Strategies For Toxic People
Help with family members
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“Strategies For Toxic People” exist but do YOU have them? Many of us have experienced working at toxic workplaces or having to deal with toxic people. But do you have the tools you need to blossom and flourish? Perhaps you’re dealing with this very issue right now!
Often times this also includes our closest family members! While it’s easier to disconnect and minimize contact with a relative or stranger, it’s much more difficult when the toxic person is your boss or your partner or a family member.
However, please don’t despair. There are some strategies that work to minimize emotional upset caused by having to deal with toxic people on a daily basis.
Strategies For Toxic People- Energy Vampires
In one of my previous articles entitled “5 Tips for Dealing with Difficult People”, I discussed strategies for dealing with certain types of difficult people. Such as the “dictators” and “know it all’s” of this world. In this article, I focus on people who can be also known as verbally abusive or “energy vampires.”
Strategies For Toxic People- Family Members
Throughout my career and personal life I have had to deal with toxic people. This started with my own family, and especially my mom. She was verbally, physically, and emotionally abusive. When you’re a child and this occurs you feel powerless. Your life depends on your parents, and therefore, many times you are not able to express your true feelings, such as anger.
Instead, one develops defense mechanisms just to survive. My way of surviving a toxic upbringing was to spend many hours in my room. I spent that time journaling, listening to music, spending time with my friends, and dating a lot. This was because I never felt loved or secure for that matter.
This also made me fearful of those in authority and consequently, I became a “people pleaser”. This was out of fear of being rejected. I was put up with abusive bosses out of fear of losing a job. As a result I developed chronic anxiety and gastrointestinal issues.
Strategies For Toxic People- At work
The final wake-up call was in the Fall of 2012. My wake up call was after a scary episode of being diagnosed with acute gastritis. This was after working at yet another toxic workplace. So I decided it was time for a change. Now I began to work for myself full time. It felt like jumping from a plane without a parachute. You may understand what that feels like! Yes I had no savings or a plan, but I just knew I would get seriously ill if I didn’t take care of myself.
Luckily my fiance (now my husband) was there for me to make this important decision. He continues to support me. The journey towards self-love and assertiveness was long. It was often painful at times, but it was well worth it. Today, I’m able to share this with my clients and help them create healthier boundaries with others.
“Poison People” by Katherine Schreiber
Recently, I came across a powerful article on this topic in Psychology Today titled, “Poison People,” by Katherine Schreiber. She discusses four major strategies to handle toxic people I have included below.
Four Strategies For Toxic People
Control Your Exposure
If nothing else, try to minimize your contact. Limit the time you spend together if it’s a family member. Maybe even schedule an event so that you don’t have to overstay. If the person is your boss, only spend time as needed. If you can, ask to be transferred to a different department.
Manage Your Reactivity
We cannot change others, however, we can change how we react. Learn meditation and stress relief techniques. Excuse yourself and go to the bathroom to do some deep breathing. You may need to tell the person you will be happy to talk to them when they are calmer.
There is no use in trying to explain yourself as the other person is the one who is refusing to listen. Simply say that you are busy at the moment, without explanation.
Get to know people first before making any major decisions. In addition pay attention to non-verbal cues and body language because it is vital. The goal at work is to get away from toxic people. But in our personal lives, we are more prone perhaps to invite them in. This is because many times they have appealing traits such as confidence and charm.
Strategies For Toxic People- Review
We need to be mindful when we start blaming ourselves at times. We can’t continue making excuses for toxic people. It’s key to set healthy boundaries right from the beginning. We deserve to be treated with respect. Sometimes that may even mean leaving a toxic job or relationship.
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Slovenia my home country
There are many amazing destinations in this world. One is Slovenia my home country. I came across this link to a website where they have a web page discussing Triglav Mountain. My company years ago began under the inspiration of Triglav Mountain. It’s even in my business name!
Here is the article & link
Mt Triglav Top choice mountain in Triglav National Park
“The 2864m limestone peak called Triglav (Three Heads) has been a source of inspiration and an object of devotion for Slovenes for more than a millennium – it even appears on the country’s flag. The early Slavs believed the mountain to be the home of a three-headed deity who ruled the sky, the earth and the underworld.”
Donacka Mountain- Landmark in Slovenia
“Between Boč and Macelj mountain lies Donačka mountain (882 m), which got her name after the church st. Donat (511 m), origin from 18. century, lying on the sunny side of the mountain. Donačka mountain is unique on her steep, cone shape and location on the east border of Alpine world.
Her specialty is variety of vegetation. On the rocky walls, on sunny side of mountain, is location of “juvanov netresk”,endemit.” Here is a link to this wonderful place!
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