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“Strategies For Toxic People” exist but do YOU have them? Many of us have experienced working at toxic workplaces or having to deal with toxic people. But do you have the tools you need to blossom and flourish? Perhaps you’re dealing with this very issue right now!

 

Often times this also includes our closest family members! While it’s easier to disconnect and minimize contact with a relative or stranger, it’s much more difficult when the toxic person is your boss or your partner or a family member. 

 

 

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However, please don’t despair. There are some strategies that work to minimize emotional upset caused by having to deal with toxic people on a daily basis.

 

Strategies For Toxic People- Energy Vampires

 

In one of my previous articles entitled 5 Tips for Dealing with Difficult People”, I discussed strategies for dealing with certain types of difficult people. Such as the “dictators” and “know it all’s” of this world. In this article, I focus on people who can be also known as verbally abusive or “energy vampires.” 

 

 

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Strategies For Toxic People- Family Members

 

Throughout my career and personal life I have had to deal with toxic people. This started with my own family, and especially my mom. She was verbally, physically, and emotionally abusive. When you’re a child and this occurs you feel powerless. Your life depends on your parents, and therefore, many times you are not able to express your true feelings, such as anger.

 

Instead, one develops defense mechanisms just to survive. My way of surviving a toxic upbringing was to spend many hours in my room. I spent that time journaling, listening to music, spending time with my friends, and dating a lot. This was because I never felt loved or secure for that matter.

 

This also made me fearful of those in authority and consequently, I became a “people pleaser”. This was out of fear of being rejected. I was put up with abusive bosses out of fear of losing a job. As a result I developed chronic anxiety and gastrointestinal issues.

 

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Strategies For Toxic People- At work

 

The final wake-up call was in the Fall of 2012. My wake up call was after a scary episode of being diagnosed with acute gastritis. This was after working at yet another toxic workplace. So I decided it was time for a change. Now I began to work for myself full time. It felt like jumping from a plane without a parachute. You may understand what that feels like! Yes I had no savings or a plan, but I just knew I would get seriously ill if I didn’t take care of myself.

 

Luckily my fiance (now my husband) was there for me to make this important decision. He continues to support me. The journey towards self-love and assertiveness was long. It was often painful at times, but it was well worth it. Today, I’m able to share this with my clients and help them create healthier boundaries with others. 

“Poison People” by Katherine Schreiber

 

Recently, I came across a powerful article on this topic in Psychology Today titled, Poison People,” by Katherine Schreiber. She discusses four major strategies to handle toxic people I have included below.

 

Four Strategies For Toxic People

 

Control Your Exposure

 

If nothing else, try to minimize your contact. Limit the time you spend together if it’s a family member. Maybe even schedule an event so that you don’t have to overstay. If the person is your boss, only spend time as needed. If you can, ask to be transferred to a different department.

 

Manage Your Reactivity

 

We cannot change others, however, we can change how we react. Learn meditation and stress relief techniques. Excuse yourself and go to the bathroom to do some deep breathing. You may need to tell the person you will be happy to talk to them when they are calmer.

 

Don’t Explain

 

There is no use in trying to explain yourself as the other person is the one who is refusing to listen. Simply say that you are busy at the moment, without explanation.

 

Immunize Yourself

 

Get to know people first before making any major decisions. In addition pay attention to non-verbal cues and body language because it is vital. The goal at work is to get away from toxic people. But in our personal lives, we are more prone perhaps to invite them in. This is because many times they have appealing traits such as confidence and charm.

 

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We need to be mindful when we start blaming ourselves at times. We can’t continue making excuses for toxic people. It’s key to set healthy boundaries right from the beginning. We deserve to be treated with respect. Sometimes that may even mean leaving a toxic job or relationship.

 

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There are many amazing destinations in this world. One is Slovenia my home country. I came across this link to a website where they have a web page discussing Triglav Mountain. My company years ago began under the inspiration of Triglav Mountain. It’s even in my business name!

 

Here is the article & link

 

Mt Triglav Top choice mountain in Triglav National Park

 

“The 2864m limestone peak called Triglav (Three Heads) has been a source of inspiration and an object of devotion for Slovenes for more than a millennium – it even appears on the country’s flag. The early Slavs believed the mountain to be the home of a three-headed deity who ruled the sky, the earth and the underworld.”

 

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Lonely Planet.com article about Mt Triglav located in Slovenia

 

Donacka Mountain- Landmark in Slovenia

 

 

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Donacka Mountain

“Between Boč and Macelj mountain lies Donačka mountain  (882 m), which got her name after the church st. Donat (511 m), origin from 18. century, lying on the sunny side of the mountain. Donačka mountain is unique on her steep, cone shape and location on the east border of Alpine world.

 

Her specialty is variety of vegetation. On the rocky walls, on sunny side of mountain, is location of “juvanov netresk”,endemit.” Here is a link to this wonderful place!

 

 

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Holistic Psychotherapist Defined

 

What is “Holistic”?

 

Exploring Alternative Medicine

 

This Blog is titled “Holistic Psychotherapist Defined”. So just what does it mean when we say “Holistic”? How do we define the term “Holistic” as it relates to the medical field? Nowadays, many practitioners, including myself, define themselves as “holistic”. But there seems to be some confusion and lack of understanding as to what this term actually means. You might agree with me this is pretty fuzzy.

 

According to Wikipedia, “The holistic concept in medical practice, which is distinct from the concept in the alternative medicine, upholds that all aspects of people’s needs including psychological, physical and social should be taken into account and seen as a whole. A 2007 study said the concept was alive and well in general medicine in Sweden. This is great news!

 

 

Holistic Psychotherapist Defined- Alternative Medicine

 

Some practitioners of holistic medicine use alternative medicine exclusively. Although sometimes holistic treatment can simply mean that a physician takes into account of all of a person’s circumstances in giving treatment. Sometimes when alternative medicine is mixed with mainstream medicine the result is called “holistic” medicine. Though this is more commonly termed integrative medicine.

 

So to know definitively you really have to take time to slow down and ask questions to clarify. For instance, according to the American Holistic Medical Association, it is believed that the spiritual element should also be taken into account when assessing a person’s overall well-being.[4]”

 

 

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Holistic Psychotherapist- References

 

2) American Cancer Society. January 2013. Retrieved September 2013.

 

3) Strandberg, Eva; Ovhed, Ingvar; Borgquist, Lars; Wilhelmsson, Susan (2007). “The perceived meaning of a (w)holistic view among general practitioners and district nurses in Swedish primary care: A qualitative study”. BMC Family Practice 8: 8. doi:10.1186/1471-2296-8-8. PMC 1828160. PMID 17346340.4) American Holistic Medical Association

 

 

 

Holistic Psychotherapist Defined- Options

 

I’ve been interested in alternative and holistic medicine for the last 15 years. Consequently I’ve also adopted spiritual practices in my personal life. Largely the reason this happened is fascinating and very common. This occurred when I was getting my Master’s Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. Simultaneously, I was also dealing with some personal challenges in my life. 

 

 

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Fortunately I started meditating and learning about alternative approaches and techniques. I also received training in clinical hypnosis and guided meditation. This lead me to conclude that I was achieving great success with my clients. They suffered from anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and trauma. Additionally I studied Zen and other forms of meditation. Then I started teaching my clients simple breathing techniques with great success.

 

At the same span of time I was also struggling from depression and anxiety. Which I’ve experienced all my life. It’s partially genetic and partially due to abuse and trauma I suffered ever since I was 15 years old.  This abuse last until I was almost 25 years old. 

 

 

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Holistic Psychotherapist Defined- Options(cont.)

 

This abuse and trauma also occurred in my intimate relationships with men. Traditional therapy, even though helpful, has its limitations. I’m happy to report that I finally had a break-through. This was after I started using alternative approaches in addition to seeing a psychotherapist. We can talk more about that later.

 

Frankly, I’m determined to find ways to help myself and my clients without the need to rely on medication. Medication can be life saving in some instances, such as in the case of bi-polar disorder or during the initial course of treatment.

 

However often times clients are given prescriptions by their primary care physicians who don’t have in-depth knowledge about psychiatric disorders. As a result there are always some type of side effects. This might include for example having trouble reaching an orgasm! So there is much to consider. 

 

 

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Holistic Psychotherapist Defined- Overview

 

You see I always encourage my clients to get properly evaluated by a psychiatrist. It is also recommended that clients see a psychotherapist such as licensed marriage and family therapist such as myself. As well as a licensed mental health counselor or a licensed clinical social worker. Of course the downside for taking medication is it just alleviates the symptoms. But it doesn’t deal with the root causes of depression or anxiety.

 

My company, Holistic Coaching International as well as my website www.NaturalStressManagement.com was created to help! As an example you can access my “Stress to Bliss” Guide which focuses on the whole person. This is in terms of mind, body, emotion and spirit for identifying both issues and solutions naturally.

 

For example, when I see a client who is suffering from anxiety and is stressed out or overwhelmed, I assess their lifestyle in general. This includes several areas of their life such as their nutrition, exercise, social support, family life, career and finances. 

 

 

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Holistic Psychotherapist Defined- Overview (Cont.)

 

Research shows that many chronic medical illnesses, such as diabetes, and high blood pressure are linked to experiencing chronic stress. Which often times is found to be a result of lacking the necessary coping skills.

 

In addiition it is being unaware that your health is more than just your physical health. In other words, it is not enough just to have regular check-ups and take the necessary supplements. It is just as equally important to have emotional and mental health. Including having the tools and coping skills to deal with life’s stresses in the environment.

 

When I work with clients, we explore the root causes for anxiety and depression. We do this by utilizing traditional psychotherapy. As an example, this might be exploring their family-of-origin dynamics. Alternatively, it might be exploring their belief system and their values as well.

 

We also discuss their lifestyle. Recommendations are completed based on their individual experiences and symptoms. Sometimes we discuss alternative approaches, such as going to a yoga class. We might also discuss getting a massage or going to a meditation class.

 

 

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Holistic Psychotherapist Defined- Techniques

 

I utilize several alternative and complimentary medicine approaches in my work with clients. This includes, for example, clinical hypnosis and guided meditation. Also it could include emotional freedom technique, also known as “tapping”. In addition to that I might utilize Neuro-linguistic programming as well. I also collaborate with other holistic practitioners. This might be, as an example, fitness experts, health coaches and massage therapists. All of this of course is in each client’s best interests.

 

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Mateja Petje- Blog Resources

 

In an effort to keep you well informed I’ve included more quick links to my other Blog posts. While you’re learning more about Holistic Psychotherapy these specific Blog links will assist you with more information. So whether you want to diagnose common symptoms or just absorb general knowledge to educate yourself you will locate it in the Blog section… They will help you understand better. The more you know the better off you will be.

 

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I’m very excited to share with you I have opened my own new office! I’m in the same building I’ve been in for years. However this is my office. It means so much to me. I have begun to make it my own. What that means to my clients is they will have a safe & very comfortable place to meet with me. I want my clients to be as comfortable as possible so they can have the best experience possible. Most often my clients are in “pain” so I want an environment that puts them at ease.

 

My Slovenian Roots


It is very important in these times to remember something. I’m originally from Europe. I don’t necessarily think the same way as typical Americans do. Europeans have a different prospective on things. Now my husband is an American. I think this is a plus for you.

I believe I can offer you a different prospective on things you might find helpful. Immigrants for example are having a very difficult time generally speaking in the world today. These added stressors are potentially something I can help with. If you feel I can be of service to you in this area please reach out to me.

 

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14 Best Things to do in Ljubljana, Slovenia


Lovely Ljubljana…one of our new favorite cities in Europe. This town really made a nice impression on us. It’s colorful, it’s lively, it’s compact, it’s very photogenic, and there are more dragons here than museums. This is the kind of city where it is simply fun to stroll and explore without a long list of attractions to visit. Even so …

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Watching for Signs

 

Why Do Your Feel Down?

 

If you are seeking answers to why you feel depressed or blue you need to read my blog. It’s called “Mateja Petje Clinical Depression” Are you feeling blue? Let’s talk about this Blog I’ve published here that you’re reading. I’ve also included information about recognizing seven signs of clinical depression. We all get sad or down. However, there is a difference when somebody is feeling stressed out or depressed because of a job loss, relationship troubles or illness. It CAN lead to clinical depression.

 

Mateja Petje Clinical Depression Signs

 

1. Loss of appetite or overeating

 

2. Insomnia, waking up

 

3. Obsessive and intrusive thoughts and worrying

 

4. Feelings of hopelessness or helplessness

 

5. Not participating at social activities that one liked before

 

6. Suicidal thoughts/ideations

 

7. Substance abuse or excessive shopping/gambling etc.

 

*These symptoms need to last a minimum of 2 weeks to be able to be properly diagnosed.

 

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Seven Clinical Depression Signs Blog

 

In the blog “Mateja Petje Clinical Depression” I wrote about the topic of Depression. More specifically another blog I wrote about recognizing the different signs of Depression. That Blog title is called “Seven Clinical Depression Signs”. To make it easier I’ve included a link directly to that Blog too so you can access that information as well.

 

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Victim Roles

 

Today I wanted to share with you something that I’ve been struggling with all my life. The good news is I had a breakthrough after talking to a wise friend. For years I’ve worked with therapists, healers and coaches to release trauma from the past and my “victim” role.

 

You see a wise friend told me how to get more into depth. He told me to start taking full responsibility for my feelings, thoughts, behaviors and actions. Also to take full responsibility as well for my choices and who I let into my inner space.

 

The “Conditioned Self”

 

I’m excited to be able to finally meet my real “Authentic Self”. One that is based on pure love, compassion, joy and peace. This is as opposed to relying on projections and roles from my “Conditioned Self”. (As described by my mentor Shelley Riutta) that is based on guilt, anger, fear and other negative emotions. As well as expectations and dependence on other people. 

 

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Your “Authentic Selves”

 

As I got more into depth and started taking full responsibility I really made progress. That also includes doing my baby steps. Catching myself as often as I can when I am in my “Conditioned Self”. This is a very difficult thing to do but I was making progress.

 

I’m already a gifted healer and holistic psychotherapist. Consequently I believe very strongly that it is so important to continue healing ourselves! This is especially true for people in the healing and medical health field. In this way I will be able to help my clients in even more profound and more AUTHENTIC ways. There is no shame! We are all dealing with universal human needs and barriers on our way to getting to know our real “Authentic Selves“. 

 

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Trauma Triggers

 

Now you might say this is all good and well but these things actually happened. The thing is that we see everything based on our past experiences with other people, events and circumstances. If we didn’t have an emotional attachment to a person or event that happened in our past, we wouldn’t have such a strong emotional reaction. That reaction acts as a “trigger” to a current situation. This means that we have not fully healed the situation. This also includes our emotional response to it.

 

This is the basis of my work whether I work with couples or individuals. One of my approaches to healing is using Imago (to read about Imago check out my website). If we didn’t have attachment to the past we would not feel pain, anger, rejection or whatever we are feeling. 

 

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Clients Testimonial utilizing Imago Approach

 

“I was extremely pleased with the services that I have received by this provider. Not only that she is very knowledgeable but she is very compassionate and genuine. She listens well and responded to all my questions. My girlfriend and I had a lot of problems due to our divorce and we both had baggage from our previous relationships. We also lost connection and she was able to get us back on track. Her Imago approach really works! I highly recommend her.” by STEVE November 29, 2012 Consumer Feedback www.Wellness.com

 

The Imago Theory

 

I want to discuss Imago Theory in more detail. Lets say for example, if a woman was abused in her childhood or past romantic relationships. If she hasn’t healed the past event and emotional attachment to it, she will unconsciously repeat the same scenario. She will do this in not just intimate relationships but also platonic relationships. This is whether business or personal. More importantly she will continue carrying this pattern onto her children or any future relationships. 

 

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In addition, if she is in a relationship with a man, who had similar patterns of being a”victim” of the situation, they will keep “triggering” each other’s wounds. They will continue this pattern until they both take full responsibility for their thoughts, beliefs, actions, and choices.

 

This is a good time to share a blog I wrote on the subject of “Relationships”. Here is a link to that blog called

 

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Mateja Petje Clinical Depression- Choices

 

Remember, no matter what, you always have a choice. Even women or men that are abused in a relationships still have a choice which is not easy, but they CAN leave the relationship and many times a professional is needed to help them build back their self-esteem and self-love to be able to make that step. Finances might get in the way, and most people prefer to remain in the comfort zone instead of being vulnerable and looking deeply into themselves. 

 

 

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Triglav is the highest mountain in Slovenia and the highest peak of the Julian Alps! I named my company after Triglav Mountain.

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Holistic Psychotherapist * Trauma Informed Therapist * Life Coach

 

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    Holistic Psychotherapy Mateja Petje- Blogs

     

    At this point it might be beneficial for you to visit other articles & Blogs online I’ve written. They discuss specifically the Holistic Psychotherapy services I provide. Here are some quick links to get you to those references.

     

    Click to read this blog about NLP. You might find it very beneficial.

     

    “Neuro-Linguistic Programming”

     

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Mateja Petje PTSD Diagnosis

 

My name is Mateja Petje. Welcome to my blog about PTSD & its diagnosis. The title of this particular blog is called “Mateja Petje PTSD Diagnosis”. Now the reason I wrote this blog is there are several key points specifically about PTSD I want to make here. Additionally, I want to discuss exactly what it means to suffer with PTSD itself.

 

Also I want to discuss how you can get diagnosed with PTSD as well. There are several other reasons I wrote this blog too. First, there are so many war veterans diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) that really need our help. Then, there is the above average incidents of shootings. Specifically I’m referring to the recent shooting close to my home, in Parkland, Fl. So I decided to write this article. One reason of course also was in order to bring some clarity as to what PTSD is and also to offer some suggestions as to how it can be treated.

 

Mateja Petje PTSD Diagnosis- Abuse

 

Please understand that there is no one correct treatment. I base this conclusion on my own personal experience of having suffered significant trauma which was a result of all types of abuse. This occurred during my childhood and adolescence and even later on in my adult life. For example, I have experienced trauma related to being in abusive relationships. Frankly, I had experienced nightmares and some flashbacks for as long as I can remember.

 

 

Mateja Petje PTSD Diagnosis- Defined

 

In 2013, the American Psychiatric Association revised the PTSD diagnostic criteria in the fifth edition of its Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5; 1). PTSD is included in a new category in DSM-5, Trauma- and Stressor-Related Disorders. Full copyrighted criteria are available from the American Psychiatric Association (1). Here I am just listing a few.

 

 

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Mateja Petje PTSD Diagnosis- Help

 

Remember the information in this blog should serve as a guideline. Nonetheless, I strongly recommend that if you feel that you suffer from PTSD that you consult a licensed clinician or a psychologist.

 

To be diagnosed with PTSD, the person was exposed to: death, threatened death, actual or threatened serious injury, or actual or threatened sexual violence, or similar, including any kind of abuse or domestic violence, experiencing it directly or indirectly by observing it.

 

Typical symptoms include: nightmares, flashbacks, emotional distress, and intrusive thoughts. For example, for years following the abuse, I would have continued nightmares and I also developed sensitivity to criticism and aversion to anybody talking loudly. I would experience physical sensations, such as vomiting or upset stomach. Basically, I developed a trigger and in this case it was a loud voice.

 

 

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Mateja Petje PTSD Diagnosis- Help (cont.)

 

Another example, would be in the case of people that were exposed to violence. This would include shootings and guns, where they develop emotional distress with ANY loud noises that resemble a gun shot. It can take years to heal and to not experience emotional distress when the trigger presents itself.

 

For a person to meet the criteria for PTSD, the symptoms need to last at least a month and they also experience distress and functional impairment in several key areas of life such as social and occupational.

 

Link to the Veterans Affairs website

 

To learn more about PTSD here is a link to the Veterans Affairs website Click here for PTSD Overview VA website 

 

 

Treat yourself and take care of yourself!

 

Never be afraid of seeking help.

 

I hope this was helpful to you. Please don’t suffer in silence. There is no shame in seeking help. Feel free to schedule a confidential phone consultation 561-299-1028

 

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So what can we do about it?

 

1.  Most of all know that you are not alone! What helped me most is to seek support of friends who normalized my feelings. In addition that what I was experiencing was not the norm. My boyfriend’s family was nothing like my own where I experienced joy and laughter. Not abuse and tension which was the norm in my family when I was an adolescent.

 

2.  I also worked with several therapists, coaches, and healers. This was where I learned how to identify my triggers and how to manage my emotions and “rewrite my story”. One approach that was helpful with a pervasive memory of being severely beaten was finding a therapist that was trained in EMDR. After a few sessions I was able to tell my story without crying and I was able to emotionally detach from the incident. 

 

 

 

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Mateja Petje PTSD Diagnosis- Treatment (cont.)

 

However, the approach that finally started to help me in stopping intrusive and limiting thoughts and beliefs is when I learned and received training in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). In essence, this approach focuses on the linguistic and how we store and process memories.

 

I have been able to start understanding that my negative programming was due to being exposed to abuse and trauma that colored my world. See I saw the world as a threat and subconsciously sought experiences and people that confirmed that my world was not a safe place and that people cannot be trusted. Only when I started changing my beliefs did my life and my well-being begin to improve. 

 

 

PTSD- Support Group

 

3.    Join a support groupOther people who have gone through similar experiences can not only offer validation but you will also feel understood. Not many people (including some therapists) really understood why I was not able to get better. This is in spite of years of therapy and medication. Medication can be helpful in the initial stages, but key is to understand the root causes and how your beliefs and thoughts contribute to the disorder.

 

4.     Do journaling. When we are overwhelmed with thoughts it’s key that we find healthy ways to manage them and get them out of our head.

 

5.     Learn stress management and breathing techniques. I think meditation literally saved my life. I studied different modalities including mindfulness, zen, guided meditation and meditation based on mantra. See the Art of Living Foundation. I was able to heal insomnia and significantly reduce anxiety and depression symptoms.  

 

Mateja Petje Treating Complex PTSD

 

My Ideal Clients

 

I want to talk for a moment about who is an ideal client for me. It is important to receive the proper care for your situation. So let me explain in more detail my specialty.

 

My ideal clients are adults who had experienced childhood abuse, trauma, challenging relationships, depression, and anxiety. This still affects their lives. The medical term for this is now known as “Complex PTSD“. My philosophy is to equip my clients with top behavioral techniques. They can use these techniques to manage stress and daily challenges.

 

My motto is “From victimhood to reclaiming your Authentic Self.” To help my clients even further I assist them in their efforts to reach effective, short term goals. I do this by providing a safe, healing place for my clients to share their concerns. I work with adults only in individual sessions.

 

My approach is humanistic and holistic and is based on Cognitive-Behavioral and Solution Focused treatments.

 

Read “Post Traumatic Stress Disorder” Blog by Mateja Petje

 

In the past I wrote a blog specifically about Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. “Post Traumatic Stress Disorder” Blog by Mateja Petje. I think the information within that blog would be very helpful to you. So I have provided a link so you can access that particular blog.

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Holistic Psychotherapy Blog Resources

 

I constantly publish different Blogs on various topics you might find beneficial. What I’ve done on this particular web page is to include some quick links to Blogs you should read. These are Blogs I’ve authored that address exactly the topics you’re exploring. Whether that is PTSD, or PTSD diagnosis, trauma, anxiety, depression, tapping, EFT, energy medicine, stress or for example hiring a Life Coach.

 

 

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If you can’t come to our office right now after all Mateja Petje offers online and distance therapy! Also known as Telemedicine. Don’t wait to get better on your own. We all need help sometimes. So why delay your happiness because in the final analysis your mental and physical health is priceless! However no one can motivate you to take the initiative to heal and make the first phone call but you. So please make the phone call all things considered you’re possibly in a dark place and need a fresh start! 

 

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Mother’s Day

 

Celebrate Moms Influence

 

Lifelong Relationship

 

Insights, experiences and lessons

 

This blog is about Celebrating Mothers everywhere. But it’s also about the often times complicated family dynamic that exists as well. But of course it is more specifically about my own personal family story. “Mateja Petje Mother’s Day” Blog is about insights, experiences and some priceless lessons I’ve learned in my own life. For example research shows Mothers play a huge, pivotal role in our lives. This is especially true when it comes to daughters.

 

Mateja Petje Mother’s Day

 

In an ideal world, daughters receive love, attention, support, and wisdom from their moms. This way it enables them to go into the world and follow their dreams and passions. But, unfortunately the world as we know is not perfect, so things don’t always go as planned.

 

 

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Mothers’ Positive Influences

 

Fortunately, according to recent research, as discussed in the article in Psychology Today, most adults report positive relationships with their mothers. For example, 88% of adults say their mother has had a positive influence on them. In addition 92% say their current relationship with their mother is positive. I’m curious what your opinion is. How do these numbers appear if we use you as an example? Think about it.

 

 

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Still, in my clinical practice, these numbers tend to be quite different. Many women, young or old, report having strained relationships with their mothers. Quite often, they suffer from low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, and unfulfilled relationships. They blame themselves for not knowing what went wrong and why they cannot form a lasting loving relationship with a man. Many times they did not have a good role model as to what constitutes a healthy and loving relationship or a marriage.

 

Mateja Petje Mother’s Day- Bonds

 

So the bond between mothers and daughters is very complex. The bond starts to already develop during pregnancy. Research shows that even fetuses can identify when their mom is stressed and therefore stress can indirectly affect the child’s emotional blue-print. This is a fascinating area of research I personally watch closely. Honestly, I believe I’ve experienced this in my own life.

 

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Mateja Petje Mother’s Day- Miami U

 

When I was pursuing my Master’s Degree at the University of Miami, I wrote my best essay. It was on the importance of a secure attachment with parents, and especially mothers. Those who are lucky enough get this kind of secure attachment. However, many others who are not so lucky suffer due to insecure and avoidance attachment. This is characterized by fear, anxiety and feelings of abandonment.

 

Unfortunately, my experience was similar to many other daughters growing up in dysfunctional families. My family on my mother’s side has experienced generations of alcoholism and violence. Men tend to be violent and use alcohol as a coping mechanism. Many times this was an escape from mental and emotional illnesses, including PTSD. My grandfather suffered from PTSD and in the end it cost him his life. 

 

 

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Mateja Petje Mother’s Day- Coming to America


My mom was not an alcoholic. But she never healed from her own trauma. Instead she lashed out mainly at me. In my tender teen years, I was abused physically, emotionally and mentally. She never sought help for herself.  This was just not something you did in her day. Seeking help for emotional and mental issues is still stigmatized even to this day.

 

To finally heal from Trauma I had to physically move across the ocean from Slovenia. Now imagine trading places with me. What if you had to move to the US to finally heal from your trauma. You see I’m the first in my family who “broke the cycle”. Frankly, I decided I didn’t want to live this kind of life moreover that I also deserve a healthy, loving relationship. In therapy I learned a lot about myself. I learned for example why I developed Clinical Depression. My healing journey is long and it’s an ongoing process.

 

Mateja Petje Mother’s Day- Blessing

 

At the same time, it was also a blessing in disguise as I have been able to help hundreds of women to heal from abuse, trauma, difficult relationships, low self-esteem and the . The women I’ve worked with now have confidence, improved relationships and they have made peace with the past. 

 

 

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Mateja Petje Mother’s Day- Tips


1.    Forgive your mom and let go. Write a letter to your mom expressing everything and then burn it. You are doing this for your sake so that you don’t carry this burden.

 

2.    Think about all the good stuff. Don’t always dwell on the bad stuff. One of my fondest memories is when my mom brought me breakfast in bed on Saturdays.

 

3.    Be your own best parent. Think about what you have always needed from your mom but never got it. Pamper yourself.

 

4.    Remember that your mom is just doing the best that she can. She learned all she knows from her mother.

 

5.    When your mom starts with her “usual” nagging, or she is being negative or critical, just gently disengage. Set the boundaries and practice “tough love”.

 

Thank you for reading!

 

 

Best wishes!


Many times my clients don’t seek help until they are in crisis. Why wait this long and suffer? Call for a complimentary session today at 561-299-1028.

 

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