Valentine’s Day Mateja Petje
Happy Valentine’s Day Everyone!
Learn how to say no and love yourself by first setting healthy boundaries
Happy Valentine’s Day! LOVE is in the air. Are you fortunate enough to feel it? Unfortunately, many people continue to struggle in their relationships whether they are intimate, friendships or in simply maintaining a healthy relationship with your family members. Some might also settle for less than they deserve because they are scared to be alone or live a toxic and dysfunctional relationship. Many times staying in a particular comfort zone, even if you suffer, seems easier.
Honor yourself first for Valentine’s Day!
Before I worked on myself (for over 25 years now and the journey continues) I had difficulty saying NO to others because I was afraid that people would not like me anymore. Yes, I was a “people pleaser” until I got seriously ill from trying to keep the peace and please everyone. I worked with therapists and coaches to let go, forgive, and create healthier boundaries with others. Sometimes we need to detach and let go of people who, in spite of our efforts to improve the relationship, continuously do not honor our requests.
You might say it’s “easier said than done” however don’t despair. Follow some of the tips I have included below and start having more peaceful and harmonious relationships with others. Everyday can be your “Valentines Day” Mateja Petje!
Being Assertive vs being aggressive
In her book, “Assertiveness for Earth Angels” Doreen Virtue (p. XXV) states “assertiveness means that you’re aware of your feelings and opinions and that you state them to yourself and others in a way that respects other people’s rights. An assertive person is kind, peaceful and gentle yet never apologizes for his or her feelings, because feelings are to be honored and respected.”
Here is a link to Doreeen Virtue’s book on Amazon ”
Assertiveness for Earth Angels: How to Be Loving Instead of Too Nice”
Many people confuse being assertive with being aggressive. Aggression is different from occasionally losing your temper, where you basically demand the other person to obey your rules and you don’t care about the other people’s needs or feelings.
For example, if you are in the habit to saying YES to every friend or social obligation, try prioritizing and only attend events that make you happy or nurture you. Yes do help your friends in their time of need, however be honest with them and you don’t even need to take time to explain. Just say that you need some time for you. How powerful is that!
Accept all you are, including your lesser strengths and imperfections
Many of my clients also suffer from being a perfectionist which often stems from feeling unloved and believing that you need to be perfect to be loved. A daily exercise could be to look in the mirror and say to yourself “I love you. You are special and unique.” It can be challenging in the beginning, however it gets easier. See more on this in Louise Hay’s book “The Power is Within You.” We all have unique gifts and talents and you are no exception!
Here is a link to Louise Hay’s book on Amazon
The Power Is Within You by Louise L. Hay
Do self-care and nurturing activities DAILY
It is very important that you create healthy daily habits. Not everyone wants to meditate, however if you can even set aside few minutes a day and just breathe or repeat an affirmation, such as “All is Well in My World”. I also love this one from one of my favorite spiritual teachers, Thich Nhat Hanh, “Breathing in, calming. Breathing out smiling. Present moment – wonderful moment.”
In addition to that, take time for regular meals and exercise and movement. Going for a walk around the block will not only help you to stay fit, but also helps you to feel more at peace and experience more joy.
Valentines Day Mateja Petje
So this year, make a commitment to yourself that you will honor yourself first. Happy Valentines Day 2019 Mateja Petje!
Click the link to go to my Opt In page on my website Add your name & Receive 3 complimentary videos Demonstrating top techniques
Behavioral & integrative medicine bringing you INSTANT RELIEF!
If you are considering working with me schedule you can schedule a complimentary 15 min phone consultation by clicking here.
Don’t wait to get help when you feel stuck, stressed-out or depressed.
I’m a phone call away! 561 299 1028
Click here to visit my website and book a FREE 15 minute PHONE consultation
Mateja Petje Holistic Coaching International Natural Stress Management
Office: 5301 N Federal Hwy, #370, Boca Raton, FL 33487
(Boca Greenhouse building off Yamato & US1)
Mateja Petje offers online and distance therapy in times when you are unable to visit our office right now
We accept all Major Insurance Carriers (BCBS, Cigna, Aetna, and out-of-network)
If you can’t come to our office right now after all Mateja Petje offers online and distance therapy! Don’t wait to get better on your own. We all need help sometimes. So why delay your happiness because in the final analysis your mental and physical health is priceless! However no one can motivate you to take the initiative to heal and make the first phone call but you. So please make the phone call all things considered you’re possibly in a dark place and need a fresh start!
Click here to see Mateja Petje on YELP!
MATEJA PETJE REVIEW ON YELP.COM
“I highly recommend her if you are struggling with marriage, relationship, career or any kind of life issues. She won’t disappoint you!!” Irene K. Miami Beach, FL Yelp.com
The Happiness Program
The Happiness Program is also know as the Art of Living Part 1 course. It is an introduction to the world of meditation and stress free living.