Mateja Petje Thriving Life

Mateja Petje Thriving Life- Introduction to overcoming Victim Roles

Mateja Petje Thriving Life! In this series we’re exploring how we can heal and overcome the “Victim Role” that we may have adopted due to abuse or trauma in our childhood or any past events.


Mateja Petje Thriving Life-Neuro Linguistic Programming

Neuro-Linguistic Programming, in my opinion, is one of the top techniques to gain insight into limiting and irrational beliefs in order to make lasting changes.

In this article, I’m sharing with you some of the proven tips and approaches that have worked for me in my life. It’s very important to have a DAILY practice and I can give you some of mine. I call them my “healthy healing habits”. I notice when I don’t do them, my life gets off track and I suffer in various ways.

In my previous article (“Affirmations your vocabulary needs”) I discussed some tips and techniques from Neuro-Linguistic Programming, which is also known as “NLP”.

Here is a link to a previous Blog I wrote entitled “Affirmations your vocabulary needs” dated November 10, 2019

Mateja Petje Thriving Life- Healing techniques

For twenty plus years I’ve been working on healing myself as well as working on my personal and professional growth too. This also includes exploring healing techniques from Western and Eastern medicine as well. You should be doing the same thing for yourself! Discovering what makes you feel better mentally for example.




These steps include (HEAL-TRANSFORM-THRIVE):

1. T – take responsibility for your past, beliefs, roles, and expectations

2. H – honest look at your current limiting beliefs and triggers

3. R- release and forgive

4. I – implement new beliefs

5. V – value new beliefs and practice them often

6. E – embrace life and remain open-minded and flexible


Mateja Petje Thriving Life- Honest assessment

The first step in making any change is to take an honest look at your life. You need to take responsibility for your past, as well as your beliefs, roles, and expectations. In order to move on with your life carrying around a victim role is not helpful.

The only one that continues to suffer is YOU and in most cases, not the other person who hurt you. It took me many years to realize this. Then when I was able to start taking full responsibility for my life, in spite of the wrongdoings by others, my life started to change for the better!


Releasing and forgiving cannot happen overnight. It takes commitment and in-depth work. Generally this is only accomplished by a licensed and credentialed professional, as we all have blind spots we just don’t see. Personally for my growth I continue to see other professionals when I get stuck.

Mateja Petje Thriving Life- Implementing New beliefs

Then you are ready to implement new beliefs to replace the old worn out ones. I always advise my clients to question their beliefs for example where do they come from? Are they still valid?

It’s important to realize that progress is not always linear and sometimes you will go two steps back and one step forward. However the key is to have faith and practice the techniques often and remain flexible.

I’ve been meditating for over 20 years and over that time I’ve created my daily ritual that works for me. Hopefully you will find something similar that works for you in your life taking your unique circumstances into account.


Daily Rituals

1. Daily meditation practice – 20 min in the morning and 20 minutes at night. If you are new to meditation, you might start with 5-10 minutes. There are a variety of meditation practices. Just find one that works for you.

2. Gratitude – write down daily what you are grateful for even if it is as simple as being grateful to be healthy and be alive.

3. Use positive affirmations and replace negative thoughts with positive ones

4. Use tapping also known as EFT when you are experiencing negative emotions or if you are in physical pain. It helps me with my headaches.

5. Detach from toxic people that drain you. Many times we outgrow even our closest friends. Seek people who are positive, inspiring, and who are not afraid to take risks to create the life of their dreams.

Thank you so much for taking time to read my blog!❤️

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I hope that some of these suggestions will help you to start making changes in your life. It’s never too late to reinvent yourself. I always think of Louise Hay who started Hay House publishing house when she was 60 years ol! Even in her 90s’ she was still vibrant and active.

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