy are some other techniques and approaches:

1. Journaling (I’ve been journaling since age 9 and that’s how I was able to write my book)

2. Meditation (I’ve been meditating now over 15 years)

3. Exercise, including yoga, hiking, and swimming

4. Working with a therapist and Energy Medicine Healers

5. Eating healthy, mostly plant-based diet and drinking plenty of water

6. Sharing with compassionate and kind people who became my friends

7. Never believing for a minute that any kind of abuse is justifiable

8. Utilizing Reiki and other energy medicine techniques, such as Emotional Freedom Technique (“tapping”). I am also a Reiki level II Practitioner

9. Spending time in nature

10. Loving myself no matter what!

You are the creator of your life – choose words wisely.

Thanks so much for reading! Be happy & safe!

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