Mateja Petje Mothers Day

April 19, 2019/0 Comments/in Mothers Day /by Steve

Mateja Petje Mother’s Day

MOTHERS & DAUGHTERS – INFLUENCES FOR A LIFETIME

Mateja Petje Mother’s Day insights, experiences and lessons learned. Mothers play a big part in our lives, especially when it comes to their daughters. In an ideal world, daughters receive love, attention, support, and wisdom from their moms so that they can go into the world and follow their dreams and passions.

According to recent research as discussed in the article in Psychology Today Here is a link http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200104/the-mother-daughter-bond Most adults report positive relationships with their mothers. For example, 88 percent of adults say their mother has had a positive influence on them, and 92 percent say their current relationship with their mother is positive.

Still, in my clinical practice, these numbers tend to be quite different. Many women, young or old, report having strained relationships with their mothers. Quite often, they suffer from low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, and unfulfilled relationships. They blame themselves not knowing what went wrong and why they cannot form a lasting loving relationship with a man. Many times they did not have a good role model as to what constitutes a healthy and loving relationship or a marriage.

So the bond between mothers and daughters is very complex. The bond starts to already develop during pregnancy. Research shows that even fetuses can identify when their mom is stressed and therefore stress can indirectly affect the child’s emotional blue-print.

Mateja Petje Mother’s Day – Attending Miami University

When I was pursuing my master’s degree at the University of Miami, I wrote my best essay on the importance of a secure attachment with parents, and especially mothers. Those who are lucky enough get this kind of secure attachment however many others who are not so lucky suffer due to insecure and avoidance attachment. This is characterized by fear, anxiety and feelings of abandonment.

Unfortunately, my experience was similar to many other daughters growing up in dysfunctional families. My family on my mother’s side has experienced generations of alcoholism and violence. Men tend to be violent and use alcohol as a coping mechanism. Many times this was an escape from mental and emotional illnesses, including PTSD which my grandfather suffered from and in the end it cost him his life.

Mateja Petje Mother’s Day – Coming to America

My mom was not an alcoholic, however she never healed from her own trauma. Instead she lashed out. In my tender teen years, I was abused physically, emotionally and mentally. She never sought help. This was just not what you did. Seeking help for emotional and mental issues is still stigmatized even to this day.

I had to physically move across the ocean from Slovenia to the US to finally heal from my own trauma. I am the first in my family who broke the cycle and decided I didn’t want to live this kind of life moreover that I deserve a loving relationship. In therapy I learned a lot about myself and why I developed clinical depression. My healing journey was long and it’s still an ongoing process.

At the same time, it was also a blessing in disguise as I have been able to help hundreds of women to heal from abuse, trauma, difficult relationships, low self-esteem and the lack of self-love. The women I’ve worked with now have confidence, improved relationships and they have made peace with the past.

Here are some suggestions how to heal and improve your relationship with your mother:

1. Forgive your mom and let go. Write a letter to your mom expressing everything and then burn it. You are doing this for your sake so that you don’t carry this burden.

2. Think about all the good stuff. Don’t always dwell on the bad stuff. One of my fondest memories is when my mom brought me breakfast in bed on Saturdays.

3. Be your own best parent. Think about what you have always needed from your mom but never got it. Pamper yourself.

4. Remember that your mom is just doing the best that she can. She learned all she knows from her mother.

5. When your mom starts with her “usual” nagging, or she is being negative or critical, just gently disengage. Set the boundaries and practice “tough love.”

Thank you for reading!

Mateja Petje Mother’s Day best wishes!

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Mateja Petje Stress Remedies

March 30, 2019/0 Comments/in Mateja Petje Stress Remedies /by Steve

Mateja Petje Stress Remedies

Mateja Petje Stress Remedies-Being the best

Are you stressed out? Do you feel like you have no life and you end up taking care of everyone else but yourself? We women are often trying to be the best at everything! The best mom, the best wife, the best daughter, the best co-worker and the best employee and yes even the best friend. You know what you need right? Mateja Petje Stress Remedies! So read on Dear Reader!

Unfortunately, many women lose themselves in the process and in their quest to be the best! Too frequently the result is often resentment and the lack of rest causes you to be over tired and feeling irritable and depressed. Also, while improvements in technology have simplified many tasks, quite a lot of people have difficulty disconnecting from their cell phones, iPod, smart phones and social media. We’re being bombarded with massive amounts of content coming towards us non stop in the Information Age we’re in.

However, don’t despair. Taking an honest look at your life is the first step to creating the life you want where you will experience more joy, peace of mind and yes, even better productivity at your work or your career. Boundaries between life and work are now more blurred than ever however you need to figure out how to find a happy medium. There is a Zen saying “Wherever you go, there you are.” Our level of stress has more to do with our response to events than the event or job itself.

Mateja Petje Stress Remedies-Integrate self-care & fun

Growing up in Europe, I feel that I have received some advantages because I learned early in my life that it cannot be just about all work and no fun. Even as a 23 year old starting my career, I was entitled to a minimum of 18 paid vacation days and unlimited sick time. Things have changed with Slovenia now becoming a part of more capitalistic, western approach, due to being a part of the European Union (since 2005) however those values have stayed with me.

Even though I have been working hard and have been investing in my personal and professional life, SELF-CARE has always been important to me and I have been always on the lookout for ways to integrate self-care and fun in my life and have helped my clients to do the same.

Mateja Petje Stress Remedies-Apply right away

Here are some of suggestions that you can apply to your life right away:

1. Think about if your current job is what you truly care about. True, in this economy it may not be as easy to find a more suitable job. However make an honest assessment of the situation and if the answer is “no”, create a vision of what kind of job you truly do want. What kind of company do you want to work for? What are some of the most important things? Work environment? Benefits? Flexibility? Time off? Ask yourself these questions.

2. If you do decide you need to stay at your current job or if you are a business owner figure out what specific changes you need to make to feel happier. Do you need to have an honest conversation with your manager? Do you need to delegate more? Maybe your employer would consider having you work from home a couple of days a week?

3. Focus on the positive. If you constantly dwell on the negative that’s how your life will look like. So focus on the positive!

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4. Take breaks and especially take time for your lunch. You will be more productive by taking time to re-energize and maybe even take a walk around the block. (That includes taking a break from cell phones and iPods!)

5. Instead of dealing with stress and anxiety by consuming too many caffeinated drinks and pastries, grab fresh fruit or a fruit smoothie & some nuts.

6. Seek support. We all need times to have somebody listen to us. Take time out and find the support you need.

7. Just BREATHE! Adopt stress relief techniques such as yoga and guided meditation. Practice staying in the moment. When you work, focus on the tasks at hand. When you relax, just focus on that specific moment whether it is drinking a cup of tea, enjoying a sunset or playing with your children.

Thanks for reading!

Mateja Petje

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The Happiness Program

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Mateja Petje Unhealthy Relationships

March 24, 2019/0 Comments/in Mateja Petje Unhealthy Relationships /by Steve

Mateja Petje Unhealthy Relationships

10 SIGNS YOU’RE IN AN UNHEALTHY OR TOXIC RELATIONSHIP

Mateja Petje Unhealthy Relationships-Prince Charming

Mateja Petje says unhealthy relationships mean for many of us, especially women, growing up in traditional Western cultures that we have a particular belief system. Most have been taught to believe that one day we will meet Prince Charming who will ride in on a white horse and save us from all our suffering and make us happy and whole again. This theme is very pervasive in Western culture including in our books and movies where it permeates everything.

Mateja Petje Unhealthy Relationships-Jerry McGuire & Pretty Woman

Think about movies such as Jerry McGuire (“You complete me”) or another great example is the movie “Pretty Woman”. In the past women didn’t have as many career choices that we have today, so often times they just had to be “happy” and put up with whatever life brought them.

Mateja Petje Unhealthy Relationships-Emotional, mental, financial & physical abuse

That meant women would suffer emotional, mental, financial, and even physical abuse. Luckily, with women’s rights and movement up the career ladder things have changed for women yet on an emotional level we still expect for a man to “make us happy”. This is the core of our misconception.

Mateja Petje Unhealthy Relationships -True for both genders

You might be a stay at home mom or dad or a professional or business owner, the issue remains the same. We all want love, understanding, and a shoulder to cry on. We have all read enough self help books, or even spent years in therapy, yet we are not getting the results. And this goes for both men and women alike. Nowadays it’s not uncommon anymore for a woman to have a demanding career, while her husband stays home or works in a less demanding job. What I’m saying here is true for both genders.

Mateja Petje Unhealthy Relationships- Discussing suffering & abuse

Men usually just don’t share their suffering or even abuse from a spouse due to the stigma attached to it. This is a very difficult situation in terms of healing and moving forward. The fact that men are usually very closed off generally speaking works against the situation many times.

I have had my own share of failed relationships that stemmed from my own traumatic and dysfunctional childhood. I started dating when I was 15 because I thought this was the only way for me to feel loved and understood. Yet, because I never healed sufficiently, I kept attracting abusive, angry, and narcissistic men. I wonder if this rings a bell for you.

Mateja Petje Unhealthy Relationships-Perception

Many of the clients I’ve worked with in my clinical practice have had similar struggles in relationships that have also led to clinical depression, anxiety and lack of self worth. There is a pressure within our society to find that one special man or woman who is your soulmate, otherwise you might be perceived that there is something wrong with you.

Self help books “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus”

Probably like most of you, I’ve read a ton of self-help books, including Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, and saw healers, coaches and therapists. I’ve learned a lot about myself and relationships which also led me to become a licensed marriage and family therapist.

Mateja Petje Imago Approach

In my professional practice I utilize something called the Imago Approach, a concept founded by Harville and Helen Hendrix. You can find several books which you might find helpful on my website www.NaturalStressManagement.com.

According to this theory, we attract partners in our life that remind us about our primary caregivers, who are generally our parents, and that includes both for their positive and negative traits. To give you an example, a woman who grew up in a home where her mother was very submissive, might find herself attracting domineering and controlling men like her father.

Mateja Petje Your subconscious and unconscious mind

However, don’t despair because with some professional help this CAN be overcome. The best approach that worked for me and my clients is to understand how your subconscious and unconscious mind works. Many times, when we grew up in a dysfunctional home, we made certain beliefs about love, relationships, feelings, money and so on. We might not even remember these beliefs yet we keep living our lives based on those beliefs.

Mateja Petje Utilizing NLP, Hypnosis & EMDR

If we want a different life, the key is to understand your mindset and your beliefs. Many times you’ll find you’re still living your life based on your parents or other authority figures beliefs. As children, we depended on others for our survival and our well being so we were not able to question those beliefs, consequently as ADULTS we can, and we MUST in order to change our lives for the better.

Over time I’ve found the techniques that work best in uncovering hidden beliefs include NLP, hypnosis, and EMDR. You can find more about them by going to my website www.NaturalStressManagement.com

Mateja Petje -How do you know?

Now, let’s talk some more about HOW DO YOU KNOW THAT YOU ARE IN UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP or even TOXIC relationship. I want you to ask yourself if any of these statements apply to you. By the way, an excellent book I often refer to is by Doreen Virtue, Assertiveness for Earth Angels. Some of these behaviors are more call for an improvement, while others could be too toxic and you might need to leave the relationship.

Mateja Petje -Top 10 relationship deal breakers!

It’s important to know what your DEAL BREAKERS are and what you can tolerate, however there are some that deserve our attention and I am just mentioning a few common ones that can destroy even a happy relationship.

1. Interrupting – the person who continuously interrupts you is not interested in what you have to say. Very often, the person who constantly interrupts is frequently anxious or hyperactive (and that might be due to use of stimulants, such as coffee). You need to tell them something like: “Excuse me, I am not done talking yet” and be assertive.
2. Constant correcting – this is even worse than interrupting. You constantly walk on eggshells. You need to be assertive and tell them that it feels more like he or she is acting as your teacher and not your partner.
3. Clingy/needy behavior. Again you need to tell them you are busy with projects and set proper boundaries.
4. Stalking is even worse and in some cases you might need to get a restraining order if situation doesn’t improve.
5. Guilt-tripping or manipulating people. You feel resentful and angry. It’s important to say NO and stick to it.

Mateja Petje -Top 10 relationship deal breakers! (continued)

6. Angerholics are addicted to being angry. This anger might be a result of upbringing, or also deep feelings of inferiority, disguised as anger. It’s important to get a professional help especially if the angry person continues to be in denial and doesn’t respond to common sense.
7. Controlling behavior where typically controlling people act out immaturely or with anger when they feel that they are not in control.
8. Addictions, including substance abuse reminds us it’s important to understand that any addiction needs to be treated by a professional. If you find yourself always pleading with the person suffering from addiction, most of the time it will not help as you continue enabling their behavior. It takes a lot of strength and courage to stay in a relationship with an addict. Until they get professional help, you are really in a relationship with a man or a woman who is hidden behind this cycle of addiction.

Mateja Petje -Top 10 relationship deal breakers! (conclusion)

9. Name calling is behavior that is verbally abusive. When it occurs you need to speak up because it’s not acceptable. Name calling can hurt even more sometimes than physical abuse can especially for someone who has a trusting, sensitive heart. For example a Highly Sensitive Person.
10. Betrayal A betrayer breaks your heart and your trust by engaging in hurtful behaviors such as infidelity, flirting with others, lying to you or exercising extremely poor judgement. In my professional practice I worked with many couples who had suffered infidelity and in some cases, if the relationship had a solid basis, they overcame infidelity issues. However it can takes years. It is always important to love yourself enough and be honest with yourself and not trying to forgive people at every cost.

“4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse” according to Dr. John Gottman

I also wanted to share with you what Dr John Gottman calls “The 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse”. These are 4 main behavior patterns that can destroy a relationship or a marriage (see https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-the-antidotes/)

Criticism: A complaint focuses on a specific behavior, while a criticism attacks the character of the person.

Defensiveness: Defensiveness is defined as self-protection in the form of righteous indignation or innocent victim hood in attempt to ward off a perceived attack. Many people become defensive when they are being criticized, but the problem is that being defensive never helps to solve the problem at hand. Defensiveness is really a way of blaming your partner.

Contempt: Statements that come from a relative position of superiority. Some examples of displays of contempt include when a person uses sarcasm, cynicism, name-calling, eye rolling, sneering, mockery, and hostile humor. Contempt is the greatest predictor of divorce and must be eliminated.

Stonewalling: Stonewalling occurs when the listener withdraws from the interaction. The antidote is to practice physiological self-soothing. The first step of physiological self-soothing is to stop the conflict discussion. If you keep going, you’ll find yourself exploding at your partner or imploding (stonewalling), neither of which will get you anywhere.

Mateja Petje Unhealthy Relationships-vs Healthy Relationships

Now that we talked about dysfunctional and unhealthy relationship patterns, let’s talk for a minute about key characteristics of a HEALTHY relationship. I like to say, that in a healthy relationship, there is INTER-DEPENDENCE as opposed to co-dependence. Both partners are equal in every aspect and focus on their strengths and work together as a team.

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Dr Gottman 7 key tips for a healthy relationship or marriage

https://www.yesmagazine.org/issues/what-happy-families-know/how-to-keep-love-going-strong

1. Emotionally intelligent couples know each other’s world. They know each other’s goals, worries, and hopes.
2. Fondness and admiration are two of the most crucial elements in a long-lasting romance. I suggest to my couples to keep a jar filled with positive statements of each other and remember positive things when things get tough..
3. Seeking partner’s affection and support and give it freely. It doesn’t always have to be a great sex. Affection is even more important.
4. Treating each other with respect even when you disagree.

5. Solve your solvable problems and let go of things you cannot solve at the moment or learn to compromise.

6. Overcome gridlock and “honor” your partners dreams.

7. Create shared meaning so Marriage can have an intentional sense of shared purpose

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Office: 5301 N Federal Hwy, #370, Boca Raton, FL 33487

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Mateja Petje offers online and distance therapy in times when you are unable to visit our office right now

We accept all Major Insurance Carriers (BCBS, Cigna, Aetna, and out-of-network)

If you can’t come to our office right now after all Mateja Petje offers online and distance therapy! Don’t wait to get better on your own. We all need help sometimes. So why delay your happiness because in the final analysis your mental and physical health is priceless! However no one can motivate you to take the initiative to heal and make the first phone call but you. So please make the phone call all things considered you’re possibly in a dark place and need a fresh start!

The Happiness Program

The Happiness Program is also know as the Art of Living Part 1 course consequently it is an introduction to the world of meditation and stress free living.

Natural Remedies Sleep Supplements

January 26, 2019/0 Comments/in Natural Remedies Sleep Supplements /by Steve

NATURAL REMEDIES & SLEEP SUPPLEMENTS

Are you struggling with getting enough sleep? Maybe you’re able to fall asleep, but you keep waking up? Maybe it’s time to try Natural Remedies & Sleep Supplements. Many of my clients struggle with lack of sleep and poor sleep. Often times it’s due to intrusive and obsessive thoughts related to chronic anxiety and depression. Lack of sleep doesn’t only make us cranky, it also affects our productivity. It can lead to chronic illnesses due to compromised immune system.

Guided Meditation for Sleep

I’ve suffered for years until I learned about meditation. Especially guided meditation which has been really helpful. For quite a long time now I’ve been listening to Michael Sealey. He specializes in Hypnosis, Hypnotherapy, Guided Meditation and Sleep Relaxation.

Check out his video https://youtu.be/1vx8iUvfyCY

Supplements for natural, non-medical and integrative medicine approach

In addition to guided meditation here are some supplements that you can take. I’ve been an advocate for a natural, non-medical and integrative medicine approach for years and wish I had this book before!

Dr. James Greenblatt recommends several different sleep remedies.

All dosages are estimates as everyone is different. Natural Remedies Sleep Supplements you may find quite useful.

1. Magnesium (“anti stress mineral”) 200-300 mg before bedtime.

2. Valerian (reduces anxiety while improving sleep) 300-500 mg before sleep. Possible side effects are headache, restlessness, sleeplessness and irregular heartbeat.

3. Inositol & 5-HTP Inositol is naturally produced by intestinal bacteria and helps transmit nerve signals and prevents buildup of fat in the liver. Research supports positive benefits for insomnia and OCD. Dosage 1 teaspoon at 8 pm (about 2.8 grams) and 1 teaspoon before bed.

5-HTP is an early form of the neurotransmitter serotonin that is changed to make melatonin. Dosage 50-200 mg 30-60 minutes before bed. DO NOT take if already taking anti-depressants such as Lexapro.

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4. Glycine Amino acid produced in the body and is considered an inhibitory neurotransmitter. It calms neurotransmitters so that they don’t fire rapidly. Dosage 3 grams 1 hour before bedtime.

5. GABA A neurotransmitter that helps brain cells calm down and become less excited. Dosage 500-750 mg with a cup of water and drink half before bedtime. If you wake up during the night, drink the other half. Try 100-250 mg first and then increase the dosage.

6. Melotonin A Hormone produced by the pineal gland that works with body’s built-in clock to regulate sleep and wake cycles. Your body needs mineral zinc to manufacture melotonin as well as Zinc plays a role in preventing depression.
Dosage: 1-3 mg before sleep.
Possible side effects are drowsiness, upset stomach and headaches.

*Resource: James M. Greenblatt, MD, Breakthrough Depression Solution, 2nd edition, Sunrise River Press, 2016

About James Greenblatt, MD

James Greenblatt, MD, a pioneer in the field of integrative medicine, has been successfully treating patients with nutritional and metabolic therapies for more than twenty-five years. In this book, he provides a personalized model of integrative medicine for mental health that can result in relief from depression and a renewed sense of emotional health.

Mateja Petje’s shares Dr. Maya Sarkisyan’s sleep tips

Recently I attended a lecture by Dr. Maya Sarkisyan who also happens to be my functional medicine doctor. Here are a few more great tips from her for better sleep too. It’s important to note that “one size does not fit all.” It’s key to find the root cause for insomnia or poor sleep. Most often it’s stress, anxiety, and obsessive thinking. However it can also be hormonal changes during the menopause (as in my case) or even mold & allergies.

Here are a few of her suggestions for better sleep

Move electronics out of your bedroom. Shut down all the screens. Blue light is very stressful for your nervous system. Make sure you have filters or software on your electronic devices to get rid of blue light. Put your phone on airplane mode, and turn it face down.
Keep the temperature cooler during the night than through the day. The best sleep temperature is between 65 and 72 degrees.
At least two hours before bedtime stop eating anything and don’t drink alcohol. The best it to have your last bite before 7pm, and have only water or herbal tea after.

Clean up your environment. It is much better to sleep in a clean room knowing that in the morning you will wake up to an organized space.
Relax with a book (instead of TV) or journal about the day and write down tasks for tomorrow
Get blackout curtains and block all the light sources you can. Get your bedroom as dark as possible.
If you cannot fall asleep for 30 min – get up, go into another room, have dim lighting only and repeat some of your routines. After 15 minutes you can then go back to bed and try to fall asleep again.
Take at least 10 minutes to practice mindful relaxation and/or spiritual practices. Usually, spiritual practices take longer. Examples – Prayer, Meditation, Breathing, Qigong. and practice gratitude.

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Mateja Petje shares more Natural Remedies Sleep Supplements tips too

Practicing some form of meditation, and spending time in nature, as well as daily exercise will make you feel better. It will also help you get more restful sleep. If you are unable to shake off intrusive thoughts, I also recommend journaling. If the problem persists, schedule time with a licensed clinician who will help you uncover other reasons for lack of sleep.

I recommend talking to a Naturopath or medical doctor especially if you are already taking medication as some of it may interfere. So in the end don’t forget natural remedies & sleep supplements. Wishing you a restful and peaceful night sleep!

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We accept all Major Insurance Carriers (BCBS, Cigna, Aetna, and out-of-network)

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“My ideal clients are adults who had experienced childhood abuse, trauma, challenging relationships, PTSD, depression and anxiety and it still affects their life. I also equip my clients with top behavioral techniques to manage stress and daily challenges.” Mateja Petje

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“That’s how I would define Mateja Petje of Create Her Bliss and Holistic Coaching International. I have always found her to be genuine and deeply CARING in helping others. Her journey in life has made her uniquely qualified to understand, empathize and facilitate healing.

She has both the official credentials and experience from her formal education as well as training and experience in numerous alternative methods of healing. Also, she continues to educate herself in new methodologies. This enables her to have all of the tools available for SHARING with each individual to create his/her optimal healing journey.

Now is a great time to reach out to Mateja for kind and discreet assistance.” CB

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The Happiness Program is also know as the Art of Living Part 1 course. It is an introduction to the world of meditation and stress free living.

Holistic Coaching International Website launch

January 19, 2019/3 Comments/in Holistic Coaching International Website /by Steve

Holistic Coaching International Website Launch

Holistic Coaching International website launch is a huge success! All of us at Holistic Coaching International want to welcome you to our beautiful and informative new website! We’re very excited because of all the great content we provide to you as well as the terrific resources and helpful links people can use as tools. It seems like right now everyone is suffering in one way or another and this website may really help. Fortunately on this website you can also get the very latest updates in the mental health field and stress management techniques. Plus you can even book a FREE 15 minute phone consultation with Mateja.

In your life if you’ve experienced any trauma, abuse, anxiety, depression, stress, anger or PTSD in a word you NEED to visit this website! If you’re interested in Energy Medicine techniques for example modalities such as Reiki, Tapping, EFT also known as Emotional Freedom Techniques and more you can find that too on our website.

Holistic Coaching International Website has it all

This website really has it all! That’s why we’re super excited to share links, videos, testimonials and more with you about Mateja Petje and her healing work! Maybe the best part of all is this website really enabled us to showcase Mateja’s many gifts and talents. If you know someone that would benefit from this information please give them the gift of help and healing. Send your family or friends a link to this website!

What is Natural Stress Management

You may be wondering what is Natural Stress Management and Holistic Psychotherapy about? It is about transforming people’s lives as a result of helping them to heal from depression, anxiety, abuse & trauma so they can manage their daily stress with ease & be inspired to thrive and blossom.

Holistic Coaching International Website years in the making

This website project has been years in the making! We hope you enjoy our website and take the time to navigate around all the content. If you have time for ONLY one thing be sure to read the amazing testimonials about Mateja Petje and how she has been helping clients for over 15 years. You may feel inspired reading how Mateja has been sharing her healing techniques, knowledge and so much more with her clients for years. This is her passion work!

Bookmark Holistic Coaching International Website

Just like I said before this website has it all! It’s so jam packed with helpful resources you just may want to bookmark this site so you can find you way back! If you like be sure to Opt in and join our Transformational Healing Journey and receive 3 free videos demonstrating top Behavioral & integrative medicine techniques! Perhaps you just fell in love with the Resources page with the huge wealth of great links and books you can access! Maybe you visited the Testimonials page and you were amazed at what people say about their experience working with Mateja!? However we definitely understand why you fell in love with our website if you saw Sammy the Stress Buster, our emotional Support Dog!

Holistic Coaching International Website launch Natural Stress Management Mateja Petje Holistic Psychotherapy Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

Boca Greenhouse building off Yamato & US1 5301 N Federal Hwy, #370, Boca Raton

Ninety Three Percent of Mateja Petje’s clients are discharged after 8-10 sessions!

So let the healing begin! Introducing Mateja Petje a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist located right here in Boca Raton Fl. Mateja is a Holistic Psychotherapist and a Stress Management Coach. In addition Mateja is a counselor among many other things. Contact Mateja and watch yourself go from VICTIM HOOD to Reclaiming YOUR AUTHENTIC SELF!

Once again welcome to our wonderful website! This website is a fantastic way to showcase Mateja and her many fabulous healing gifts!

“My ideal clients are adults who had experienced childhood abuse, trauma, challenging relationships, PTSD, depression and anxiety and it still affects their life. I also equip my clients with top behavioral techniques to manage stress and daily challenges.” Mateja Petje

Introducing Sammy the Stress Buster!

We very excited to introduce to you Sammy the Stress Buster! Sammy is our Emotional Support Dog! He is about three years old right now. Sammy is in training getting ready for his future assignments. Sammy plays a crucial role all things considered his job is to make us smile and laugh! It’s a big job reminding us to be joyful. Maybe one day you’ll meet Sammy the Stress Buster. As a matter of fact maybe he can help you to be joyful. Perhaps even play a role in your healing process.

Holistic Coaching International accepts all Major Insurance Carriers

Holistic Coaching International accepts all Major Insurance Carriers (BCBS, Cigna, Aetna, and out-of-network) Now Mateja Petje offers online and distance therapy either by telephone or video. Can’t come to our office? So put technology to work for you!

Schedule a free phone consultation on Holistic Coaching International with Mateja

If you’re ready for a session with Mateja be sure to visit Holistic Coaching International. Schedule your FREE 15 minute phone consultation today.

Don’t wait to get help when you feel stuck, stressed-out or depressed.

I’m a phone call away! 561 299 1028

Click here to visit my website and book a FREE 15 minute consultation

Click me

Mateja Petje Holistic Coaching International Natural Stress Management

Office: 5301 N Federal Hwy, #370, Boca Raton, FL 33487

(Boca Greenhouse building off Yamato & US1)

Mateja Petje offers online and distance therapy in times when you are unable to visit our office right now

We accept all Major Insurance Carriers (BCBS, Cigna, Aetna, and out-of-network)

If you can’t come to our office right now after all Mateja Petje offers online and distance therapy! Don’t wait to get better on your own. We all need help sometimes. So why delay your happiness because in the final analysis your mental and physical health is priceless! However no one can motivate you to take the initiative to heal and make the first phone call but you. So please make the phone call all things considered you’re possibly in a dark place and need a fresh start!

Client Testimonial

“After being in traditional therapy and making no progress, I explored the option of holistic therapy with Mateja. I loved that her approach was focused on me and how to move forward with my anxiety, negative thoughts & relationship perceptions, instead of focusing on the problems and where they stemmed from. With EFT, affirmations and tracking my moods, it created more self awareness around my emotions and where they were coming from. I can happily say that I went from living in a place with high levels of anxiety to virtually none & I am a much happier person all around! She has given me tools that I will continue to utilize for a long time as I continue the healing process. I can’t say enough amazing things about Mateja!” ~JM, Boca Raton, 11/2016

The Happiness Program

The Happiness Program is also know as the Art of Living Part 1 course. It is an introduction to the world of meditation and stress free living.

GRATITUDE IS THE BEGINNING OF A BLISSFUL LIFE

December 10, 2018/0 Comments/in Gratitude, Stress /by Steve

Gratitude Natural Stress Management

Are you stressed out or are you feeling stuck? So start being grateful! Being gratitude is mostly at the forefront of people’s minds with Thanksgiving. However if we start our day with gratitude on a daily basis, even in the midst of challenges, our life will start to change in a more positive direction.

I must admit that I have not always felt this way. You see I used to be upset with events and people when things did not go as I had planned. Things started to change when I started to apply the teachings of the Law of Attraction and observing my thoughts and guiding them. Sometimes we get angry with the world or God (as we may perceive it), but this is exactly the time when we need to apply the Law of Gratitude. There might be lessons to be learned that we might not be aware of.

In the past I did a program called “The Science of Being Rich” by Nancy Matthews. A co-founder of Women’s Prosperity Network in Plantation, Fl. The program is based on the teachings of Wallace D. Wattles. Prior to that, I had also studied Harv Eker’s the Secrets of the Millionaire Mindset. Whatever book or program you decide to follow, the key is to be disciplined and consistent. Years of conditioning will not change overnight. It requires patience, faith, and willingness to change your outdated belief patterns.

Goodwill and Gratitude

You may even face resistance from your loved ones and people that are close to you! As the saying goes “misery loves company.” But so does goodwill and gratitude. Whenever possible, surround yourself with people who have a positive outlook on life. Don’t waste time by complaining, blaming others and playing a victim.

In his book, Wallace states that “the more gratefully we fix our minds on the supreme good, when things come to us, the more good we will receive, and the more rapidly they will come.“ Grateful mind brings us closer to the Creator, God, Life Force, Higher Power or however you want to call it, from which the blessings come.

He further states that it is absolutely necessary to follow the Law of Gratitude in order to achieve the results we are seeking. Whether this is financial prosperity, health, relationships or buying a new home.

Changing your thoughts in order to change your emotions

When I work with clients, they often become angry, depressed, and anxious, as well as hopeless about their life, not knowing how to change things. The first thing I tell them is to start focusing and observing their language and their thoughts. Then to start changing their thoughts in order to change their emotions.

I believe that we are all the creators of our life. By choosing our thoughts and being grateful for everything in our life (yes even tough lessons and pain) we will create a life that we have always wanted. Wallace also adds that “without gratitude you cannot long keep from dissatisfied thoughts regarding things as they are. The moment you PERMIT your mind to dwell with dissatisfaction upon things as they are, you begin to lose ground.” The grateful mind is constantly fixed upon the best.

Faith in ourselves

In addition, FAITH is born of gratitude. We need to have faith in ourselves that we can overcome our “Conditioned Self”. Primarily this is based on fear, worry and negativity. This is the time to perform a daily action of thinking about what we are grateful for. It could be as simple as being grateful for a nice sunny day (and we are very lucky here in South Fl when the rest of the country has winter storms and cold).

I suggest to my clients to keep a daily gratitude and intention journal. Writing things down can make a huge difference. We want to live in our “Authentic Self” which is based on love, gratitude, joy and faith.

Don’t wait to get help when you feel stuck, stressed-out or depressed.

I’m a phone call away! 561 299 1028

Click here to visit my website and book a FREE 15 minute consultation

Click me

Mateja Petje Holistic Coaching International Natural Stress Management

Office: 5301 N Federal Hwy, #370, Boca Raton, FL 33487

(Boca Greenhouse building off Yamato & US1)

Happy Holidays!

Mateja Petje offers online and distance therapy in times when you are unable to visit our office right now

We accept all Major Insurance Carriers (BCBS, Cigna, Aetna, and out-of-network)

If you can’t come to our office right now after all Mateja Petje offers online and distance therapy! Don’t wait to get better on your own. We all need help sometimes so why delay your happiness because in the final analysis your mental and physical health is priceless! However no one can motivate you to take the initiative to heal and make the first phone call but you. So please make the phone call all things considered you’re possibly in a dark place and need a fresh start!

CLIENT TESTIMONIAL

“After being in traditional therapy and making no progress, I explored the option of holistic therapy with Mateja. I loved that her approach was focused on me and how to move forward with my anxiety, negative thoughts & relationship perceptions, instead of focusing on the problems and where they stemmed from. With EFT, affirmations and tracking my moods, it created more self awareness around my emotions and where they were coming from. After 4-5 months, my anxiety levels is nearly nonexistent” Jessica in Boca Raton 11/16

The Happiness Program
Also know as the Art of Living Part 1 course, is an introduction to the world of meditation and stress free living.

Mental Health Benefits of Physical Exercise

November 18, 2018/1 Comment/in Exercise, Post 2 /by Steve

Mental Health Benefits of Physical Exercise

Mental Health Benefits of Physical Exercise are numerous! I must admit, I’ve never been the typical “gym rat.” Luckily I grew up in the mountains of Slovenia where there are plenty of hiking opportunities. Frankly I’ve always loved the outdoors. Even when I was in college, I still found time on weekends to go hiking with my friends. It was fun and it helped me to stay fit. At the same time I also enjoyed the company of my friends.

In addition to hiking, dancing has also been my passion. Initially, that meant going to clubs. It wasn’t really until I turned 26 and broke up with my ex that I found solace in dancing. This was while healing a broken heart after he cheated with one of my childhood friends. My dysfunctional family, the hurt and pain related to my childhood and adolescent abuse, as well as a broken heart, led me to move to the US in October of 1997. This is where I joined my now ex-husband an American.

Importance of exercise

I never truly understood the importance of exercise until years later. One of my boyfriends who was an athlete and a runner encouraged me to join the gym. At this point I didn’t enjoy going to clubs anymore. At that time as well I didn’t enjoy listening to hip-hop, dance, or techno. But I did take some belly dancing classes and I danced at drumming circles.

Medication & their Side Effects

My healing journey took me to work with traditional psychotherapists, coaches, healers, and psychics. I was on and off medication for clinical depression and anxiety for the last 20 years. It had bad side effects such as weight gain, loss of libido, gastrointestinal issues, and even suicidal thoughts when life pressure and stress got to me.

Researching Alternative and Holistic approaches

Over time I kept researching alternative and holistic approaches to healing from abuse, trauma, chronic anxiety and depression. I learned about Buddhism and Hinduism and started meditating. This is something I have been doing for 20 years now. Still, I have not been able to find lasting solutions to stay off medication for any extended periods of time. Stress didn’t help me! You see I had worked at many toxic workplaces while building my private counseling and coaching practice.

Learning about functional medicine

Finally, a few years ago I learned about functional medicine. Now I began to understand the connection between my mental health and nutrition, as well as my gastrointestinal issues and lack of exercise due to working long hours. So I adopted a healthier, low carb diet. Quickly I lost over 15 lbs and I was able to get off medication and started taking B12 and CQ10 supplement.

I also stopped binge-watching Netflix and avoided drama and violence. Functional medicine, as opposed to traditional Western medicine, is more concerned with root causes, not symptom reduction, quick fixes, and taking an antidepressant or anti-anxiety medication.

According to functional medicine, the key steps to health include:

1. Proper nutrition (rich in healthy fats, veggies, protein, nuts, seeds, and fruit)

2. Exercise (daily as much as possible)

3. Adequate sleep (minimum 7-8 hrs.)

4. Nurturing relationships and socializing

5. Stress management and spiritual practices

James M Greenblatt, MD, Breakthrough Depression Solution

According to James M Greenblatt, MD, in his book Breakthrough Depression Solution, exercise is important and plays a key role in fighting depression. Several studies have proven the efficacy of exercise in significantly decreasing depression symptoms. For example, in a study conducted in 2013, researchers assigned 48, alcohol-dependent, inactive patients to a twelve-week, moderate exercise program.

The other group of participants was simply told to exercise. The participants reported far less drinking as compared to those who had been simply told to exercise. Similarly, in another study conducted by a Columbia University of Epidemiology survey, over 60% of participants who exercised were much less likely to suffer a major depression (p. 152).

According to Dr. Greenblatt, exercise has several benefits in fighting depression (p. 154):

Reverses Harmful Effects of Stress
Lifts Depression
Improves Learning
Builds Self-esteem and Improves Body Image
Leaves You Feeling Euphoric or Joyful

He also recommends taking supplements such as B12 and Carnitine, as many clients have very low energy and lack the motivation to exercise. The best type of exercise is probably interval training, because it helps to get the heart rate up quickly. However, any type of exercise can help including walking, yoga, Tai chi, strength training, biking, swimming or dancing.

It’s important that you set realistic goals and start slowly.For example, 15 minutes three times a week gradually increasing your exercise time. Do what you love and don’t force yourself to go to the gym if it’s not your cup of tea.
Have fun!

Don’t wait to get help when you feel stuck, stressed-out or depressed.

I’m a phone call away! 561 299 1028

Click here to visit my website and book a FREE 15 minute consultation

Click me

Mateja Petje Holistic Coaching International Natural Stress Management
Office: 5301 N Federal Hwy, #370, Boca Raton, FL 33487

(Boca Greenhouse building off Yamato & US1)

Happy Holidays!

Mateja Petje offers online and distance therapy in times when you are unable to visit our office right now

We accept all Major Insurance Carriers (BCBS, Cigna, Aetna, and out-of-network)

If you can’t come to our office right now after all Mateja Petje offers online and distance therapy! Don’t wait to get better on your own. We all need help sometimes so why delay your happiness because in the final analysis your mental and physical health is priceless! However no one can motivate you to take the initiative to heal and make the first phone call but you. So please make the phone call all things considered you’re possibly in a dark place and need a fresh start!

Client Testimonial

“After my mother passed away and I felt as though I was at a crossroads in my life as well as in my relationship, I sought the help of Mateja. Without pressure or judgment, she helped me come to grips with the decision I ultimately had to make and gave me tools to use in order to come to that difficult decision. She provided me with many helpful tips, tools and resources to achieve my goals in life that I will continue to use throughout my life. I learned a great deal from Mateja and her methods and am grateful I sought help from her.” ~AD

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