Marriage is good health! Research shows that being married is good for your health. Frankly, marriages nowadays are much different that those of our grandparents. It seems to be even more different by comparison than their grandparents and generations before them as well. Romance, friendship, and sexual compatibility are high on the list now whereas in the old days marriage was intended primarily for economic reasons and to secure offspring.
Blaine J. Fowers’ Beyond the Myth of Marital Happiness
The notion of romance is a modern concept and it started blossoming with the industrial growth in the beginning of 20th century. If you want to learn more I suggest reading Blaine J. Fowers’ book, ” Beyond the Myth of Marital Happiness.”
Still, high divorce rates have made marriage unpopular to say the least, however there is a paradox that exists. Many couples are spending large amounts of money for a wedding ceremony and then unfortunately divorce follows sometimes not even a year later! We know people that this has happened to or as an alternative, it’s easy to see this on a daily basis in the media.
As a Licensed and Marriage and Family Therapist I’ve been noticing lately something interesting that specifically women are expecting more from their marriage these days. This includes sexual intimacy and vitality into middle age and even well beyond. Therefore it makes sense that being happily married also has great benefits for your health.
Marriage is good for your health -Research
We see some interesting findings as a result of a study by Christine Proulx, an assistant professor in the MU Department of Human Development and Family Studies. In all stages of marriage, positive or negative relationships affect the individual’s health. Spouses should be aware that how they treat each other and how happy they are in their marriage affects both partners’ health, and they should think more about their personal relationships when thinking holistically about their health.
Excerpt from Science Daily
*Excerpt from Science Daily, University of Missouri-Columbia February 13, 2013). Happily married couples consider themselves healthier, expert says.
Marriage is good for your health- Strengthen it
So what can you do to strengthen your marriage and at the same time improve your chances for better health? Here are some of my suggestions that I share with my clients during our sessions:
1. Take time for yourself. Don’t depend on your spouse to make you happy. It is imperative that you continue growing as an individual and also as a couple. There needs to be a balance between time spent apart and time together. Spending all your time together is not healthy either and creates codependency as well.
2. Discuss any issues in a marriage or relationship on a regular basis. Even better, have a weekly meeting – maybe over dinner or a glass of wine. Don’t let the small issues and irritations grow into resentments that are difficult to resolve after more time has passed.
3. Make it a priority to eat healthy food and exercise. If your schedules do not accommodate enabling you both to exercise together regularly, be sure to do something physical together at least on the weekend.
For example the weather now in Florida is ideal for outdoor activities. As you maintain your health and vitality, you’re encouraging your partner to do the same. I would also add, don’t become too comfortable in baggy jogging pants for instance and turn into a coach potato! You owe it to yourself and your partner to maintain your health. Relationships are like a plant that needs to be nourished constantly.
4. Support each other’s goals and dreams and discuss them often. This is huge!
5. Have a positive outlook on life and be sure to make it a daily habit. Take time to reflect, meditate, and write down positive affirmations. Keeping a sense of gratitude goes a long way. You will notice how even the people that annoyed you before don’t hold so much power over you anymore.
6. Laugh often and remember that life can be challenging but it can be wonderful. You just have to decide not to engage in negativity. You are the Creator of Your Life.
Here’s to more healthy and happy relationships!
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