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Holistic Psychotherapist Defined

WHAT DOES IT MEAN WHEN WE SAY “HOLISTIC”?

Holistic Psychotherapist Defined in Medical Practice

So what does it mean when we say “Holistic”? How do we define the term “Holistic” as it relates to the medical field? Nowadays, many practitioners, including myself, define themselves as “holistic”. But there seems to be some confusion and lack of understanding as to what this term actually means.

According to Wikipedia, “The holistic concept in medical practice, which is distinct from the concept in the alternative medicine, upholds that all aspects of people’s needs including psychological, physical and social should be taken into account and seen as a whole. A 2007 study said the concept was alive and well in general medicine in Sweden.[3]

 

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Holistic Psychotherapist Defined -in Alternative Medicine

Some practitioners of holistic medicine use alternative medicine exclusively. Though sometimes holistic treatment can mean simply that a physician takes account of all of a person’s circumstances in giving treatment. Sometimes when alternative medicine is mixed with mainstream medicine the result is called “holistic” medicine. Though this is more commonly termed integrative medicine.[2]

According to the American Holistic Medical Association it is believed that the spiritual element should also be taken into account when assessing a person’s overall well-being.[4]”

 

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See the following references for more information:

2) American Cancer Society. January 2013. Retrieved September 2013.
3) Strandberg, Eva; Ovhed, Ingvar; Borgquist, Lars; Wilhelmsson, Susan (2007). “The perceived meaning of a (w)holistic view among general practitioners and district nurses in Swedish primary care: A qualitative study”. BMC Family Practice 8: 8. doi:10.1186/1471-2296-8-8. PMC 1828160. PMID 17346340.
4) American Holistic Medical Association

 

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Holistic Psychotherapist defined -Combining Alternative & Holistic Medicine

I’ve been interested in alternative and holistic medicine for the last 15 years consequently I’ve also adopted spiritual practices in my personal life. Largely the reason this happened is fascinating & very common. This occurred when I was getting my Master’s degree in marriage and family therapy. Simultaneously I was also dealing with some personal challenges in my life. 

 

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Fortunately I started meditating and learning about alternative approaches and techniques. I also received training in clinical hypnosis & guided meditation. This lead me to conclude that I was achieving great success with my clients. They suffered from anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and trauma. Additionally I studied Zen and other forms of meditation and started teaching my clients simple breathing techniques with much success.

In the same span of time I was also struggling from depression and anxiety having experienced this all my life. It’s partially genetic and partially due to abuse and trauma I suffered ever since I was 15 years old.  This abuse last until I was almost 25 years old. 

 

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Holistic Psychotherapist Defined -Combining Alternative & Holistic Medicine (cont.)

This abuse and trauma also occurred in my intimate relationships with men. Traditional therapy even though helpful has its limitations. I’m happy to report that I finally had a break-through. This was after I started using alternative approaches in addition to seeing a psychotherapist.

I’m determined to find ways to help myself and my clients without the need to rely on medication. Medication can be life saving in some instances, such as in the case of bi-polar disorder or during the initial course of treatment.

However often times clients are given prescriptions by their primary care physicians who don’t have in-depth knowledge about psychiatric disorders. As a result there are always some type of side effects. This might include for example having trouble reaching an orgasm! So there is much to consider. 

 

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Holistic Psychotherapist Defined -Introducing Holistic Coaching International

You see I always encourage my clients to get properly evaluated by a psychiatrist. It is also recommended that clients see a psychotherapist such as licensed marriage and family therapist such as myself. As well as a licensed mental health counselor or a licensed clinical social worker. Of course the downside for taking medication is it just alleviates the symptoms. But it doesn’t deal with the root causes of depression or anxiety.

My company, Holistic Coaching International as well as my website www.NaturalStressManagement.com was created to help! As an example you can access my “Stress to Bliss” Guide which focuses on the whole person. This is in terms of mind, body, emotion and spirit for identifying both issues and solutions naturally.

For example, when I see a client who is suffering from anxiety and is stressed out or overwhelmed, I assess their lifestyle in general. This includes several areas of their life such as their nutrition, exercise, social support, family life, career and finances. 

 

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Holistic Psychotherapist Defined -Introducing Holistic Coaching International (Cont.)

Research shows that many chronic medical illnesses, such as diabetes, and high blood pressure are linked to experiencing chronic stress. Which many times is a result of lacking the necessary coping skills.

As well as being unaware that your health is more than just your physical health. In other words, it is not enough just to have regular check-ups and take the necessary supplements. It is just as equally as important to have emotional and mental health. Including having the tools and coping skills to deal with life’s stresses in the environment.

When I work with clients, we explore the root causes for anxiety and depression by utilizing traditional psychotherapy. As an example this might be exploring their family-of-origin dynamics. As well as their belief system and their values.

We also discuss their lifestyle and recommendations are complete based on their individual experiences and symptoms. Sometimes we discuss alternative approaches, such as going to a yoga class, getting a massage or going to a meditation class.  

 

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Holistic Psychotherapist Defined -Holistic Coaching International Techniques Utilized

I utilize several alternative and complimentary medicine approaches in my work with clients. This includes for example clinical hypnosis & guided meditation, emotional freedom technique, also known as “tapping” and Neuro-linguistic programming. I also collaborate with other holistic practitioners. This might be, as an example, fitness experts, health coaches & massage therapists. Which of course is in each client’s best interests.

For more information about my holistic and integrative services please visit my website www.NaturalStressManagement.com

You can schedule a FREE 15 min complimentary consultation by calling 561-299-1028 or by visiting https://naturalstressmanagement.com/contact-stress-management-mateja-petje/

or simply email me at Matejastriglav@gmail.com.

 

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Holistic Coaching International New office!

I’m very excited to share with you I have opened my own new office! I’m in the same building I’ve been in for years. However this is my office. It means so much to me. I have begun to make it my own. What that means to my clients is they will have a safe & very comfortable place to meet with me. I want my clients to be as comfortable as possible so they can have the best experience possible. Most often my clients are in “pain” so I want an environment that puts them at ease.

 

My Slovenian Roots

It is very important in these times to remember something. I’m originally from Europe. I don’t necessarily think the same way as typical Americans do. Europeans have a different prospective on things. Now my husband is an American. I think this is a plus for you.

I believe I can offer you a different prospective on things you might find helpful. Immigrants for example are having a very difficult time generally speaking in the world today. These added stressors are potentially something I can help with. If you feel I can be of service to you in this area please reach out to me.

 

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14 Best Things to do in Ljubljana, Slovenia

Lovely Ljubljana…one of our new favorite cities in Europe. This town really made a nice impression on us. It’s colorful, it’s lively, it’s compact, it’s very photogenic, and there are more dragons here than museums. This is the kind of city where it is simply fun to stroll and explore without a long list of attractions to visit. Even so …

 

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WPBiTV Interview with Mateja Petje

Excellent interview with Mateja Petje and Jonathan Lederman at WPBiTV because the subject is Mateja’s background & how she works with her clients. Take the time to listen this is a terrific video & interview!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Psychotherapist Life Coach Hiring

Psychotherapist or Life Coach Hiring

Psychotherapist or Life Coach hiring. What’s the difference? First let’s talk about the root of the problem. Did you know that stress and anxiety are one of the leading causes for seeking professional help? More specifically, more than 40 million Americans suffer from anxiety and 20 million suffer from depression. One of 10 Americans is on some kind of anti-depressant.* What makes this far worse, in my personal & professional experience, is that people are confused as to where to turn to for help. *(M. Hyman, The Ultramind solution, p. 11).

 

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Psychotherapist Life Coach hiring– Hippocratic Oath

Social media and the internet have enabled us more efficiency seeking help. Unfortunately it has also created more possibility for sub-par professionals. Frankly these are people who are not properly trained to offer services. They often offer advise that can be misleading and do more damage than good. 

Maybe you’ve heard about the “Hippocratic Oath”? The key to everything is not to do harm. The “Hippocratic Oath” is an oath historically taken by physicians. It is one of the most widely known of Greek medical texts. In its original form, it requires a new physician to swear an oath. An oath to/by a number of healing gods, to uphold specific ethical standards.

The Oath is the earliest expression of medical ethics in the Western world.  Link Wikipedia https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hippocratic_Oath

 

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There are certain specific Professionals that are properly trained to help clients with mental and emotional illnesses or disorders. They are psychiatrists, psychologists, psychotherapists, counselors, licensed social workers, licensed marriage and family therapists. In addition licensed mental health counselors and several others mental health professionals, such as psychiatric nurses. 

But this is definitely NOT something for life coaches! Including “certified” life coaches. They might be able to help clients with “life challenges”. Those that require setting goals, or improving skills. This might be for example changing a career, or finding a romantic partner. But there are limitations. Frankly most are not even aware of them and render services out of a drive to make a quick buck. 

 

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Psychotherapist Life Coach hiring- “Good & bad” therapists

As in any other field, there are “good and bad” therapists. There are “good and bad” life coaches. I do know some good life coaches who have ethics and understand limitations. However, more often than not, I’m coming across unqualified and unethical life coaches. Thus far that has been my experience of living in S Fla for over 20 years. Also having been a therapist now over 15 of those years.

Years ago I wrote and clarified distinctions between each in my previous article. It was entitled “The Difference Between a Psychologist, Psychotherapist and a Psychiatrist Demistified” June 2014.  

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Psychotherapist Life Coach hiring- “Good & bad” therapists (cont.)

There is a problem that exists in my opinion. That is the coaching field is not upheld to any high rigorous ethical and legal considerations. Not as it is in the case of licensed mental health professionals. The only regulating body is the International Coaching Federation (ICF). Therefore the coaching schools that are following their standards, are more likely to offer quality programs. But unfortunately it’s still not a guarantee. That’s why ethics and moral obligations to refer clients out when you’re NOT qualified is the key here. 

Psychotherapist Life Coach hiring- Personal experience 

Once to my horror I observed a “healer/life coach’ proudly describe how they treated a client, who was suicidal! First of all, all clients who enter mental health treatment with a licensed clinician, are guaranteed privacy. This includes social media! This also means being HIPPA compliant! So this was already the first violation. Not to mention the fact that this person didn’t have any training whatsoever! That is key in cases like this.

Over the years I have had several incidents with life coaches and their specific approach. I actually attended 6 months of intense training by a coaching school. This school is accredited by the International Coaching Federation. This is in addition to graduate school and other training over the years. 

 

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Psychotherapist Life Coach hiring – “Good & bad” Life Coaches

I came across one such poorly run life coaching programs locally here in S Fla. I actually read on their website that the founder had a criminal and drug history. The website was not created very well by the way! Over the last 30 years of being in education and the psychology field I have studied many self-help authors. I do believe that people who had to deal with adverse life situations can be one of the best teachers!

Psychotherapist Life Coach hiring the great Louise Hay, Wayne Dyer or Donna Eden

There are several people that come to mind. For example Louise Hay, Wayne Dyer, Donna Eden and more just to name a few. These are folks that come to my mind when you talk about overcoming enormous adversity. Then in turn sharing that gift with others.

However they were also very humble people! Moreover their first priority was not sales but rather SHARING what they had learned with others. They also didn’t cross boundaries when it came to others’ mental health. 

Psychotherapist Life Coach hiring – “Good & bad” Life Coaches (Cont.)

I cannot say that ALL the trainers from this particular program are like the three trainers I had met personally. But this happened in the span of over 10 years. It seemed to me like theirs is a general approach. Their obvious lack of knowledge how to approach clients remains just the same.

That is also why I can only go by what I had personally experienced. I might have even taken their workshop if I wasn’t so turned off by several things. First their lack of proper interpersonal, communication as well as sales skills. This is in addition to what I saw as a complete lack of knowledge of basics of human development & psychology. This is something that has happened years ago but it really stands out in my memory.

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Psychotherapist Life Coach hiring – “Good & bad” Life Coaches (cont.)

I came across another life coach and I’ll share that experience too. This happened when I was part of a coaching/self-growth program back in 2004. This was at one of the networking meetings when I had just graduated. However I was immediately turned off by her aggressive sales pitch. In graduate school the first thing we learn is UNCONDITIONAL POSITIVE REGARD for a client.

This means you need to work with people where they are. This person tried to convince me that I desperately needed the help of this particular program. Of course she happening to be selling it too right at the moment. But I needed to buy it because my life is “such a mess”! She said that “I will not be successful” because my “strategy” was no good. Amazingly she went on to say I had created my own trauma. Basically everything negative that happened in my life was my fault.

 

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Psychotherapist Life Coach hiring – “Good & bad” Life Coaches (more)

This happened on two more occasions over the years with two different coaches from this particular program. Of course the last encounter I just told the person I had no interest. My only intention to meet with her was socially. I had expressed lack of interest due to my previous experiences with two other coaches from this program. Unfortunately she even persisted & tried to put me down and shame me as well!

Frankly the worst thing was that I was in a car accident almost around that time in my life. Unfortunately I was a victim of road rage. However she persisted in telling me “I created and attracted this”. When you examine this it tends to sound more like new age philosophy.

The worst of all too was this person really didn’t take time to understand my personal situation. She missed the fact that I actually am suffering from mental illness. She blindly kept pushing her agenda.

I couldn’t even respond in the moment because I needed time to reflect on what happened. She was overwhelming to me in those moments. This is awful behavior especially for a “mental health” practitioner or even one pretending to be! 

 

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Psychotherapist Life Coach hiring – Shaming and putting people down for sales

I do believe that mindset is key. Any properly trained clinician knows that shaming and putting people down is the last thing you want to do. Especially when you say you want to help that person. This kind of approach could break a person who is struggling. Perhaps because of their exposure for example to previous harshness and criticism.

Here is the bottom line. Even if the program works for some people, their sales pitch clearly shows to me that there is no depth. People who sell this program in most cases have no proper training or credentials. At least the ones I have come across. Specifically this person only took this course 6 years ago. Prior to this she was in a service industry before and now calls herself a “Master Trainer.”  

Psychotherapist Life Coach hiring-Proper training 

Why do I say that? It seemed like it came with a sense of entitlement. I’m very intuitive and sense people’s energy very quickly. In the past I just didn’t trust myself enough with this “gut feeling” or “intuition”. However in most cases my gut is right!  

I have always been an open minded person and worked all my life. Honestly I’ve worked at least for 30 years on healing my own trauma. I’ve earned a Master’s Degree from the highly reputable University of Miami in Coral Gables Fl. I graduated with Honors! So understand this is not the only case I have come across.

I had a similar experience with another self-growth program, that will remain nameless! The short version is even though I gained some skills. The way they go about with their sales totally turned me off from further exploring it. They call it enrolling people!

How can you be ethical when you are desperate to make money? Ethically speaking don’t you need to really understand if this person is a match?  Or is just about you and the particular program you happen to be selling? 

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Psychotherapist Life Coach hiring –Proper training (Cont.)

So my concern is therefore two fold. First most of these life coaches have no proper training in human psychology and understanding. They can cause serious damage in cases where people have experienced significant life trauma or have underlying mental illness. This occurs by making them “wrong”, coercing them and using aggressive tactics.

Fortunately I have worked on raising my self esteem which used to be very low. Consequently, many people that are struggling with mental health disorders also have a difficult time asserting themselves. Especially if they were abused, because of the potential for this low self esteem, predators can and do take advantage! 

This taking “advantage” of their clients innocence and desperation and willingness to try anything to feel better is awful! They do not have proper training. They also are not able to distinguish who is the right candidate for their program. Think about that. It has the potential to make this a really terrible situation. 

Psychotherapist Life Coach hiring -Cost

Another issue is also the high cost of these programs or coaching sessions. Recently my client told me that his friend is a life coach. His friend offered him and a friend a family discount rate for a coaching session. This discounted rate was $500/hr! Which of course is absurd! Please be observant and do your research!  

 

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Psychotherapist Life Coach hiring –Questions to help you decide

Here are some basic questions that might help you when you’re deciding between a licensed clinician/psychotherapist or a life coach.

1. Where did you get your training and what are your credentials? Is your school accredited?

2. How much experience do you have with this particular issue that I am struggling with?

3. Does this issue/disorder that I’m struggling with fall under mental health and needs to be properly diagnosed? More specifically does it instead relate more to certain goals I want to accomplish in life? For example this might be getting fit, losing weight, changing career or finding a life partner.

4. Is this person really listening to me? Will they help me even if it means he or she needs to refer me out to a licensed clinician? Unfortunately, is this just another person simply trying to “close the sale”. A person really not interested in my well being?

5. Trust your intuition if something doesn’t feel right meaning listen to your gut and do more research. Ask for testimonials, credentials, references and licensing board, if applicable. You are worth it!

In closing thank you for reading!

*Don’t just blindly follow promises, do your research! Share with anyone whom might benefit please!

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I offer a complimentary 15 min consultation if you are considering working with me. 

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Office: 5301 N Federal Hwy, #370,  ​Boca Raton, FL 33487 ​

(Boca Greenhouse building off Yamato & US1)

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WPBiTV Interview with Mateja Petje

Take time to listen to this very insightful interview with Mateja Petje and

Jonathan Lederman at WPBiTV because the subject is Mateja’s background & how she works with her clients.

 


The Happiness Program

The Happiness Program is also know as the Art of Living. Part 1 course consequently it is an introduction to the world of meditation and stress free living. Here is a link to the Art of Living website https://www.artofliving.org/us-en/happiness-program

 

 

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Mateja Petje Clinical Depression

Mateja Petje Clinical Depression

Mateja Petje Clinical Depression –Feeling blue? Seven signs of Clinical Depression

Mateja Petje Clinical Depression and seven signs of clinical depression. We all get sad or down, however there is a difference when somebody is feeling stressed out or depressed because of a job loss, relationship troubles or illness. It CAN lead to clinical depression.

Some of the signs of clinical depression include

1. Loss of appetite or overeating
2. Insomnia, waking up
3. Obsessive and intrusive thoughts and worrying
4. Feelings of hopelessness or helplessness
5. Not participating at social activities that one liked before
6. Suicidal thoughts/ideations
7. Substance abuse or excessive shopping/gambling etc.

*These symptoms need to last a minimum of 2 weeks to be able to be properly diagnosed.

​My advise is to listen to recommendations. Don’t wait until things get worse. I offer a complimentary consultation just call 561-299-1028 or click here to email me. 

 

 

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Mateja Petje Clinical Depression -Victim of your past?

 

Today I wanted to share with you something that I’ve been struggling with all my life and the good news is I had a breakthrough after talking to a wise friend.

For years I’ve worked with therapists, healers and coaches to release trauma from the past and my “victim” role. You see a wise friend told me how to get more into depth and start taking full responsibility for my feelings, thoughts, behaviors and actions as well as my choices and who I let into my inner space.

I’m excited to be able to finally meet my real “Authentic Self” that is based on pure love, compassion, joy and peace. This is as opposed to relying on projections and roles from my “Conditioned Self” (as described by my mentor Shelley Riutta) that is based on guilt, anger, fear and other negative emotions and expectations and dependence on other people. 

 

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Mateja Petje Clinical Depression –

As I got more into depth and started taking full responsibility I really made progress. That also includes doing my baby steps and catching myself as often as I can when I am in my “Conditioned Self”.

I’m already a gifted healer and holistic psychotherapist consequently I believe very strongly that especially for people in the healing and medical health field it is so important to continue healing ourselves! In this way I will be able to help my clients in even more profound and more AUTHENTIC ways. There is no shame! We are all dealing with universal human needs and barriers on our way to getting to know our real “Authentic Selves”. 

 

 

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Mateja Petje Clinical Depression -Victim of your past? (cont)

Now you might say, this is all good and well, but these things actually happened. The thing is that we see everything based on our past experiences with other people, events and circumstances. If we didn’t have an emotional attachment to a person or event that happened in our past, we wouldn’t have such a strong emotional reaction that acts as a “trigger” to a current situation. This means that we have not fully healed the situation and our emotional response to it.

This is the basis of my work whether I work with couples or individuals. One of my approaches to healing is using Imago (to read about Imago check out my website). If we didn’t have attachment to the past we would not feel pain, anger, rejection or whatever we are feeling. 

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Here is what one of my clients said about my work with them utilizing the Imago approach

Testimonial

“I was extremely pleased with the services that I have received by this provider. Not only that she is very knowledgeable but she is very compassionate and genuine. She listens well and responded to all my questions. My girlfriend and I had a lot of problems due to our divorce and we both had baggage from our previous relationships. We also lost connection and she was able to get us back on track. Her Imago approach really works! I highly recommend her.” by STEVE November 29, 2012 Consumer Feedback www.Wellness.com

Mateja Petje Clinical Depression -Imago Theory

For example, if a woman was abused in her childhood or past romantic relationships, and if she hasn’t healed the past event and emotional attachment to it, she will unconsciously repeat the same scenario in not just intimate relationships but also platonic relationships. This is whether business or personal and more importantly, continue carrying this pattern onto her children or any future relationships. 

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If she is in a relationship with a man, who had similar patterns of being a”victim” of the situation, they will keep “triggering” each other’s wounds until they both take full responsibility for their thoughts, beliefs, actions, and choices.

Mateja Petje Clinical Depression -Choices

Remember, no matter what, you always have a choice. Even women or men that are abused in a relationships still have a choice which is not easy, but they CAN leave the relationship and many times a professional is needed to help them build back their self-esteem and self-love to be able to make that step. Finances might get in the way, and most people prefer to remain in the comfort zone instead of being vulnerable and looking deeply into themselves. 

 

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WPBiTV Interview with Mateja Petje

Take time to listen to this very insightful interview with Mateja Petje and Jonathan Lederman at WPBiTV because the subject is Mateja’s background & how she works with her clients.

 

 

The Happiness Program

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Triglav is the highest mountain in Slovenia and the highest peak of the Julian Alps! I named my company after Triglav Mountain. Here is a link to more information https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Triglav

 

 

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Mateja Petje PTSD Diagnosis 

Mateja Petje PTSD Diagnosis

Mateja Petje PTSD Diagnosis

With so many war veterans diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) as well as above than average incidents of shootings, and specifically the recent shooting close to my home, in Parkland, Fl, I decided to write this article. In order to bring some clarity as to what PTSD is and also to offer some suggestions as to how it can be treated.

Understand that there is no one correct treatment. I base this conclusion on my personal experience of having suffered significant trauma which was a result of all types of abuse during my childhood and adolescence and even later on in my adult life. For example I have experienced trauma related to being in abusive relationships. Frankly I had experienced nightmares and some flashbacks for as long as I remember. 

 

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Mateja Petje PTSD Diagnosis – Seeking help

 

Remember the information in this blog should serve as a guideline. Nonetheless, I strongly recommend that if you feel that you suffer from PTSD that you consult a licensed clinician or a psychologist.

Now let’s first take a look as to how the psychology field defines PTSD.

In 2013, the American Psychiatric Association revised the PTSD diagnostic criteria in the fifth edition of its Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5; 1). PTSD is included in a new category in DSM-5, Trauma- and Stressor-Related Disorders. Full copyrighted criteria are available from the American Psychiatric Association (1). Here I am just listing a few.  

 

 

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Mateja Petje PTSD Diagnosis – Seeking help (cont.)

To be diagnosed with PTSD, the person was exposed to: death, threatened death, actual or threatened serious injury, or actual or threatened sexual violence, or similar, including any kind of abuse or domestic violence, experiencing it directly or indirectly by observing it.

Typical symptoms include: nightmares, flashbacks, emotional distress, and intrusive thoughts.
 
For example, for years following the abuse, I would have continued nightmares and I also developed sensitivity to criticism and aversion to anybody talking loudly. I would experience physical sensations, such as vomiting or upset stomach. Basically, I developed a trigger and in this case it was a loud voice. 

 

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Another example, would be in the case of people that were exposed to violence. This would include shootings and guns, where they develop emotional distress with ANY loud noises that resemble a gun shot. It can take years to heal and to not experience emotional distress when the trigger presents itself.

For a person to meet the criteria for PTSD, the symptoms need to last at least a month and they also experience distress and functional impairment in several key areas of life such as social and occupational.

To learn more visit this website  https://www.ptsd.va.gov/professional/PTSD-overview/dsm5_criteria_ptsd.asp 

 

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Mateja Petje PTSD Diagnosis & Treatment

So what can we do about it? 

1.  Most of all know that you are not alone! What helped me most is to seek support of friends who normalized my feelings. In addition that what I was experiencing was not the norm. My boyfriend’s family was nothing like my own where I experienced joy and laughter. Not abuse and tension which was the norm in my family when I was an adolescent.

2.  I also worked with several therapists, coaches, and healers. This was where I learned how to identify my triggers and how to manage my emotions and “rewrite my story”. One approach that was helpful with a pervasive memory of being severely beaten was finding a therapist that was trained in EMDR. After a few sessions I was able to tell my story without crying and I was able to emotionally detach from the incident. 

 

 

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However, the approach that finally started to help me in stopping intrusive and limiting thoughts and beliefs is when I learned and received training in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). In essence, this approach focuses on the linguistic and how we store and process memories.

I have been able to start understanding that my negative programming was due to being exposed to abuse and trauma that colored my world. See I saw the world as a threat and subconsciously sought experiences and people that confirmed that my world was not a safe place and that people cannot be trusted. Only when I started changing my beliefs did my life and my well-being begin to improve. 

 

Mateja Petje PTSD Diagnosis & Treatment (cont)

 

3.    Join a support groupOther people who have gone through similar experiences can not only offer validation but you will also feel understood. Not many people (including some therapists) really understood why I was not able to get better. This is in spite of years of therapy and medication. Medication can be helpful in the initial stages, but key is to understand the root causes and how your beliefs and thoughts contribute to the disorder.

4.     Do journaling. When we are overwhelmed with thoughts it’s key that we find healthy ways to manage them and get them out of our head.
 
5.     Learn stress management and breathing techniques. I think meditation literally saved my life. I studied different modalities including mindfulness, zen, guided meditation and meditation based on mantra. See the Art of Living Foundation. I was able to heal insomnia and significantly reduce anxiety and depression symptoms.  

 

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Treat yourself and take care of yourself! NEVER be afraid of seeking help.

I hope this was helpful to you. Please don’t suffer and there is no shame. Feel free to schedule a confidential phone consultation 561-299-1028
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The Happiness Program

The Happiness Program is also know as the Art of Living Part 1 course consequently it is an introduction to the world of meditation and stress free living. Here is a link to the Art of Living website https://www.artofliving.org/us-en/happiness-program

 

 

 

 

 

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Mateja Petje Mothers Day

Mateja Petje Mother’s Day

MOTHERS & DAUGHTERS – INFLUENCES FOR A LIFETIME

Mateja Petje Mother’s Day insights, experiences and lessons learned. Mothers play a big part in our lives, especially when it comes to their daughters. In an ideal world, daughters receive love, attention, support, and wisdom from their moms so that they can go into the world and follow their dreams and passions. 

 

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According to recent research as discussed in the article in Psychology Today Here is a link http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200104/the-mother-daughter-bond Most adults report positive relationships with their mothers. For example, 88 percent of adults say their mother has had a positive influence on them, and 92 percent say their current relationship with their mother is positive. 

 

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Still, in my clinical practice, these numbers tend to be quite different. Many women, young or old, report having strained relationships with their mothers. Quite often, they suffer from low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, and unfulfilled relationships. They blame themselves not knowing what went wrong and why they cannot form a lasting loving relationship with a man. Many times they did not have a good role model as to what constitutes a healthy and loving relationship or a marriage.

So the bond between mothers and daughters is very complex. The bond starts to already develop during pregnancy. Research shows that even fetuses can identify when their mom is stressed and therefore stress can indirectly affect the child’s emotional blue-print.  

 

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Mateja Petje Mother’s Day – Attending Miami University

 

 

When I was pursuing my master’s degree at the University of Miami, I wrote my best essay on the importance of a secure attachment with parents, and especially mothers. Those who are lucky  enough get this kind of secure attachment however many others who are not so lucky suffer due to insecure and avoidance attachment. This is characterized by fear, anxiety and feelings of abandonment.

Unfortunately, my experience was similar to many other daughters growing up in dysfunctional families. My family on my mother’s side has experienced generations of alcoholism and violence. Men tend to be violent and use alcohol as a coping mechanism. Many times this was an escape from mental and emotional illnesses, including PTSD which my grandfather suffered from and in the end it cost him his life. 

 

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Mateja Petje Mother’s Day – Coming to America

 

My mom was not an alcoholic, however she never healed from her own trauma. Instead she lashed out. In my tender teen years, I was abused physically, emotionally and mentally. She never sought help.  This was just not what you did. Seeking help for emotional and mental issues is still stigmatized even to this day.

I had to physically move across the ocean from Slovenia to the US to finally heal from my own trauma. I am the first in my family who broke the cycle and decided I didn’t want to live this kind of life moreover that I deserve a loving relationship. In therapy I learned a lot about myself and why I developed clinical depression. My healing journey was long and it’s still an ongoing process.

At the same time, it was also a blessing in disguise as I have been able to help hundreds of women to heal from abuse, trauma, difficult relationships, low self-esteem and the lack of self-love. The women I’ve worked with now have confidence, improved relationships and they have made peace with the past. 

 

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Here are some suggestions how to heal and improve your relationship with your mother:

 

1.    Forgive your mom and let go. Write a letter to your mom expressing everything and then burn it. You are doing this for your sake so that you don’t carry this burden.

2.    Think about all the good stuff. Don’t always dwell on the bad stuff. One of my fondest memories is when my mom brought me breakfast in bed on Saturdays.

3.    Be your own best parent. Think about what you have always needed from your mom but never got it. Pamper yourself.

4.    Remember that your mom is just doing the best that she can. She learned all she knows from her mother.

5.    When your mom starts with her “usual” nagging, or she is being negative or critical, just gently disengage. Set the boundaries and practice “tough love.”

Thank you for reading!

 

Mateja Petje Mother’s Day best wishes!

 

Many times my clients don’t seek help until they are in crisis. Why wait this long and suffer? Call for a complimentary session today at 561-299-1028.

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The Happiness Program

The Happiness Program is also know as the Art of Living Part 1 course consequently it is an introduction to the world of meditation and stress free living. Here is a link to the Art of Living website https://www.artofliving.org/us-en/happiness-program

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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This photo is when I visited home in 2007! I’m from Slovenia as you might have read. It is an amazing country! If you want to explore here is a terrific link. https://www.visitljubljana.com/en/visitors/

 

 

Mateja Petje Stress Remedies

Mateja Petje Stress Remedies

Mateja Petje Stress Remedies-Being the best

Are you stressed out? Do you feel like you have no life and you end up taking care of everyone else but yourself? We women are often trying to be the best at everything! The best mom, the best wife, the best daughter, the best co-worker and the best employee and yes even the best friend. You know what you need right? Mateja Petje Stress Remedies! So read on Dear Reader!

 

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Unfortunately, many women lose themselves in the process and in their quest to be the best! Too frequently the result is often resentment and the lack of rest causes you to be over tired and feeling irritable and depressed. Also, while improvements in technology have simplified many tasks, quite a lot of people have difficulty disconnecting from their cell phones, iPod, smart phones and social media. We’re being bombarded with massive amounts of content coming towards us non stop in the Information Age we’re in. 

However, don’t despair. Taking an honest look at your life is the first step to creating the life you want where you will experience more joy, peace of mind and yes, even better productivity at your work or your career. Boundaries between life and work are now more blurred than ever however you need to figure out how to find a happy medium. There is a Zen saying “Wherever you go, there you are.” Our level of stress has more to do with our response to events than the event or job itself.

 

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Mateja Petje Stress Remedies-Integrate self-care & fun

 

Growing up in Europe, I feel that I have received some advantages because I learned early in my life that it cannot be just about all work and no fun. Even as a 23 year old starting my career, I was entitled to a minimum of 18 paid vacation days and unlimited sick time.  Things have changed with Slovenia now becoming a part of more capitalistic, western approach, due to being a part of the European Union (since 2005) however those values have stayed with me.

Even though I have been working hard and have been investing in my personal and professional life, SELF-CARE has always been important to me and I have been always on the lookout for ways to integrate self-care and fun in my life and have helped my clients to do the same.

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Mateja Petje Stress Remedies-Apply right away

 

Here are some of suggestions that you can apply to your life right away:

1Think about if your current job is what you truly care about. True, in this economy it may not be as easy to find a more suitable job. However make an honest assessment of the situation and if the answer is “no”, create a vision of what kind of job you truly do want. What kind of company do you want to work for? What are some of the most important things? Work environment? Benefits? Flexibility? Time off? Ask yourself these questions.

2. If you do decide you need to stay at your current job or if you are a business owner figure out what specific changes you need to make to feel happier. Do you need to have an honest conversation with your manager? Do you need to delegate more? Maybe your employer would consider having you work from home a couple of days a week?

3. Focus on the positive. If you constantly dwell on the negative that’s how your life will look like. So focus on the positive!

 

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Mateja Petje Stress Remedies (continued)

4Take breaks and especially take time for your lunch. You will be more productive by taking time to re-energize and maybe even take a walk around the block. (That includes taking a break from cell phones and iPods!)

5. Instead of dealing with stress and anxiety by consuming too many caffeinated drinks and pastries, grab fresh fruit or a fruit smoothie & some nuts.

6Seek support. We all need times to have somebody listen to us. Take time out and find the support you need.

7. Just BREATHE! Adopt stress relief techniques such as yoga and guided meditation. Practice staying in the moment. When you work, focus on the tasks at hand. When you relax, just focus on that specific moment whether it is drinking a cup of tea, enjoying a sunset or playing with your children. 

Thanks for reading!

Mateja Petje 

 

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(Boca Greenhouse building off Yamato & US1)

 

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If you can’t come to our office right now after all Mateja Petje offers online and distance therapy! Don’t wait to get better on your own. We all need help sometimes. So why delay your happiness because in the final analysis your mental and physical health is priceless! However no one can motivate you to take the initiative to heal and make the first phone call but you. So please make the phone call all things considered you’re possibly in a dark place and need a fresh start!

 

 

 

The Happiness Program

The Happiness Program is also know as the Art of Living Part 1 course consequently it is an introduction to the world of meditation and stress free living. Here is a link to the Art of Living website https://www.artofliving.org/us-en/happiness-program

 

 

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I’m from Slovenia. It is a beautiful country! If you want to explore here is a terrific link. https://www.visitljubljana.com/en/visitors/

Mateja Petje Unhealthy Relationships

Mateja Petje Unhealthy Relationships

10 SIGNS YOU’RE IN AN UNHEALTHY OR TOXIC RELATIONSHIP

Mateja Petje Unhealthy Relationships-Prince Charming

Mateja Petje says unhealthy relationships mean for many of us, especially women, growing up in traditional Western cultures that we have a particular belief system. Most have been taught to believe that one day we will meet Prince Charming who will ride in on a white horse and save us from all our suffering and make us happy and whole again. This theme is very pervasive in Western culture including in our books and movies where it permeates everything. 

 

 

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Mateja Petje Unhealthy Relationships-Jerry McGuire & Pretty Woman

Think about movies such as Jerry McGuire (“You complete me”) or another great example is the movie “Pretty Woman”. In the past women didn’t have as many career choices that we have today, so often times they just had to be “happy” and put up with whatever life brought them.

 

Mateja Petje Unhealthy Relationships-Emotional, mental, financial & physical abuse 

That meant women would suffer emotional, mental, financial, and even physical abuse. Luckily, with women’s rights and movement up the career ladder things have changed for women yet on an emotional level we still expect for a man to “make us happy”. This is the core of our misconception.

 

 

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Mateja Petje Unhealthy Relationships -True for both genders

You might be a stay at home mom or dad or a professional or business owner, the issue remains the same. We all want love, understanding, and a shoulder to cry on. We have all read enough self help books, or even spent years in therapy, yet we are not getting the results.  And this goes for both men and women alike. Nowadays it’s not uncommon anymore for a woman to have a demanding career, while her husband stays home or works in a less demanding job. What I’m saying here is true for both genders.

 

Mateja Petje Unhealthy Relationships- Discussing suffering & abuse

Men usually just don’t share their suffering or even abuse from a spouse due to the stigma attached to it. This is a very difficult situation in terms of healing and moving forward. The fact that men are usually very closed off generally speaking works against the situation many times.

I have had my own share of failed relationships that stemmed from my own traumatic and dysfunctional childhood. I started dating when I was 15 because I thought this was the only way for me to feel loved and understood. Yet, because I never healed sufficiently, I kept attracting abusive, angry, and narcissistic men. I wonder if this rings a bell for you.

 

 

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Mateja Petje Unhealthy Relationships-Perception

Many of the clients I’ve worked with in my clinical practice have had similar struggles in relationships that have also led to clinical depression, anxiety and lack of self worth. There is a pressure within our society to find that one special man or woman who is your soulmate, otherwise you might be perceived that there is something wrong with you.

 

Self help books “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus”

Probably like most of you, I’ve read a ton of self-help books, including Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, and saw healers, coaches and therapists. I’ve learned a lot about myself and relationships which also led me to become a licensed marriage and family therapist. 

 

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Mateja Petje Imago Approach

In my professional practice I utilize something called the Imago Approach, a concept founded by Harville and Helen Hendrix. You can find several books which you might find helpful on my website www.NaturalStressManagement.com.

According to this theory, we attract partners in our life that remind us about our primary caregivers, who are generally our parents, and that includes both for their positive and negative traits. To give you an example, a woman who grew up in a home where her mother was very submissive, might find herself attracting domineering and controlling men like her father.

 

Mateja Petje Your subconscious and unconscious mind

However, don’t despair because with some professional help this CAN be overcome. The best approach that worked for me and my clients is to understand how your subconscious and unconscious mind works. Many times, when we grew up in a dysfunctional home, we made certain beliefs about love, relationships, feelings, money and so on. We might not even remember these beliefs yet we keep living our lives based on those beliefs. 

 

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Mateja Petje Utilizing NLP, Hypnosis & EMDR

If we want a different life, the key is to understand your mindset and your beliefs. Many times you’ll find you’re still living your life based on your parents or other authority figures beliefs. As children, we depended on others for our survival and our well being so we were not able to question those beliefs, consequently as ADULTS we can, and we MUST in order to change our lives for the better.

Over time I’ve found the techniques that work best in uncovering hidden beliefs include NLP, hypnosis, and EMDR. You can find more about them by going to my website www.NaturalStressManagement.com

 

Mateja Petje -How do you know?

Now, let’s talk some more about HOW DO YOU KNOW THAT YOU ARE IN UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP or even TOXIC relationship. I want you to ask yourself if any of these statements apply to you. By the way, an excellent book I often refer to is by Doreen Virtue, Assertiveness for Earth Angels. Some of these behaviors are more call for an improvement, while others could be too toxic and you might need to leave the relationship.

 

 

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Mateja Petje -Top 10 relationship deal breakers! 

 

It’s important to know what your DEAL BREAKERS are and what you can tolerate, however there are some that deserve our attention and I am just mentioning a few common ones that can destroy even a happy relationship.

  • 1. Interrupting – the person who continuously interrupts you is not interested in what you have to say. Very often, the person who constantly interrupts is frequently anxious or hyperactive (and that might be due to use of stimulants, such as coffee). You need to tell them something like: “Excuse me, I am not done talking yet” and be assertive.
  • 2. Constant correcting – this is even worse than interrupting. You constantly walk on eggshells. You need to be assertive and tell them that it feels more  like he or she is acting as your teacher and not your partner.
  • 3. Clingy/needy behavior. Again you need to tell them you are busy with projects and set proper boundaries.
  • 4. Stalking is even worse and in some cases you might need to get a restraining order if situation doesn’t improve.
  • 5. Guilt-tripping or manipulating people. You feel resentful and angry. It’s important to say NO and stick to it.

 

 

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Mateja Petje -Top 10 relationship deal breakers! (continued)

 

  • 6. Angerholics are addicted to being angry. This anger might be a result of upbringing, or also deep feelings of inferiority, disguised as anger. It’s important to get a professional help especially if the angry person continues to be in denial and doesn’t respond to common sense.
  • 7. Controlling behavior where typically controlling people act out immaturely or with anger when they feel that they are not in control.
  • 8. Addictions, including substance abuse reminds us it’s important to understand that any addiction needs to be treated by a professional. If you find yourself always pleading with the person suffering from addiction, most of the time it will not help as you continue enabling their behavior. It takes a lot of strength and courage to stay in a relationship with an addict. Until they get professional help, you are really in a relationship with a man or a woman who is hidden behind this cycle of addiction.

 

 

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Mateja Petje -Top 10 relationship deal breakers! (conclusion)

 

  • 9. Name calling is behavior that is verbally abusive. When it occurs you need to speak up because it’s not acceptable. Name calling can hurt even more sometimes than physical abuse can especially for someone who has a trusting, sensitive heart. For example a Highly Sensitive Person.
  • 10. Betrayal  A betrayer breaks your heart and your trust by engaging in hurtful behaviors such as infidelity, flirting with others, lying to you or exercising extremely poor judgement. In my professional practice I worked with many couples who had suffered infidelity and in some cases, if the relationship had a solid basis, they overcame infidelity issues. However it can takes years. It is always important to love yourself enough and be honest with yourself and not trying to forgive people at every cost. 

 

“4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse” according to Dr. John Gottman

I also wanted to share with you what Dr John Gottman calls “The 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse”. These are 4 main behavior patterns that can destroy a relationship or a marriage (see https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-the-antidotes/)

Criticism: A complaint focuses on a specific behavior, while a criticism attacks the character of the person.

Defensiveness: Defensiveness is defined as self-protection in the form of righteous indignation or innocent victim hood in attempt to ward off a perceived attack. Many people become defensive when they are being criticized, but the problem is that being defensive never helps to solve the problem at hand. Defensiveness is really a way of blaming your partner.

Contempt: Statements that come from a relative position of superiority. Some examples of displays of contempt include when a person uses sarcasm, cynicism, name-calling, eye rolling, sneering, mockery, and hostile humor. Contempt is the greatest predictor of divorce and must be eliminated.

Stonewalling: Stonewalling occurs when the listener withdraws from the interaction. The antidote is to practice physiological self-soothing. The first step of physiological self-soothing is to stop the conflict discussion. If you keep going, you’ll find yourself exploding at your partner or imploding (stonewalling), neither of which will get you anywhere. 

 

 

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Mateja Petje Unhealthy Relationships-vs Healthy Relationships 

 

Now that we talked about dysfunctional and unhealthy relationship patterns, let’s talk for a minute about key characteristics of a HEALTHY relationship. I like to say, that in a healthy relationship, there is INTER-DEPENDENCE as opposed to co-dependence. Both partners are equal in every aspect and focus on their strengths and work together as a team.

 

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Dr Gottman 7 key tips for a healthy relationship or marriage

https://www.yesmagazine.org/issues/what-happy-families-know/how-to-keep-love-going-strong

1. Emotionally intelligent couples know each other’s world. They know each other’s goals, worries, and hopes.
2. Fondness and admiration are two of the most crucial elements in a long-lasting romance. I suggest to my couples to keep a jar filled with positive statements of each other and remember positive things when things get tough..
3. Seeking partner’s affection and support and give it freely. It doesn’t always have to be a great sex. Affection is even more important.
4. Treating each other with respect even when you disagree.

5. Solve your solvable problems and let go of things you cannot solve at the moment or learn to compromise.

6. Overcome gridlock and “honor” your partners dreams.

7. Create shared meaning so Marriage can have an intentional sense of shared purpose

 

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Highly Sensitive People

HIGHLY SENSITIVE PEOPLE ARE EVERYWHERE

Highly Sensitive People! They’re everywhere! Have you been told you’re “too emotional” or “too needy?” Do you think more deeply about things and worry more than the average person? Do you prefer quiet environments? You’re not alone!

Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron Psychologist & Author

According to Elaine N. Aron, a psychologist and author, in her 1996 book, “The Highly Sensitive Person” Dr Aron discusses individuals with high measures of sensory processing sensitivity. Elaine N. Aron first developed and researched this term in early 1990’s. The results from her work was highly sensitive people were found to be quite common. With as many as one in five people found to possess traits consistent with those of highly sensitive people.

Highly sensitive people are 15% to 20% of the population

Many times Highly Sensitive People suffer from anxiety and depression which can turn into severe clinical depression if they don’t get professional help. They often try to please others and feel guilty when they are not able to meet their needs. Research also indicates that highly sensitive people account for 15% to 20% of the population, which makes it quite a large percentage of humanity. Yet we’ve often been led to believe that sensitivity is weakness.  

 

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Highly sensitive people & their career choices

Highly sensitive people also often choose careers that are definitely NOT typical. They are very sensitive to the environment and they prefer to work alone to avoid harsh criticism. That would include having to answer to a demanding boss! These careers might include musicians, interpreters (I was an interpreter), as well as people being “on call”, such as medical professionals. They all have one thing in common, they often feel misunderstood, alone, under appreciated and overworked. 

 

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Highly sensitive people & how they differ from the average person 

1. Highly sensitive people are easily overwhelmed.

Highly sensitive people get easily overwhelmed by their environment whether this represents other people or loved ones, as well as bright lights, noise, strong smells, loud music or sirens. Often they are light sleepers and they have struggled with insomnia due to worrying about what had happened during the day for example. They also tend to be analyzing everything.

2. Highly sensitive people feel guilty all the time.

Highly sensitive people who work in non-traditional jobs many times cannot see family or friends often and they feel guilty about it. They feel more than most people and therefore it’s not easy for them just to let it go. They feel bad when they miss a family dinner, birthday party or a social event. 

Highly sensitive people and planning schedules

Many times they are not able to make plans more than a week in advance and many even work on weekends. Now consider people who work a graveyard shift or interpreters. They typically might say there is no such thing as a weekend for them. When everyone celebrates, they need to work. They are also very conscientious, hard working, meticulous and detail-oriented.  

 

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3. Highly sensitive people need privacy.

They are often introverted and need time to think and reflect. Others may misunderstand their behavior as being “snooty” or “antisocial.” Many highly sensitive people have learned from young age that they need to keep their feelings and thoughts to themselves as they have been told that they were “weird” or “cry babies.” As children they were often seen as shy. They also prefer to exercise solo. Highly sensitive people tend to avoid team sports as they feel that everyone is watching their every move.

4. Highly sensitive people feel unappreciated.

Musicians are on the top of the list here. Music and art is generally considered an “extra curriculum.”  Many times they are not taken seriously as they don’t have a “real job.” Few people know how much work and dedication it takes to become a well known musician. Not everyone can be the next member of The Beatles! Think about bass players. The average music lover pays very little attention to bass and what it does for the music that they are listening to. Mostly, the lead singer and the guitarist are given the kudos. So they learn to stay in the background not getting the praise that they deserve.

 

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5. Highly sensitive people are more emotionally reactive as they feel more deeply.

Generally speaking, highly sensitive people have more empathy when their friends or even strangers are going through challenges. They feel everything on a deeper level and they are usually very intuitive. They make good social workers, teachers and counselors. However, they need to learn how to take better care of themselves as they are prone to professional burn out. This was one of the first things that I had experienced as a new counselor trying to do more than I could handle. This led to frequent colds and illnesses because the immune system gets compromised.

6. Highly sensitive people are used to hearing that they are too sensitive or take things too personal.

This is especially true of the Western culture that is focused on self-actualization and individualization (remember Maslow’s “Hierarchy of Needs”). In the US we believe the pharmaceutical industry can solve everything even a person’s temperament. If you study Eastern cultures, for example in Thailand and India, highly sensitive men are never teased, unlike in our North American culture. However in North American culture boys are taught from a young age that to show emotions is not “manly.”

7. Highly sensitive people are more prone to anxiety and depression (if they’ve had a lot of negative past experiences). 

 

 

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In my professional practice I’ve worked with hundreds of highly sensitive people. Many of them suffered some kind of trauma or abuse which may have scarred them for life. According to Dr Aron having a supportive environment can go a long way to protecting against this trauma & abuse. The other key too is working with a compassionate and trained professional. Parents of highly sensitive children especially need to realize that they have special needs that need to be considered such as explaining things in a non-judgmental way as opposed to using punishment.

8. Highly sensitive people avoid violent movies and TV shows.

Watching violence on TV or in the news can really upset them. Many highly sensitive people choose not to watch the news or violent movies as they feel everything deeply. It may disrupt their sleep as it can lead to violent nightmares.

9. Highly sensitive people are drawn to narcissists.

Since highly sensitive people have high levels of empathy, they often find themselves in relationships with narcissists, who either take advantage of  them or prey on what they perceive to be a weaker group.  Narcissists typically just care about themselves, their status and their image and they lack empathy. Just think about The Picture of Dorian Gray. Remember he fell in love with his own reflection.

10. Highly sensitive people take longer to make decisions.

They are more aware of details and nuances of the situation and weigh pros and cons and this is especially true if there is no right or wrong answer, such as in choosing a color to paint the room. This is because they are considering every possible outcome and they also don’t want to upset anybody. They tend to over analyze everything. 

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Highly sensitive people overview

Overall, highly sensitive people are still a minority even though with the influx of “new age” and renewed interest in spirituality,they are finding themselves in environments where they feel safe, such as in Reiki circles, meditation groups, or drumming circles where they feel that they can express themselves more freely.

Highly sensitive people uplifting helpful tips

1. Be careful when consuming stimulants.

Consuming too much caffeine can affect your digestion and make you jittery. Instead, try a cup of green tea.

2. You are not alone.

Many famous artists, musicians, teachers and philosophers were highly sensitive people. Use your intuition and ability to be creative to your advantage.

3. It’s okay to be an introvert.

In some cultures, like Asian cultures, being introvert is an advantage. Being introvert helps you to deeply understand not just yourself, but also others.

4. Empathy is an amazing quality

While having empathy can be painful at times, as you feel other people’s pain, it gives you insight and ability to be close to people. Professions such as social work, art, or teaching would be a great fit for you and it would give you an advantage.

5. Be selective when it comes to media

No need to overwhelm yourself with daily negative news. Instead, read inspiring books and make time for your friendships,and spend some time in nature which can be very soothing.  

 

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Valentine’s Day Mateja Petje

Valentine’s Day Mateja Petje

Happy Valentine’s Day Everyone!

Learn how to say no and love yourself by first setting healthy boundaries

Happy Valentine’s Day! LOVE is in the air. Are you fortunate enough to feel it? Unfortunately, many people continue to struggle in their relationships whether they are intimate, friendships or in simply maintaining a healthy relationship with your family members. Some might also settle for less than they deserve because they are scared to be alone or live a toxic and dysfunctional relationship. Many times staying in a particular comfort zone, even if you suffer, seems easier. 

 

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Honor yourself first for Valentine’s Day!

Before I worked on myself (for over 25 years now and the journey continues) I had difficulty saying NO to others because I was afraid that people would not like me anymore. Yes, I was a “people pleaser” until I got seriously ill from trying to keep the peace and please everyone. I worked with therapists and coaches to let go, forgive, and create healthier boundaries with others. Sometimes we need to detach and let go of people who, in spite of our efforts to improve the relationship, continuously do not honor our requests.
 
You might say it’s “easier said than done” however don’t despair. Follow some of the tips I have included below and start having more peaceful and harmonious relationships with others.  Everyday can be your “Valentines Day” Mateja Petje!

Being Assertive vs being aggressive  

In her book, Assertiveness for Earth Angels” Doreen Virtue (p. XXV) states “assertiveness means that you’re aware of your feelings and opinions and that you state them to yourself and others in a way that respects other people’s rights. An assertive person is kind, peaceful and gentle yet never apologizes for his or her feelings, because feelings are to be honored and respected.”

Here is a link to Doreeen Virtue’s book on Amazon

Assertiveness for Earth Angels: How to Be Loving Instead of Too Nice”

 

Many people confuse being assertive with being aggressive. Aggression is different from occasionally losing your temper, where you basically demand the other person to obey your rules and you don’t care about the other people’s needs or feelings.

For example, if you are in the habit to saying YES to every friend or social obligation, try prioritizing and only attend events that make you happy or nurture you. Yes do help your friends in their time of need, however be honest with them and you don’t even need to take time to explain. Just say that you need some time for you. How powerful is that!  

 

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Accept all you are, including your lesser strengths and imperfections 

Many of my clients also suffer from being a perfectionist which often stems from feeling unloved and believing that you need to be perfect to be loved. A daily exercise could be to look in the mirror and say to yourself “I love you. You are special and unique.” It can be challenging in the beginning, however it gets easier. See more on this in Louise Hay’s book “The Power is Within You.” We all have unique gifts and talents and you are no exception!

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Do self-care and nurturing activities DAILY 

It is very important that you create healthy daily habits. Not everyone wants to meditate, however if you can even set aside few minutes a day and just breathe or repeat an affirmationsuch as “All is Well in My World”. I also love this one from one of my favorite spiritual teachers, Thich Nhat Hanh, “Breathing in, calming. Breathing out smiling. Present moment – wonderful moment.”

In addition to that, take time for regular meals and exercise and movement. Going for a walk around the block will not only help you to stay fit, but also helps you to feel more at peace and experience more joy.  

 

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So this year, make a commitment to yourself that you will honor yourself first. Happy Valentines Day 2019 Mateja Petje!
 

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Natural Remedies Sleep Supplements

NATURAL REMEDIES & SLEEP SUPPLEMENTS 

Are you struggling with getting enough sleep? Maybe you’re able to fall asleep, but you keep waking up? Maybe it’s time to try Natural Remedies & Sleep Supplements. Many of my clients struggle with lack of sleep and poor sleep. Often times it’s due to intrusive and obsessive thoughts related to chronic anxiety and depression. Lack of sleep doesn’t only make us cranky, it also affects our productivity. It can lead to chronic illnesses due to compromised immune system.

Guided Meditation for Sleep 

I’ve suffered for years until I learned about meditation. Especially guided meditation which has been really helpful. For quite a long time now I’ve been listening to Michael Sealey. He specializes in Hypnosis, Hypnotherapy, Guided Meditation and Sleep Relaxation.

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Supplements for natural, non-medical and integrative medicine approach

In addition to guided meditation here are some supplements that you can take. I’ve been an advocate for a natural, non-medical and integrative medicine approach for years and wish I had this book before!

Dr. James Greenblatt recommends several different sleep remedies. 

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All dosages are estimates as everyone is different. Natural Remedies Sleep Supplements you may find quite useful.

1. Magnesium (“anti stress mineral”) 200-300 mg before bedtime.

2. Valerian (reduces anxiety while improving sleep) 300-500 mg before sleep. Possible side effects are headache, restlessness, sleeplessness and irregular heartbeat.

3. Inositol & 5-HTP Inositol is naturally produced by intestinal bacteria and helps transmit nerve signals and prevents buildup of fat in the liver. Research supports positive benefits for insomnia and OCD. Dosage 1 teaspoon at 8 pm (about 2.8 grams) and 1 teaspoon before bed.

5-HTP is an early form of the neurotransmitter serotonin that is changed to make melatonin. Dosage 50-200 mg 30-60 minutes before bed. DO NOT take if already taking anti-depressants such as Lexapro.

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4. Glycine Amino acid produced in the body and is considered an inhibitory neurotransmitter. It calms neurotransmitters so that they don’t fire rapidly. Dosage 3 grams 1 hour before bedtime.

5. GABA A neurotransmitter that helps brain cells calm down and become less excited.  Dosage 500-750 mg with a cup of water and drink half before bedtime. If you wake up during the night, drink the other half. Try 100-250 mg first and then increase the dosage.

6. Melotonin  A Hormone produced by the pineal gland that works with body’s built-in clock to regulate sleep and wake cycles. Your body needs mineral zinc to manufacture melotonin as well as Zinc plays a role in preventing depression.
Dosage: 1-3 mg before sleep.
Possible side effects are drowsiness, upset stomach and headaches.
 
*Resource: James M. Greenblatt, MD, Breakthrough Depression Solution, 2nd edition, Sunrise River Press, 2016 

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Mateja Petje’s shares Dr. Maya Sarkisyan’s sleep tips

Recently I attended a lecture by Dr. Maya Sarkisyan who also happens to be my functional medicine doctor. Here are a few more great tips from her for better sleep too. It’s important to note that “one size does not fit all.” It’s key to find the root cause for insomnia or poor sleep. Most often it’s stress, anxiety, and obsessive thinking. However it can also be hormonal changes during the menopause (as in my case) or even mold & allergies.

Here are a few of her suggestions for better sleep

  • Move electronics out of your bedroom. Shut down all the screens. Blue light is very stressful for your nervous system. Make sure you have filters or software on your electronic devices to get rid of blue light. Put your phone on airplane mode, and turn it face down. 
  • Keep the temperature cooler during the night than through the day. The best sleep temperature is between 65 and 72 degrees.
  • At least two hours before bedtime stop eating anything and don’t drink alcohol. The best it to have your last bite before 7pm, and have only water or herbal tea after. 

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  • Clean up your environment. It is much better to sleep in a clean room knowing that in the morning you will wake up to an organized space.
  • Relax with a book (instead of TV)  or journal about the day and write down tasks for tomorrow
  • Get blackout curtains and block all the light sources you can. Get your bedroom as dark as possible. 
  • If you cannot fall asleep for 30 min – get up, go into another room, have dim lighting only and repeat some of your routines. After 15 minutes you can then go back to bed and try to fall asleep again. 
  • Take at least 10 minutes to practice mindful relaxation and/or spiritual practices. Usually, spiritual practices take longer. Examples – Prayer, Meditation, Breathing, Qigong. and practice gratitude. 

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Mateja Petje shares more Natural Remedies Sleep Supplements tips too

Practicing some form of meditation, and spending time in nature, as well as daily exercise will make you feel better. It will also help you get more restful sleep. If you are unable to shake off intrusive thoughts, I also recommend journaling. If the problem persists, schedule time with a licensed clinician who will help you uncover other reasons for lack of sleep.

I recommend talking to a Naturopath or medical doctor especially if you are already taking medication as some of it may interfere. So in the end don’t forget natural remedies & sleep supplements. Wishing you a restful and peaceful night sleep! 

 

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