Affirmations your vocabulary needs on a daily basis could do you a world of good! Are you ready for more good in your life? See most of us have grown up in somewhat dysfunctional or even toxic environment. Our parents and caregivers did the best they could, frankly though often times their upbringing was even more unhealthy than ours!
So it’s no wonder they didn’t know how to show love and affection. This is something unfortunately that is all too present.
In my family legacy, there were generations of negative programming and inability to deal with life stressors in healthy ways. For the most part, family members resorted to violence and alcoholism. My grandfather, whom I have never met, was no exception.
He fought in the Second World War and of course this will probably come as no surprise but he also suffered from PTSD. My mom had her own burdens. For example she never learned how to deal with her own feelings of anger and as a result, she became a “rageaholic” herself.
Affirmations your vocabulary needs continued
I made it my mission to find ways to heal myself from the effects of trauma, abuse, chronic anxiety and chronic depression. In addition I worked with therapists, coaches, healers, and alternative medicine practitioners. However I found out that I have centuries of negative programming on my cellular level. When my mom was pregnant with me she was very insecure and jealous.
Research shows that even a fetus can experience and feel negative energy vibrations. Therefore, I was born with 70% negative programming. It’s been a long journey towards healing and self-love. In reality this is an ongoing journey.
What helped me most after I reached status quo with traditional therapy is learning about hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). If we are able to change our thoughts, our beliefs, and our words, we can heal even from most devastating life experiences and create a new life for ourselves.
I’m living proof and so are hundreds of my clients that I’ve helped to heal and in the end finally live the lives that they deserve to live!
Neuro-Linguistic Programming
I wrote about NLP in several of my articles. Today I want to focus on some of the most important high energy words those discussed by my teacher and mentor, Dr. Yvonne Oswald. Dr Oswald writes about this in her book “Every Word has Its Power.”
According to Dr. Oswald, in order to be happy and successful, we need to adopt top energy words. Those words that have high energy vibration. I’m just listing 10 for the purpose of this article.
However I suggest you incorporate them as much as possible in your daily vocabulary. Since you probably have had years of negative programming and negative self-talk. You need to be patient with yourself. It takes time to replace negative programming.
Catch yourself as often as you can. The key is to listen to your body and emotions. Write the words below on sticky notes and place them in the car, your bathroom mirror and anywhere you can see them on a daily basis. Maybe you can even create a vision board using these words. Combine them with affirmations. Some examples of those are listed below.
Affirmations your vocabulary needs
ACHIEVE(I am proud of my achievements.)
BELIEVE(I believe in myself no matter what.)
HARMONY(My relationships are harmonious).
DREAM(I am getting closer to my dreams every day).
RELEASE(I release everything that is not serving me.)
SEXY (I am sexy and beautiful.)
SMART(I am smart and confident.)
SUCCESS (Success comes easily to me).
THANKS(I give thanks to my Divine Power for all the good things in my life)
UNIQUE(I am unique and my gifts matter.)
Wishing you joy and success on your journey to better health, happiness, and success. It’s your divine right.
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10 Best Places to Visit in Slovenia
I found this gem! It is a YouTube video 10 best places in Slovenia to visit, This is excellent! Why? I grew up in Slovenia & then moved to America.
Here are the places they visit and my hometown is # 1 on the list! 10. Maribor 9. Koper 8. Kranjska Gora 7. Celje 6. Ptuj 5. Piran 4. Postojna 3. Triglav National Park 2. Lake Bled 1. Ljubljana
“Here is the Blog that goes with the YouTube video “10 Best Places to Visit in Slovenia. Slovenia is a scenic country with a fantastic location in the heart of Europe. The nation is surrounded by the Eastern Alps, the Adriatic Sea, the Balkans, Italy, Croatia and Hungary, making it accessible from a range of European locations. Planning a trip to Slovenia is an opportunity to see a variety of destinations that include vibrant cities, charming villages, snow-capped mountains and scenic beaches. On your next getaway, aim to see as many of the best places to visit in Slovenia as your schedule will allow.”
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Strategies for toxic people exist but do YOU have them? Many of us have experienced working at toxic workplaces or having to deal with toxic people. But do you have the tools you need to blossom and flourish? Perhaps you’re dealing with this very issue right now!
Often times this also includes our closest family members! While it’s easier to disconnect and minimize contact with a relative or stranger, it’s much more difficult when the toxic person is your boss or your partner or a family member.
However, please don’t despair. There are some strategies that work to minimize emotional upset caused by having to deal with toxic people on a daily basis.
Strategies for “Energy Vampires”
In one of my previous articles entitled “5 Tips for Dealing with Difficult People”, I discussed strategies for dealing with certain types of difficult people. Such as the “dictators” and “know it all’s” of this world. In this article, I focus on people who can be also known as verbally abusive or “energy vampires.”
Strategies for toxic family members
Throughout my career and personal life, I have had to deal with toxic people. This started with my own family, and especially my mom, who was verbally, physically, and emotionally abusive. When you are a child and this occurs, you feel powerless as your life depends on your parents, and therefore, many times you are not able to express your true feelings, such as anger.
Instead, one develops defense mechanisms just to survive. My way of surviving a toxic upbringing was to spend many hours in my room journaling, listening to music, spending time with my friends, and dating a lot because I never felt loved or secure for that matter.
This also made me fearful of those in authority and I became a “people pleaser” out of fear of being rejected. I put up with abusive bosses out of fear of losing a job, and as a result, developed chronic anxiety and gastrointestinal issues.
Strategies for toxic people at work
The final wake-up call was in the Fall of 2012. My wake up call was after a scary episode of being diagnosed with acute gastritis after working at yet another toxic workplace. I decided it was time for a change and began to work for myself full time. It felt like jumping from a plane without a parachute. You may understand what that feels like! Yes I had no savings or a plan, but I just knew I would get seriously ill if I didn’t take care of myself.
Luckily my fiance (now my husband) was there for me to make this important decision and he continues to support me. The journey towards self-love and assertiveness was long and often times painful, but it was well worth it. Today, I’m able to share this with my clients and help them create healthier boundaries with others.
“Poison People” by Katherine Schreiber
Recently, I came across a powerful article on this topic in Psychology Today titled, “Poison People,” by Katherine Schreiber. She discusses four major strategies to handle toxic people I have included below.
Four major strategies to handle toxic people
Control Your Exposure
If nothing else, try to minimize your contact. Limit the time you spend together if it’s a family member and maybe even schedule an event so that you don’t have to overstay. If the person is your boss, only spend time as needed, and if you can, ask to be transferred to a different department.
Manage Your Reactivity
We cannot change others, however, we can change how we react. Learn meditation and stress relief techniques. Excuse yourself and go to the bathroom to do some deep breathing. You may need to tell the person you will be happy to talk to them when they are calmer.
Don’t Explain
There is no use in trying to explain yourself as the other person is the one who is refusing to listen. Simply say that you are busy at the moment, without explanation.
Immunize Yourself
Get to know people first before making any major decisions as well as pay attention to non-verbal cues and body language is vital. The goal at work is to get away from toxic people. But in our personal lives, we are more prone perhaps to invite them in. This is because many times they have appealing traits such as confidence and charm.
Strategies for handling toxic people in review
We need to be mindful when we start blaming ourselves at times. We can’t continue making excuses for toxic people. It’s key to set healthy boundaries right from the beginning. We deserve to be treated with respect. Sometimes that may even mean leaving a toxic job or relationship.
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Here you will find several ways of contacting me to schedule a 15 minute complimentary session. We can speak over the phone as an example to determine if we would be a good fit for one another.
When you visit to my Contact Us page you will come across a scheduling widget. You can actually book your session right through my website and pick the time/day that would work best for you!
Mateja Petje Holistic Coaching International Natural Stress Management Office: 5301 N Federal Hwy, #380, Boca Raton, FL 33487
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Interview with Mateja Petje
Watch this WPBiTV Interview with Licensed Marriage &
Family Therapist Mateja Petje Enjoy this excellent interview with Mateja Petje and Jonathan Lederman at WPBiTV. You will discover Mateja’s background & the methods she uses to work with her clients. This is a really terrific video & interview where you can learn a great deal about Mateja!
Slovenia my home country
There are many amazing destinations in this world. One is Slovenia my home country. I came across this link to a website where they have a web page discussing Triglav Mountain. My company years ago began under the inspiration of Triglav Mountain. It’s even in my business name!
Here is the article & link
Mt Triglav Top choice mountain in Triglav National Park
“The 2864m limestone peak called Triglav (Three Heads) has been a source of inspiration and an object of devotion for Slovenes for more than a millennium – it even appears on the country’s flag. The early Slavs believed the mountain to be the home of a three-headed deity who ruled the sky, the earth and the underworld.”
Learn more about Donacka Mountain Landmark in Slovenia my home
Donacka Mountain
“Between Boč and Macelj mountain lies Donačka mountain (882 m), which got her name after the church st. Donat (511 m), origin from 18. century, lying on the sunny side of the mountain. Donačka mountain is unique on her steep, cone shape and location on the east border of Alpine world.
Her specialty is variety of vegetation. On the rocky walls, on sunny side of mountain, is location of “juvanov netresk”,endemit.” Here is a link to this wonderful place!
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Holistic Psychotherapist Defined in Medical Practice
So what does it mean when we say “Holistic”? How do we define the term “Holistic” as it relates to the medical field? Nowadays, many practitioners, including myself, define themselves as “holistic”. But there seems to be some confusion and lack of understanding as to what this term actually means.
According to Wikipedia, “The holistic concept in medical practice, which is distinct from the concept in the alternative medicine, upholds that all aspects of people’s needs including psychological, physical and social should be taken into account and seen as a whole. A 2007 study said the concept was alive and well in general medicine in Sweden.[3]
Holistic Psychotherapist Defined -in Alternative Medicine
Some practitioners of holistic medicine use alternative medicine exclusively. Though sometimes holistic treatment can mean simply that a physician takes account of all of a person’s circumstances in giving treatment. Sometimes when alternative medicine is mixed with mainstream medicine the result is called “holistic” medicine. Though this is more commonly termed integrative medicine.[2]
According to the American Holistic Medical Association it is believed that the spiritual element should also be taken into account when assessing a person’s overall well-being.[4]”
See the following references for more information:
2) American Cancer Society. January 2013. Retrieved September 2013. 3) Strandberg, Eva; Ovhed, Ingvar; Borgquist, Lars; Wilhelmsson, Susan (2007). “The perceived meaning of a (w)holistic view among general practitioners and district nurses in Swedish primary care: A qualitative study”. BMC Family Practice 8: 8. doi:10.1186/1471-2296-8-8. PMC 1828160. PMID 17346340. 4) American Holistic Medical Association
Holistic Psychotherapist defined -Combining Alternative & Holistic Medicine
I’ve been interested in alternative and holistic medicine for the last 15 years consequently I’ve also adopted spiritual practices in my personal life. Largely the reason this happened is fascinating & very common. This occurred when I was getting my Master’s degree in marriage and family therapy. Simultaneously I was also dealing with some personal challenges in my life.
Fortunately I started meditating and learning about alternative approaches and techniques. I also received training in clinical hypnosis & guided meditation. This lead me to conclude that I was achieving great success with my clients. They suffered from anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and trauma. Additionally I studied Zen and other forms of meditation and started teaching my clients simple breathing techniques with much success.
In the same span of time I was also struggling from depression and anxiety having experienced this all my life. It’s partially genetic and partially due to abuse and trauma I suffered ever since I was 15 years old. This abuse last until I was almost 25 years old.
Holistic Psychotherapist Defined -Combining Alternative & Holistic Medicine (cont.)
This abuse and trauma also occurred in my intimate relationships with men. Traditional therapy even though helpful has its limitations. I’m happy to report that I finally had a break-through. This was after I started using alternative approaches in addition to seeing a psychotherapist.
I’m determined to find ways to help myself and my clients without the need to rely on medication. Medication can be life saving in some instances, such as in the case of bi-polar disorder or during the initial course of treatment.
However often times clients are given prescriptions by their primary care physicians who don’t have in-depth knowledge about psychiatric disorders. As a result there are always some type of side effects. This might include for example having trouble reaching an orgasm! So there is much to consider.
Holistic Psychotherapist Defined -Introducing Holistic Coaching International
You see I always encourage my clients to get properly evaluated by a psychiatrist. It is also recommended that clients see a psychotherapist such as licensed marriage and family therapist such as myself. As well as a licensed mental health counselor or a licensed clinical social worker. Of course the downside for taking medication is it just alleviates the symptoms. But it doesn’t deal with the root causes of depression or anxiety.
My company, Holistic Coaching International as well as my website www.NaturalStressManagement.com was created to help! As an example you can access my “Stress to Bliss” Guidewhich focuses on the whole person. This is in terms of mind, body, emotion and spirit for identifying both issues and solutions naturally.
For example, when I see a client who is suffering from anxiety and is stressed out or overwhelmed, I assess their lifestyle in general. This includes several areas of their life such as their nutrition, exercise, social support, family life, career and finances.
Holistic Psychotherapist Defined -Introducing Holistic Coaching International (Cont.)
Research shows that many chronic medical illnesses, such as diabetes, and high blood pressure are linked to experiencing chronic stress. Which many times is a result of lacking the necessary coping skills.
As well as being unaware that your health is more than just your physical health. In other words, it is not enough just to have regular check-ups and take the necessary supplements. It is just as equally as important to have emotional and mental health. Including having the tools and coping skills to deal with life’s stresses in the environment.
When I work with clients, we explore the root causes for anxiety and depression by utilizing traditional psychotherapy. As an example this might be exploring their family-of-origin dynamics. As well as their belief system and their values.
We also discuss their lifestyle and recommendations are complete based on their individual experiences and symptoms. Sometimes we discuss alternative approaches, such as going to a yoga class, getting a massage or going to a meditation class.
Holistic Psychotherapist Defined -Holistic Coaching International Techniques Utilized
I utilize several alternative and complimentary medicine approaches in my work with clients. This includes for example clinical hypnosis & guided meditation, emotional freedom technique, also known as “tapping” and Neuro-linguistic programming. I also collaborate with other holistic practitioners. This might be, as an example, fitness experts, health coaches & massage therapists. Which of course is in each client’s best interests.
For more information about my holistic and integrative services please visit my website www.NaturalStressManagement.com
You can schedule a FREE 15 min complimentary consultation by calling 561-299-1028 or by visiting https://naturalstressmanagement.com/contact-stress-management-mateja-petje/
or simply email me at Matejastriglav@gmail.com.
Holistic Coaching International New office!
I’m very excited to share with you I have opened my own new office! I’m in the same building I’ve been in for years. However this is my office. It means so much to me. I have begun to make it my own. What that means to my clients is they will have a safe & very comfortable place to meet with me. I want my clients to be as comfortable as possible so they can have the best experience possible. Most often my clients are in “pain” so I want an environment that puts them at ease.
My Slovenian Roots
It is very important in these times to remember something. I’m originally from Europe. I don’t necessarily think the same way as typical Americans do. Europeans have a different prospective on things. Now my husband is an American. I think this is a plus for you.
I believe I can offer you a different prospective on things you might find helpful. Immigrants for example are having a very difficult time generally speaking in the world today. These added stressors are potentially something I can help with. If you feel I can be of service to you in this area please reach out to me.
I’m from Slovenia. Here is more information about my beautiful country https://www.visitljubljana.com/en/visitors/
I saw this article too. It talks about places to visit in my home country. These places are amazing so I wanted to share that article with you.
14 Best Things to do in Ljubljana, Slovenia
Lovely Ljubljana…one of our new favorite cities in Europe. This town really made a nice impression on us. It’s colorful, it’s lively, it’s compact, it’s very photogenic, and there are more dragons here than museums. This is the kind of city where it is simply fun to stroll and explore without a long list of attractions to visit. Even so …
Ninety three percent (93%) of my clients are discharged after 8-10 sessions!
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WPBiTV Interview with Mateja Petje
Excellent interview with Mateja Petje and Jonathan Lederman at WPBiTV because the subject is Mateja’s background & how she works with her clients. Take the time to listen this is a terrific video & interview!
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Psychotherapist or Life Coach hiring. What’s the difference?Firstlet’s talk about the root of the problem.Did you know that stress and anxiety are one of the leading causes for seeking professional help? More specifically, more than 40 million Americans suffer from anxiety and 20 million suffer from depression. One of 10 Americans is on some kind of anti-depressant.* What makes this far worse, in my personal & professional experience, is that people are confused as to where to turn to for help. *(M. Hyman, The Ultramind solution, p. 11).
Psychotherapist Life Coach hiring– Hippocratic Oath
Social media and the internet have enabled us more efficiency seeking help. Unfortunately it has also created more possibility for sub-par professionals. Frankly these are people who are not properly trained to offer services. They often offer advise that can be misleading and do more damage than good.
Maybe you’ve heard about the “Hippocratic Oath”? The key to everything is not to do harm. The “Hippocratic Oath” is an oath historically taken by physicians. It is one of the most widely known of Greek medical texts. In its original form, it requires a new physician to swear an oath. An oath to/by a number of healing gods, to uphold specific ethical standards.
The Oath is the earliest expression of medical ethics in the Western world. Link Wikipedia https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hippocratic_Oath
There are certain specific Professionals that are properly trained to help clients with mental and emotional illnesses or disorders. They are psychiatrists, psychologists, psychotherapists, counselors, licensed social workers, licensed marriage and family therapists. In addition licensed mental health counselors and several others mental health professionals, such as psychiatric nurses.
But this is definitely NOT something for life coaches! Including “certified” life coaches. They might be able to help clients with “life challenges”. Those that require setting goals, or improving skills. This might be for example changing a career, or finding a romantic partner. But there are limitations. Frankly most are not even aware of them and render services out of a drive to make a quick buck.
My beautiful home town Ljubljana, Slovenia
Psychotherapist Life Coach hiring- “Good & bad” therapists
As in any other field, there are “good and bad” therapists. There are “good and bad” life coaches. I do know some good life coaches who have ethics and understand limitations. However, more often than not, I’m coming across unqualified and unethical life coaches. Thus far that has been my experience of living in S Fla for over 20 years. Also having been a therapist now over 15 of those years.
Years ago I wrote and clarified distinctions between each in my previous article. It was entitled “The Difference Between a Psychologist, Psychotherapist and a Psychiatrist Demistified” June 2014.
Psychotherapist Life Coach hiring- “Good & bad” therapists (cont.)
There is a problem that exists in my opinion. That is the coaching field is not upheld to any high rigorous ethical and legal considerations. Not as it is in the case of licensed mental health professionals. The only regulating body is the International Coaching Federation (ICF). Therefore the coaching schools that are following their standards, are more likely to offer quality programs. But unfortunately it’s still not a guarantee. That’s why ethics and moral obligations to refer clients out when you’re NOT qualified is the key here.
Psychotherapist Life Coach hiring- Personal experience
Once to my horror I observed a “healer/life coach’ proudly describe how they treated a client, who was suicidal! First of all, all clients who enter mental health treatment with a licensed clinician, are guaranteed privacy. This includes social media! This also means being HIPPA compliant! So this was already the first violation. Not to mention the fact that this person didn’t have any training whatsoever! That is key in cases like this.
Over the years I have had several incidents with life coaches and their specific approach. I actually attended 6 months of intense training by a coaching school. This school is accredited by the International Coaching Federation. This is in addition to graduate school and other training over the years.
Psychotherapist Life Coach hiring – “Good & bad” Life Coaches
I came across one such poorly run life coaching programs locally here in S Fla. I actually read on their website that the founder had a criminal and drug history. The website was not created very well by the way! Over the last 30 years of being in education and the psychology field I have studied many self-help authors. I do believe that people who had to deal with adverse life situations can be one of the best teachers!
Psychotherapist Life Coach hiring the great Louise Hay, Wayne Dyer or Donna Eden
There are several people that come to mind. For example Louise Hay, Wayne Dyer, Donna Eden and more just to name a few. These are folks that come to my mind when you talk about overcoming enormous adversity. Then in turn sharing that gift with others.
However they were also very humble people! Moreover their first priority was not sales but rather SHARING what they had learned with others. They also didn’t cross boundaries when it came to others’ mental health.
Psychotherapist Life Coach hiring – “Good & bad” Life Coaches (Cont.)
I cannot say that ALL the trainers from this particular program are like the three trainers I had met personally. But this happened in the span of over 10 years. It seemed to me like theirs is a general approach. Their obvious lack of knowledge how to approach clients remains just the same.
That is also why I can only go by what I had personally experienced. I might have even taken their workshop if I wasn’t so turned off by several things. First their lack of proper interpersonal, communication as well as sales skills. This is in addition to what I saw as a complete lack of knowledge of basics of human development & psychology. This is something that has happened years ago but it really stands out in my memory.
Psychotherapist Life Coach hiring – “Good & bad” Life Coaches (cont.)
I came across another life coach and I’ll share that experience too. This happened when I was part of a coaching/self-growth program back in 2004. This was at one of the networking meetings when I had just graduated. However I was immediately turned off by her aggressive sales pitch. In graduate school the first thing we learn is UNCONDITIONAL POSITIVE REGARD for a client.
This means you need to work with people where they are. This person tried to convince me that I desperately needed the help of this particular program. Of course she happening to be selling it too right at the moment. But I needed to buy it because my life is “such a mess”! She said that “I will not be successful” because my “strategy” was no good. Amazingly she went on to say I had created my own trauma. Basically everything negative that happened in my life was my fault.
Psychotherapist Life Coach hiring – “Good & bad” Life Coaches (more)
This happened on two more occasions over the years with two different coaches from this particular program. Of course the last encounter I just told the person I had no interest. My only intention to meet with her was socially. I had expressed lack of interest due to my previous experiences with two other coaches from this program. Unfortunately she even persisted & tried to put me down and shame me as well!
Frankly the worst thing was that I was in a car accident almost around that time in my life. Unfortunately I was a victim of road rage. However she persisted in telling me “I created and attracted this”. When you examine this it tends to sound more like new age philosophy.
The worst of all too was this person really didn’t take time to understand my personal situation. She missed the fact that I actually am suffering from mental illness. She blindly kept pushing her agenda.
I couldn’t even respond in the moment because I needed time to reflect on what happened. She was overwhelming to me in those moments. This is awful behavior especially for a “mental health” practitioner or even one pretending to be!
Psychotherapist Life Coach hiring – Shaming and putting people down for sales
I do believe that mindset is key. Any properly trained clinician knows that shaming and putting people down is the last thing you want to do. Especially when you say you want to help that person. This kind of approach could break a person who is struggling. Perhaps because of their exposure for example to previous harshness and criticism.
Here is the bottom line. Even if the program works for some people, their sales pitch clearly shows to me that there is no depth. People who sell this program in most cases have no proper training or credentials. At least the ones I have come across. Specifically this person only took this course 6 years ago. Prior to this she was in a service industry before and now calls herself a “Master Trainer.”
Psychotherapist Life Coach hiring-Proper training
Why do I say that? It seemed like it came with a sense of entitlement. I’m very intuitive and sense people’s energy very quickly. In the past I just didn’t trust myself enough with this “gut feeling” or “intuition”. However in most cases my gut is right!
I have always been an open minded person and worked all my life. Honestly I’ve worked at least for 30 years on healing my own trauma. I’ve earned a Master’s Degree from the highly reputable University of Miami in Coral Gables Fl. I graduated with Honors! So understand this is not the only case I have come across.
I had a similar experience with another self-growth program, that will remain nameless! The short version is even though I gained some skills. The way they go about with their sales totally turned me off from further exploring it. They call it enrolling people!
How can you be ethical when you are desperate to make money? Ethically speaking don’t you need to really understand if this person is a match? Or is just about you and the particular program you happen to be selling?
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Psychotherapist Life Coach hiring –Proper training (Cont.)
So my concern is therefore two fold. First most of these life coaches have no proper training in human psychology and understanding. They can cause serious damage in cases where people have experienced significant life trauma or have underlying mental illness. This occurs by making them “wrong”, coercing them and using aggressive tactics.
Fortunately I have worked on raising my self esteem which used to be very low. Consequently, many people that are struggling with mental health disorders also have a difficult time asserting themselves. Especially if they were abused, because of the potential for this low self esteem, predators can and do take advantage!
This taking “advantage” of their clients innocence and desperation and willingness to try anything to feel better is awful! They do not have proper training. They also are not able to distinguish who is the right candidate for their program. Think about that. It has the potential to make this a really terrible situation.
Psychotherapist Life Coach hiring -Cost
Another issue is also the high cost of these programs or coaching sessions. Recently my client told me that his friend is a life coach. His friend offered him and a friend a family discount rate for a coaching session. This discounted rate was $500/hr! Which of course is absurd! Please be observant and do your research!
Psychotherapist Life Coach hiring –Questions to help you decide
Here are some basic questions that might help you when you’re deciding between a licensed clinician/psychotherapist or a life coach.
1. Where did you get your training and what are your credentials? Is your school accredited?
2. How much experience do you have with this particular issue that I am struggling with?
3. Does this issue/disorder that I’m struggling with fall under mental health and needs to be properly diagnosed? More specifically does it instead relate more to certain goals I want to accomplish in life? For example this might be getting fit, losing weight, changing career or finding a life partner.
4. Is this person really listening to me? Will they help me even if it means he or she needs to refer me out to a licensed clinician? Unfortunately, is this just another person simply trying to “close the sale”. A person really not interested in my well being?
5. Trust your intuition if something doesn’t feel right meaning listen to your gut and do more research. Ask for testimonials, credentials, references and licensing board, if applicable. You are worth it!
In closing thank you for reading!
*Don’t just blindly follow promises, do your research! Share with anyone whom might benefit please!
Mateja Petje Holistic Coaching International Natural Stress Management
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WPBiTV Interview with Mateja Petje
Take time to listen to this very insightful interview with Mateja Petje and
Jonathan Lederman at WPBiTV because the subject is Mateja’s background & how she works with her clients.
The Happiness Program
The Happiness Program is also know as the Art of Living. Part 1 course consequently it is an introduction to the world of meditation and stress free living. Here is a link to the Art of Living websitehttps://www.artofliving.org/us-en/happiness-program
I’m from Slovenia! Visit my beautiful home country if you can! Here is a link to the tourism bureau.
Mateja Petje Clinical Depression and seven signs of clinical depression. We all get sad or down, however there is a difference when somebody is feeling stressed out or depressed because of a job loss, relationship troubles or illness. It CAN lead to clinical depression.
Some of the signs of clinical depression include:
1. Loss of appetite or overeating 2. Insomnia, waking up 3. Obsessive and intrusive thoughts and worrying 4. Feelings of hopelessness or helplessness 5. Not participating at social activities that one liked before 6. Suicidal thoughts/ideations 7. Substance abuse or excessive shopping/gambling etc.
*These symptoms need to last a minimum of 2 weeks to be able to be properly diagnosed.
My advise is to listen to recommendations. Don’t wait until things get worse. I offer a complimentary consultation just call 561-299-1028 or click here to email me.
Mateja Petje Clinical Depression -Victim of your past?
Today I wanted to share with you something that I’ve been struggling with all my life and the good news is I had a breakthrough after talking to a wise friend.
For years I’ve worked with therapists, healers and coaches to release trauma from the past and my “victim” role. You see a wise friend told me how to get more into depth and start taking full responsibility for my feelings, thoughts, behaviors and actions as well as my choices and who I let into my inner space.
I’m excited to be able to finally meet my real “Authentic Self” that is based on pure love, compassion, joy and peace. This is as opposed to relying on projections and roles from my “Conditioned Self” (as described by my mentor Shelley Riutta) that is based on guilt, anger, fear and other negative emotions and expectations and dependence on other people.
Mateja Petje Clinical Depression –
As I got more into depth and started taking full responsibility I really made progress. That also includes doing my baby steps and catching myself as often as I can when I am in my “Conditioned Self”.
I’m already a gifted healer and holistic psychotherapist consequently I believe very strongly that especially for people in the healing and medical health field it is so important to continue healing ourselves! In this way I will be able to help my clients in even more profound and more AUTHENTIC ways. There is no shame! We are all dealing with universal human needs and barriers on our way to getting to know our real “Authentic Selves”.
Mateja Petje Clinical Depression -Victim of your past? (cont)
Now you might say, this is all good and well, but these things actually happened. The thing is that we see everything based on our past experiences with other people, events and circumstances. If we didn’t have an emotional attachment to a person or event that happened in our past, we wouldn’t have such a strong emotional reaction that acts as a “trigger” to a current situation. This means that we have not fully healed the situation and our emotional response to it.
This is the basis of my work whether I work with couples or individuals. One of my approaches to healing is using Imago (to read about Imago check out my website). If we didn’t have attachment to the past we would not feel pain, anger, rejection or whatever we are feeling.
Here is what one of my clients said about my work with them utilizing the Imago approach
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“I was extremely pleased with the services that I have received by this provider. Not only that she is very knowledgeable but she is very compassionate and genuine. She listens well and responded to all my questions. My girlfriend and I had a lot of problems due to our divorce and we both had baggage from our previous relationships. We also lost connection and she was able to get us back on track. Her Imago approach really works! I highly recommend her.” by STEVE November 29, 2012 Consumer Feedback www.Wellness.com
Mateja Petje Clinical Depression -Imago Theory
For example, if a woman was abused in her childhood or past romantic relationships, and if she hasn’t healed the past event and emotional attachment to it, she will unconsciously repeat the same scenario in not just intimate relationships but also platonic relationships. This is whether business or personal and more importantly, continue carrying this pattern onto her children or any future relationships.
If she is in a relationship with a man, who had similar patterns of being a”victim” of the situation, they will keep “triggering” each other’s wounds until they both take full responsibility for their thoughts, beliefs, actions, and choices.
Mateja Petje Clinical Depression -Choices
Remember, no matter what, you always have a choice. Even women or men that are abused in a relationships still have a choice which is not easy, but they CAN leave the relationship and many times a professional is needed to help them build back their self-esteem and self-love to be able to make that step. Finances might get in the way, and most people prefer to remain in the comfort zone instead of being vulnerable and looking deeply into themselves.
Mateja Petje offers online and distancetherapy in times when you are unable to visit our office right now
We accept all Major Insurance Carriers (BCBS, Cigna, Aetna, and out-of-network)
If you can’t come to our office right now after all Mateja Petje offers online and distance therapy! Don’t wait to get better on your own. We all need help sometimes. So why delay your happiness because in the final analysis your mental and physical health is priceless! However no one can motivate you to take the initiative to heal and make the first phone call but you. So please make the phone call all things considered you’re possibly in a dark place and need a fresh start!
WPBiTV Interview with Mateja Petje
Take time to listen to this very insightful interview with Mateja Petje and Jonathan Lederman at WPBiTV because the subject is Mateja’s background & how she works with her clients.
The Happiness Program
The Happiness Program is also know as the Art of Living Part 1 course consequently it is an introduction to the world of meditation and stress free living. Here is a link to the Art of Living websitehttps://www.artofliving.org/us-en/happiness-program
Triglav is the highest mountain in Slovenia and the highest peak of the Julian Alps! I named my company after Triglav Mountain. Here is a link to more information https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Triglav
I’m from Slovenia! Visit my beautiful home country if you can! Here is a link to the tourism bureau.
Mateja Petje Mother’s Day insights, experiences and lessons learned. Mothers play a big part in our lives, especially when it comes to their daughters. In an ideal world, daughters receive love, attention, support, and wisdom from their moms so that they can go into the world and follow their dreams and passions.
According to recent research as discussed in the article in Psychology Today Here is a link http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200104/the-mother-daughter-bond Most adults report positive relationships with their mothers. For example, 88 percent of adults say their mother has had a positive influence on them, and 92 percent say their current relationship with their mother is positive.
Still, in my clinical practice, these numbers tend to be quite different. Many women, young or old, report having strained relationships with their mothers. Quite often, they suffer from low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, and unfulfilled relationships. They blame themselves not knowing what went wrong and why they cannot form a lasting loving relationship with a man. Many times they did not have a good role model as to what constitutes a healthy and loving relationship or a marriage.
So the bond between mothers and daughters is very complex. The bond starts to already develop during pregnancy. Research shows that even fetuses can identify when their mom is stressed and therefore stress can indirectly affect the child’s emotional blue-print.
Mateja Petje Mother’s Day – Attending Miami University
When I was pursuing my master’s degree at the University of Miami, I wrote my best essay on the importance of a secure attachment with parents, and especially mothers. Those who are lucky enough get this kind of secure attachment however many others who are not so lucky suffer due to insecure and avoidance attachment. This is characterized by fear, anxiety and feelings of abandonment.
Unfortunately, my experience was similar to many other daughters growing up in dysfunctional families. My family on my mother’s side has experienced generations of alcoholism and violence. Men tend to be violent and use alcohol as a coping mechanism. Many times this was an escape from mental and emotional illnesses, including PTSD which my grandfather suffered from and in the end it cost him his life.
Mateja Petje Mother’s Day – Coming to America
My mom was not an alcoholic, however she never healed from her own trauma. Instead she lashed out. In my tender teen years, I was abused physically, emotionally and mentally. She never sought help. This was just not what you did. Seeking help for emotional and mental issues is still stigmatized even to this day.
I had to physically move across the ocean from Slovenia to the US to finally heal from my own trauma. I am the first in my family who broke the cycle and decided I didn’t want to live this kind of life moreover that I deserve a loving relationship. In therapy I learned a lot about myself and why I developed clinical depression. My healing journey was long and it’s still an ongoing process.
At the same time, it was also a blessing in disguise as I have been able to help hundreds of women to heal from abuse, trauma, difficult relationships, low self-esteem and the lack of self-love. The women I’ve worked with now have confidence, improved relationships and they have made peace with the past.
Here are some suggestions how to heal and improve your relationship with your mother:
1. Forgive your mom and let go. Write a letter to your mom expressing everything and then burn it. You are doing this for your sake so that you don’t carry this burden.
2. Think about all the good stuff. Don’t always dwell on the bad stuff. One of my fondest memories is when my mom brought me breakfast in bed on Saturdays.
3. Be your own best parent. Think about what you have always needed from your mom but never got it. Pamper yourself.
4. Remember that your mom is just doing the best that she can. She learned all she knows from her mother.
5. When your mom starts with her “usual” nagging, or she is being negative or critical, just gently disengage. Set the boundaries and practice “tough love.”
Thank you for reading!
Mateja Petje Mother’s Day best wishes!
Many times my clients don’t seek help until they are in crisis. Why wait this long and suffer? Call for a complimentary session today at 561-299-1028.
For information about substance abuse and co-occuring disorders visit http://americanaddictioncenters.org/co-occurring-disorders/
SCHEDULE A PHONE SESSION
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Mateja Petje offers online and distance therapy in times when you are unable to visit our office right now
We accept all Major Insurance Carriers (BCBS, Cigna, Aetna, and out-of-network)
If you can’t come to our office right now after all Mateja Petje offers online and distance therapy! Don’t wait to get better on your own. We all need help sometimes. So why delay your happiness because in the final analysis your mental and physical health is priceless! However no one can motivate you to take the initiative to heal and make the first phone call but you. So please make the phone call all things considered you’re possibly in a dark place and need a fresh start!
The Happiness Program
The Happiness Program is also know as the Art of Living Part 1 course consequently it is an introduction to the world of meditation and stress free living. Here is a link to the Art of Living websitehttps://www.artofliving.org/us-en/happiness-program
This photo is when I visited home in 2007! I’m from Slovenia as you might have read. It is an amazing country! If you want to explore here is a terrific link. https://www.visitljubljana.com/en/visitors/
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Are you stressed out? Do you feel like you have no life and you end up taking care of everyone else but yourself? We women are often trying to be the best at everything! The best mom, the best wife, the best daughter, the best co-worker and the best employee and yes even the best friend. You know what you need right? Mateja Petje Stress Remedies! So read on Dear Reader!
Unfortunately, many women lose themselves in the process and in their quest to be the best! Too frequently the result is often resentment and the lack of rest causes you to be over tired and feeling irritable and depressed. Also, while improvements in technology have simplified many tasks, quite a lot of people have difficulty disconnecting from their cell phones, iPod, smart phones and social media. We’re being bombarded with massive amounts of content coming towards us non stop in the Information Age we’re in.
However, don’t despair. Taking an honest look at your life is the first step to creating the life you want where you will experience more joy, peace of mind and yes, even better productivity at your work or your career. Boundaries between life and work are now more blurred than ever however you need to figure out how to find a happy medium. There is a Zen saying “Wherever you go, there you are.” Our level of stress has more to do with our response to events than the event or job itself.
Mateja Petje Stress Remedies-Integrate self-care & fun
Growing up in Europe, I feel that I have received some advantages because I learned early in my life that it cannot be just about all work and no fun. Even as a 23 year old starting my career, I was entitled to a minimum of 18 paid vacation days and unlimited sick time. Things have changed with Slovenia now becoming a part of more capitalistic, western approach, due to being a part of the European Union (since 2005) however those values have stayed with me.
Even though I have been working hard and have been investing in my personal and professional life, SELF-CARE has always been important to me and I have been always on the lookout for ways to integrate self-care and fun in my life and have helped my clients to do the same.
Mateja Petje Stress Remedies-Apply right away
Here are some of suggestions that you can apply to your life right away:
1. Think about if your current job is what you truly care about.True, in this economy it may not be as easy to find a more suitable job. However make an honest assessment of the situation and if the answer is “no”, create a vision of what kind of job you truly do want. What kind of company do you want to work for? What are some of the most important things? Work environment? Benefits? Flexibility? Time off? Ask yourself these questions.
2. If you do decide you need to stay at your current job or if you are a business owner figure out what specific changes you need to make to feel happier. Do you need to have an honest conversation with your manager? Do you need to delegate more? Maybe your employer would consider having you work from home a couple of days a week?
3. Focus on the positive. If you constantly dwell on the negative that’s how your life will look like. So focus on the positive!
Mateja Petje Stress Remedies (continued)
4. Take breaksand especially take time for your lunch. You will be more productive by taking time to re-energize and maybe even take a walk around the block. (That includes taking a break from cell phones and iPods!)
5. Instead of dealing with stress and anxiety by consuming too many caffeinated drinks and pastries,grab fresh fruit or a fruit smoothie & some nuts.
6. Seek support.We all need times to have somebody listen to us. Take time out and find the support you need.
7.Just BREATHE! Adopt stress relief techniques such as yoga and guided meditation. Practice staying in the moment. When you work, focus on the tasks at hand. When you relax, just focus on that specific moment whether it is drinking a cup of tea, enjoying a sunset or playing with your children.
Thanks for reading!
Mateja Petje
SCHEDULE A PHONE SESSION
If you are considering working with me you can schedule a complimentary
Mateja Petje offers online and distance therapy in times when you are unable to visit our office right now
We accept all Major Insurance Carriers (BCBS, Cigna, Aetna, and out-of-network)
If you can’t come to our office right now after all Mateja Petje offers online and distance therapy! Don’t wait to get better on your own. We all need help sometimes. So why delay your happiness because in the final analysis your mental and physical health is priceless! However no one can motivate you to take the initiative to heal and make the first phone call but you. So please make the phone call all things considered you’re possibly in a dark place and need a fresh start!
The Happiness Program
The Happiness Program is also know as the Art of Living Part 1 course consequently it is an introduction to the world of meditation and stress free living. Here is a link to the Art of Living website https://www.artofliving.org/us-en/happiness-program
Mateja Petje says unhealthy relationships mean formany of us, especially women, growing up in traditional Western cultures that we have a particular belief system. Most have been taught to believe that one day we will meet Prince Charming who will ride in on a white horse and save us from all our suffering and make us happy and whole again. This theme is very pervasive in Western culture including in our books and movies where it permeates everything.
Think about movies such as Jerry McGuire (“You complete me”) or another great example is the movie “Pretty Woman”. In the past women didn’t have as many career choices that we have today, so often times they just had to be “happy” and put up with whatever life brought them.
That meant women would suffer emotional, mental, financial, and even physical abuse. Luckily, with women’s rights and movement up the career ladder things have changed for women yet on an emotional level we still expect for a man to “make us happy”. This is the core of our misconception.
Mateja Petje Unhealthy Relationships -True for both genders
You might be a stay at home mom or dad or a professional or business owner, the issue remains the same. We all want love, understanding, and a shoulder to cry on. We have all read enough self help books, or even spent years in therapy, yet we are not getting the results. And this goes for both men and women alike. Nowadays it’s not uncommon anymore for a woman to have a demanding career, while her husband stays home or works in a less demanding job. What I’m saying here is true for both genders.
Men usually just don’t share their suffering or even abuse from a spouse due to the stigma attached to it. This is a very difficult situation in terms of healing and moving forward. The fact that men are usually very closed off generally speaking works against the situation many times.
I have had my own share of failed relationships that stemmed from my own traumatic and dysfunctional childhood. I started dating when I was 15 because I thought this was the only way for me to feel loved and understood. Yet, because I never healed sufficiently, I kept attracting abusive, angry, and narcissistic men. I wonder if this rings a bell for you.
Mateja Petje Unhealthy Relationships-Perception
Many of the clients I’ve worked with in my clinical practice have had similar struggles in relationships that have also led to clinical depression, anxiety and lack of self worth. There is a pressure within our society to find that one special man or woman who is your soulmate, otherwise you might be perceived that there is something wrong with you.
Self help books “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus”
Probably like most of you, I’ve read a ton of self-help books, including Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, and saw healers, coaches and therapists. I’ve learned a lot about myself and relationships which also led me to become a licensed marriage and family therapist.
Mateja Petje Imago Approach
In my professional practice I utilize something called the Imago Approach, a concept founded by Harville and Helen Hendrix. You can find several books which you might find helpful on my website www.NaturalStressManagement.com.
According to this theory, we attract partners in our life that remind us about our primary caregivers, who are generally our parents, and that includes both for their positive and negative traits. To give you an example, a woman who grew up in a home where her mother was very submissive, might find herself attracting domineering and controlling men like her father.
Mateja Petje Your subconscious and unconscious mind
However, don’t despair because with some professional help this CAN be overcome. The best approach that worked for me and my clients is to understand how your subconscious and unconscious mind works. Many times, when we grew up in a dysfunctional home, we made certain beliefs about love, relationships, feelings, money and so on. We might not even remember these beliefs yet we keep living our lives based on those beliefs.
Mateja Petje Utilizing NLP, Hypnosis & EMDR
If we want a different life, the key is to understand your mindset and your beliefs. Many times you’ll find you’re still living your life based on your parents or other authority figures beliefs. As children, we depended on others for our survival and our well being so we were not able to question those beliefs, consequently as ADULTS we can, and we MUST in order to change our lives for the better.
Over time I’ve found the techniques that work best in uncovering hidden beliefs include NLP, hypnosis, and EMDR. You can find more about them by going to my website www.NaturalStressManagement.com
Mateja Petje -How do you know?
Now, let’s talk some more about HOW DO YOU KNOW THAT YOU ARE IN UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP or even TOXIC relationship. I want you to ask yourself if any of these statements apply to you. By the way, an excellent book I often refer to is by Doreen Virtue, Assertiveness for Earth Angels. Some of these behaviors are more call for an improvement, while others could be too toxic and you might need to leave the relationship.
Mateja Petje -Top 10 relationship deal breakers!
It’s important to know what your DEAL BREAKERS are and what you can tolerate, however there are some that deserve our attention and I am just mentioning a few common ones that can destroy even a happy relationship.
1. Interrupting – the person who continuously interrupts you is not interested in what you have to say. Very often, the person who constantly interrupts is frequently anxious or hyperactive (and that might be due to use of stimulants, such as coffee). You need to tell them something like: “Excuse me, I am not done talking yet” and be assertive.
2. Constant correcting – this is even worse than interrupting. You constantly walk on eggshells. You need to be assertive and tell them that it feels more like he or she is acting as your teacher and not your partner.
3. Clingy/needy behavior. Again you need to tell them you are busy with projects and set proper boundaries.
4. Stalking is even worse and in some cases you might need to get a restraining order if situation doesn’t improve.
5. Guilt-tripping or manipulating people. You feel resentful and angry. It’s important to say NO and stick to it.
6. Angerholics are addicted to being angry. This anger might be a result of upbringing, or also deep feelings of inferiority, disguised as anger. It’s important to get a professional help especially if the angry person continues to be in denial and doesn’t respond to common sense.
7. Controlling behavior where typically controlling people act out immaturely or with anger when they feel that they are not in control.
8. Addictions, including substance abuse reminds us it’s important to understand that any addiction needs to be treated by a professional. If you find yourself always pleading with the person suffering from addiction, most of the time it will not help as you continue enabling their behavior. It takes a lot of strength and courage to stay in a relationship with an addict. Until they get professional help, you are really in a relationship with a man or a woman who is hidden behind this cycle of addiction.
9. Name calling is behavior that is verbally abusive. When it occurs you need to speak up because it’s not acceptable. Name calling can hurt even more sometimes than physical abuse can especially for someone who has a trusting, sensitive heart. For example a Highly Sensitive Person.
10. Betrayal A betrayer breaks your heart and your trust by engaging in hurtful behaviors such as infidelity, flirting with others, lying to you or exercising extremely poor judgement. In my professional practice I worked with many couples who had suffered infidelity and in some cases, if the relationship had a solid basis, they overcame infidelity issues. However it can takes years. It is always important to love yourself enough and be honest with yourself and not trying to forgive people at every cost.
“4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse” according to Dr. John Gottman
I also wanted to share with you what Dr John Gottman calls “The 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse”. These are 4 main behavior patterns that can destroy a relationship or a marriage (see https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-the-antidotes/)
Criticism: A complaint focuses on a specific behavior, while a criticism attacks the character of the person.
Defensiveness: Defensiveness is defined as self-protection in the form of righteous indignation or innocent victim hood in attempt to ward off a perceived attack. Many people become defensive when they are being criticized, but the problem is that being defensive never helps to solve the problem at hand. Defensiveness is really a way of blaming your partner.
Contempt: Statements that come from a relative position of superiority. Some examples of displays of contempt include when a person uses sarcasm, cynicism, name-calling, eye rolling, sneering, mockery, and hostile humor. Contempt is the greatest predictor of divorce and must be eliminated.
Stonewalling: Stonewalling occurs when the listener withdraws from the interaction. The antidote is to practice physiological self-soothing. The first step of physiological self-soothing is to stop the conflict discussion. If you keep going, you’ll find yourself exploding at your partner or imploding (stonewalling), neither of which will get you anywhere.
Now that we talked about dysfunctional and unhealthy relationship patterns, let’s talk for a minute about key characteristics of a HEALTHY relationship. I like to say, that in a healthy relationship, there is INTER-DEPENDENCE as opposed to co-dependence. Both partners are equal in every aspect and focus on their strengths and work together as a team.
1. Emotionally intelligent couples know each other’s world. They know each other’s goals, worries, and hopes. 2. Fondness and admiration are two of the most crucial elements in a long-lasting romance. I suggest to my couples to keep a jar filled with positive statements of each other and remember positive things when things get tough.. 3. Seeking partner’s affection and support and give it freely. It doesn’t always have to be a great sex. Affection is even more important. 4. Treating each other with respect even when you disagree.
5. Solve your solvable problems and let go of things you cannot solve at the moment or learn to compromise.
6. Overcome gridlock and “honor” your partners dreams.
7. Create shared meaning so Marriage can have an intentional sense of shared purpose
Mateja Petje “Taking you from Stress to Bliss!”
I talk about my home in a small village in Slovenia near Liliana often. I appreciate my roots immensely!
Here is a link if you’re curious and possibly want to travel to Europe.
Mateja Petje Holistic Coaching International Natural Stress Management
Office: 5301 N Federal Hwy, #370, Boca Raton, FL 33487
(Boca Greenhouse buildingoff Yamato & US1)
Mateja Petje offers online and distance therapy in times when you are unable to visit our office right now
We accept all Major Insurance Carriers (BCBS, Cigna, Aetna, and out-of-network)
If you can’t come to our office right now after all Mateja Petje offers online and distance therapy! Don’t wait to get better on your own. We all need help sometimes. So why delay your happiness because in the final analysis your mental and physical health is priceless! However no one can motivate you to take the initiative to heal and make the first phone call but you. So please make the phone call all things considered you’re possibly in a dark place and need a fresh start!
The Happiness Program
The Happiness Program is also know as the Art of Living Part 1 course consequently it is an introduction to the world of meditation and stress free living.
Are you struggling with getting enough sleep? Maybe you’re able to fall asleep, but you keep waking up? Maybe it’s time to try Natural Remedies & Sleep Supplements. Many of my clients struggle with lack of sleep and poor sleep. Often times it’s due to intrusive and obsessive thoughts related to chronic anxiety and depression. Lack of sleep doesn’t only make us cranky, it also affects our productivity. It can lead to chronic illnesses due to compromised immune system.
Guided Meditation for Sleep
I’ve suffered for years until I learned about meditation. Especially guided meditation which has been really helpful. For quite a long time now I’ve been listening to Michael Sealey. He specializes in Hypnosis, Hypnotherapy, Guided Meditation and Sleep Relaxation.
Check out his videohttps://youtu.be/1vx8iUvfyCY
Supplements for natural, non-medical and integrative medicine approach
In addition to guided meditation here are some supplements that you can take. I’ve been an advocate for a natural, non-medical and integrative medicine approach for years and wish I had this book before!
Dr. James Greenblattrecommends several different sleep remedies.
All dosages are estimates as everyone is different. Natural Remedies Sleep Supplements you may find quite useful.
1. Magnesium (“anti stress mineral”) 200-300 mg before bedtime.
2. Valerian (reduces anxiety while improving sleep) 300-500 mg before sleep. Possible side effects are headache, restlessness, sleeplessness and irregular heartbeat.
3. Inositol & 5-HTP Inositol is naturally produced by intestinal bacteria and helps transmit nerve signals and prevents buildup of fat in the liver. Research supports positive benefits for insomnia and OCD. Dosage 1 teaspoon at 8 pm (about 2.8 grams) and 1 teaspoon before bed.
5-HTP is an early form of the neurotransmitter serotonin that is changed to make melatonin. Dosage 50-200 mg 30-60 minutes before bed. DO NOT take if already taking anti-depressants such as Lexapro.
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4. Glycine Amino acid produced in the body and is considered an inhibitory neurotransmitter. It calms neurotransmitters so that they don’t fire rapidly. Dosage 3 grams 1 hour before bedtime.
5. GABA A neurotransmitter that helps brain cells calm down and become less excited. Dosage 500-750 mg with a cup of water and drink half before bedtime. If you wake up during the night, drink the other half. Try 100-250 mg first and then increase the dosage.
6. Melotonin A Hormone produced by the pineal gland that works with body’s built-in clock to regulate sleep and wake cycles. Your body needs mineral zinc to manufacture melotonin as well as Zinc plays a role in preventing depression. Dosage: 1-3 mg before sleep. Possible side effects are drowsiness, upset stomach and headaches. *Resource: James M. Greenblatt, MD, Breakthrough Depression Solution, 2nd edition, Sunrise River Press, 2016
About James Greenblatt, MD
James Greenblatt, MD, a pioneer in the field of integrative medicine, has been successfully treating patients with nutritional and metabolic therapies for more than twenty-five years. In this book, he provides a personalized model of integrative medicine for mental health that can result in relief from depression and a renewed sense of emotional health.
Mateja Petje’s shares Dr. Maya Sarkisyan’s sleep tips
Recently I attended a lecture by Dr. Maya Sarkisyan who also happens to be my functional medicine doctor. Here are a few more great tips from her for better sleep too. It’s important to note that “one size does not fit all.” It’s key to find the root cause for insomnia or poor sleep. Most often it’s stress, anxiety, and obsessive thinking. However it can also be hormonal changes during the menopause (as in my case) or even mold & allergies.
Here are a few of her suggestions for better sleep
Move electronics out of your bedroom. Shut down all the screens. Blue light is very stressful for your nervous system. Make sure you have filters or software on your electronic devices to get rid of blue light. Put your phone on airplane mode, and turn it face down.
Keep the temperature cooler during the night than through the day. The best sleep temperature is between 65 and 72 degrees.
At least two hours before bedtime stop eating anything and don’t drink alcohol. The best it to have your last bite before 7pm, and have only water or herbal tea after.
Clean up your environment. It is much better to sleep in a clean room knowing that in the morning you will wake up to an organized space.
Relax with a book (instead of TV) or journal about the day and write down tasks for tomorrow
Get blackout curtains and block all the light sources you can. Get your bedroom as dark as possible.
If you cannot fall asleep for 30 min – get up, go into another room, have dim lighting only and repeat some of your routines. After 15 minutes you can then go back to bed and try to fall asleep again.
Take at least 10 minutes to practice mindful relaxation and/or spiritual practices. Usually, spiritual practices take longer. Examples – Prayer, Meditation, Breathing, Qigong. and practice gratitude.
Mateja Petje shares more Natural Remedies Sleep Supplements tips too
Practicing some form of meditation, and spending time in nature, as well as daily exercise will make you feel better. It will also help you get more restful sleep. If you are unable to shake off intrusive thoughts, I also recommend journaling. If the problem persists, schedule time with a licensed clinician who will help you uncover other reasons for lack of sleep.
I recommend talking to a Naturopath or medical doctor especially if you are already taking medication as some of it may interfere. So in the end don’t forget natural remedies & sleep supplements. Wishing you a restful and peaceful night sleep!
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Office: 5301 N Federal Hwy, #370, Boca Raton, FL 33487
(Boca Greenhouse building off Yamato & US1)
Mateja Petje offers online and distance therapy in times when you are unable to visit our office right now
We accept all Major Insurance Carriers (BCBS, Cigna, Aetna, and out-of-network)
If you can’t come to our office right now after all Mateja Petje offers online and distance therapy! Don’t wait to get better on your own. We all need help sometimes. So why delay your happiness because in the final analysis your mental and physical health is priceless! However no one can motivate you to take the initiative to heal and make the first phone call but you. So please make the phone call all things considered you’re possibly in a dark place and need a fresh start!
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“My ideal clients are adults who had experienced childhood abuse, trauma, challenging relationships, PTSD, depression and anxiety and it still affects their life. I also equip my clients with top behavioral techniques to manage stress and daily challenges.” Mateja Petje
Mateja Petje’s Client Testimonial
“That’s how I would define Mateja Petje of Create Her Bliss and Holistic Coaching International. I have always found her to be genuine and deeply CARING in helping others. Her journey in life has made her uniquely qualified to understand, empathize and facilitate healing.
She has both the official credentials and experience from her formal education as well as training and experience in numerous alternative methods of healing. Also, she continues to educate herself in new methodologies. This enables her to have all of the tools available for SHARING with each individual to create his/her optimal healing journey.
Now is a great time to reach out to Mateja for kind and discreet assistance.” CB
The Happiness Program
The Happiness Program is also know as the Art of Living Part 1 course. It is an introduction to the world of meditation and stress free living.
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What is Natural Stress Management
You may be wondering what is Natural Stress Management and Holistic Psychotherapy about? It is about transforming people’s lives as a result of helping them to heal from depression, anxiety, abuse & trauma so they can manage their daily stress with ease & be inspired to thrive and blossom.
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This website project has been years in the making! We hope you enjoy our website and take the time to navigate around all the content. If you have time for ONLY one thing be sure to read the amazing testimonials about Mateja Petje and how she has been helping clients for over 15 years. You may feel inspired reading how Mateja has been sharing her healing techniques, knowledge and so much more with her clients for years. This is her passion work!
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Just like I said before this website has it all! It’s so jam packed with helpful resources you just may want to bookmark this site so you can find you way back! If you like be sure to Opt in and join our Transformational Healing Journey and receive 3 free videos demonstrating top Behavioral & integrative medicine techniques! Perhaps you just fell in love with the Resources page with the huge wealth of great links and books you can access! Maybe you visited the Testimonials page and you were amazed at what people say about their experience working with Mateja!? However we definitely understand why you fell in love with our website if you saw Sammy the Stress Buster, our emotional Support Dog!
Boca Greenhouse building off Yamato & US1 5301 N Federal Hwy, #370, Boca Raton
Ninety Three Percent of Mateja Petje’s clients are discharged after 8-10 sessions!
So let the healing begin! Introducing Mateja Petje a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist located right here in Boca Raton Fl. Mateja is a Holistic Psychotherapist and a Stress Management Coach. In addition Mateja is a counselor among many other things. Contact Mateja and watch yourself go from VICTIM HOOD to Reclaiming YOUR AUTHENTIC SELF!
Once again welcome to our wonderful website! This website is a fantastic way to showcase Mateja and her many fabulous healing gifts!
“My ideal clients are adults who had experienced childhood abuse, trauma, challenging relationships, PTSD, depression and anxiety and it still affects their life. I also equip my clients with top behavioral techniques to manage stress and daily challenges.” Mateja Petje
Introducing Sammy the Stress Buster!
We very excited to introduce to you Sammy the Stress Buster! Sammy is our Emotional Support Dog! He is about three years old right now. Sammy is in training getting ready for his future assignments. Sammy plays a crucial role all things considered his job is to make us smile and laugh! It’s a big job reminding us to be joyful. Maybe one day you’ll meet Sammy the Stress Buster. As a matter of fact maybe he can help you to be joyful. Perhaps even play a role in your healing process.
Holistic Coaching International accepts all Major Insurance Carriers
Holistic Coaching International accepts all Major Insurance Carriers (BCBS, Cigna, Aetna, and out-of-network) Now Mateja Petje offers online and distance therapy either by telephone or video. Can’t come to our office? So put technology to work for you!
Schedule a free phone consultation on Holistic Coaching International with Mateja
If you’re ready for a session with Mateja be sure to visit Holistic Coaching International. Schedule your FREE 15 minute phone consultation today.
Don’t wait to get help when you feel stuck, stressed-out or depressed.
I’m a phone call away! 561 299 1028
Click here to visit my website and book a FREE 15 minute consultation
Mateja Petje Holistic Coaching International Natural Stress Management
Office: 5301 N Federal Hwy, #370, Boca Raton, FL 33487
(Boca Greenhouse building off Yamato & US1)
Mateja Petje offers online and distance therapy in times when you are unable to visit our office right now
We accept all Major Insurance Carriers (BCBS, Cigna, Aetna, and out-of-network)
If you can’t come to our office right now after all Mateja Petje offers online and distance therapy! Don’t wait to get better on your own. We all need help sometimes. So why delay your happiness because in the final analysis your mental and physical health is priceless! However no one can motivate you to take the initiative to heal and make the first phone call but you. So please make the phone call all things considered you’re possibly in a dark place and need a fresh start!
Client Testimonial
“After being in traditional therapy and making no progress, I explored the option of holistic therapy with Mateja. I loved that her approach was focused on me and how to move forward with my anxiety, negative thoughts & relationship perceptions, instead of focusing on the problems and where they stemmed from. With EFT, affirmations and tracking my moods, it created more self awareness around my emotions and where they were coming from. I can happily say that I went from living in a place with high levels of anxiety to virtually none & I am a much happier person all around! She has given me tools that I will continue to utilize for a long time as I continue the healing process. I can’t say enough amazing things about Mateja!”~JM, Boca Raton, 11/2016
The Happiness Program
The Happiness Program is also know as the Art of Living Part 1 course. It is an introduction to the world of meditation and stress free living.
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