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Mateja Petje Mothers Day

Mateja Petje Mother’s Day

MOTHERS & DAUGHTERS – INFLUENCES FOR A LIFETIME

Mateja Petje Mother’s Day insights, experiences and lessons learned. Mothers play a big part in our lives, especially when it comes to their daughters. In an ideal world, daughters receive love, attention, support, and wisdom from their moms so that they can go into the world and follow their dreams and passions. 

 

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According to recent research as discussed in the article in Psychology Today Here is a link http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200104/the-mother-daughter-bond Most adults report positive relationships with their mothers. For example, 88 percent of adults say their mother has had a positive influence on them, and 92 percent say their current relationship with their mother is positive. 

 

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Still, in my clinical practice, these numbers tend to be quite different. Many women, young or old, report having strained relationships with their mothers. Quite often, they suffer from low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, and unfulfilled relationships. They blame themselves not knowing what went wrong and why they cannot form a lasting loving relationship with a man. Many times they did not have a good role model as to what constitutes a healthy and loving relationship or a marriage.

So the bond between mothers and daughters is very complex. The bond starts to already develop during pregnancy. Research shows that even fetuses can identify when their mom is stressed and therefore stress can indirectly affect the child’s emotional blue-print.  

 

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When I was pursuing my master’s degree at the University of Miami, I wrote my best essay on the importance of a secure attachment with parents, and especially mothers. Those who are lucky  enough get this kind of secure attachment however many others who are not so lucky suffer due to insecure and avoidance attachment. This is characterized by fear, anxiety and feelings of abandonment.

Unfortunately, my experience was similar to many other daughters growing up in dysfunctional families. My family on my mother’s side has experienced generations of alcoholism and violence. Men tend to be violent and use alcohol as a coping mechanism. Many times this was an escape from mental and emotional illnesses, including PTSD which my grandfather suffered from and in the end it cost him his life. 

 

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Mateja Petje Mother’s Day – Coming to America

 

My mom was not an alcoholic, however she never healed from her own trauma. Instead she lashed out. In my tender teen years, I was abused physically, emotionally and mentally. She never sought help.  This was just not what you did. Seeking help for emotional and mental issues is still stigmatized even to this day.

I had to physically move across the ocean from Slovenia to the US to finally heal from my own trauma. I am the first in my family who broke the cycle and decided I didn’t want to live this kind of life moreover that I deserve a loving relationship. In therapy I learned a lot about myself and why I developed clinical depression. My healing journey was long and it’s still an ongoing process.

At the same time, it was also a blessing in disguise as I have been able to help hundreds of women to heal from abuse, trauma, difficult relationships, low self-esteem and the lack of self-love. The women I’ve worked with now have confidence, improved relationships and they have made peace with the past. 

 

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Here are some suggestions how to heal and improve your relationship with your mother:

 

1.    Forgive your mom and let go. Write a letter to your mom expressing everything and then burn it. You are doing this for your sake so that you don’t carry this burden.

2.    Think about all the good stuff. Don’t always dwell on the bad stuff. One of my fondest memories is when my mom brought me breakfast in bed on Saturdays.

3.    Be your own best parent. Think about what you have always needed from your mom but never got it. Pamper yourself.

4.    Remember that your mom is just doing the best that she can. She learned all she knows from her mother.

5.    When your mom starts with her “usual” nagging, or she is being negative or critical, just gently disengage. Set the boundaries and practice “tough love.”

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This photo is when I visited home in 2007! I’m from Slovenia as you might have read. It is an amazing country! If you want to explore here is a terrific link. https://www.visitljubljana.com/en/visitors/

 

 

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NATURAL REMEDIES & SLEEP SUPPLEMENTS 

Are you struggling with getting enough sleep? Maybe you’re able to fall asleep, but you keep waking up? Maybe it’s time to try Natural Remedies & Sleep Supplements. Many of my clients struggle with lack of sleep and poor sleep. Often times it’s due to intrusive and obsessive thoughts related to chronic anxiety and depression. Lack of sleep doesn’t only make us cranky, it also affects our productivity. It can lead to chronic illnesses due to compromised immune system.

Guided Meditation for Sleep 

I’ve suffered for years until I learned about meditation. Especially guided meditation which has been really helpful. For quite a long time now I’ve been listening to Michael Sealey. He specializes in Hypnosis, Hypnotherapy, Guided Meditation and Sleep Relaxation.

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Supplements for natural, non-medical and integrative medicine approach

In addition to guided meditation here are some supplements that you can take. I’ve been an advocate for a natural, non-medical and integrative medicine approach for years and wish I had this book before!

Dr. James Greenblatt recommends several different sleep remedies. 

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All dosages are estimates as everyone is different. Natural Remedies Sleep Supplements you may find quite useful.

1. Magnesium (“anti stress mineral”) 200-300 mg before bedtime.

2. Valerian (reduces anxiety while improving sleep) 300-500 mg before sleep. Possible side effects are headache, restlessness, sleeplessness and irregular heartbeat.

3. Inositol & 5-HTP Inositol is naturally produced by intestinal bacteria and helps transmit nerve signals and prevents buildup of fat in the liver. Research supports positive benefits for insomnia and OCD. Dosage 1 teaspoon at 8 pm (about 2.8 grams) and 1 teaspoon before bed.

5-HTP is an early form of the neurotransmitter serotonin that is changed to make melatonin. Dosage 50-200 mg 30-60 minutes before bed. DO NOT take if already taking anti-depressants such as Lexapro.

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4. Glycine Amino acid produced in the body and is considered an inhibitory neurotransmitter. It calms neurotransmitters so that they don’t fire rapidly. Dosage 3 grams 1 hour before bedtime.

5. GABA A neurotransmitter that helps brain cells calm down and become less excited.  Dosage 500-750 mg with a cup of water and drink half before bedtime. If you wake up during the night, drink the other half. Try 100-250 mg first and then increase the dosage.

6. Melotonin  A Hormone produced by the pineal gland that works with body’s built-in clock to regulate sleep and wake cycles. Your body needs mineral zinc to manufacture melotonin as well as Zinc plays a role in preventing depression.
Dosage: 1-3 mg before sleep.
Possible side effects are drowsiness, upset stomach and headaches.
 
*Resource: James M. Greenblatt, MD, Breakthrough Depression Solution, 2nd edition, Sunrise River Press, 2016 

About James Greenblatt, MD

 James Greenblatt, MD, a pioneer in the field of integrative medicine, has been successfully treating patients with nutritional and metabolic therapies for more than twenty-five years. In this book, he provides a personalized model of integrative medicine for mental health that can result in relief from depression and a renewed sense of emotional health.

Mateja Petje’s shares Dr. Maya Sarkisyan’s sleep tips

Recently I attended a lecture by Dr. Maya Sarkisyan who also happens to be my functional medicine doctor. Here are a few more great tips from her for better sleep too. It’s important to note that “one size does not fit all.” It’s key to find the root cause for insomnia or poor sleep. Most often it’s stress, anxiety, and obsessive thinking. However it can also be hormonal changes during the menopause (as in my case) or even mold & allergies.

Here are a few of her suggestions for better sleep

  • Move electronics out of your bedroom. Shut down all the screens. Blue light is very stressful for your nervous system. Make sure you have filters or software on your electronic devices to get rid of blue light. Put your phone on airplane mode, and turn it face down. 
  • Keep the temperature cooler during the night than through the day. The best sleep temperature is between 65 and 72 degrees.
  • At least two hours before bedtime stop eating anything and don’t drink alcohol. The best it to have your last bite before 7pm, and have only water or herbal tea after. 

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  • Clean up your environment. It is much better to sleep in a clean room knowing that in the morning you will wake up to an organized space.
  • Relax with a book (instead of TV)  or journal about the day and write down tasks for tomorrow
  • Get blackout curtains and block all the light sources you can. Get your bedroom as dark as possible. 
  • If you cannot fall asleep for 30 min – get up, go into another room, have dim lighting only and repeat some of your routines. After 15 minutes you can then go back to bed and try to fall asleep again. 
  • Take at least 10 minutes to practice mindful relaxation and/or spiritual practices. Usually, spiritual practices take longer. Examples – Prayer, Meditation, Breathing, Qigong. and practice gratitude. 

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Mateja Petje shares more Natural Remedies Sleep Supplements tips too

Practicing some form of meditation, and spending time in nature, as well as daily exercise will make you feel better. It will also help you get more restful sleep. If you are unable to shake off intrusive thoughts, I also recommend journaling. If the problem persists, schedule time with a licensed clinician who will help you uncover other reasons for lack of sleep.

I recommend talking to a Naturopath or medical doctor especially if you are already taking medication as some of it may interfere. So in the end don’t forget natural remedies & sleep supplements. Wishing you a restful and peaceful night sleep! 

 

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Mateja Petje offers online and distance therapy in times when you are unable to visit our office right now

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If you can’t come to our office right now after all Mateja Petje offers online and distance therapy! Don’t wait to get better on your own. We all need help sometimes. So why delay your happiness because in the final analysis your mental and physical health is priceless! However no one can motivate you to take the initiative to heal and make the first phone call but you. So please make the phone call all things considered you’re possibly in a dark place and need a fresh start!

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The Happiness Program 

The Happiness Program is also know as the Art of Living Part 1 course. It is an introduction to the world of meditation and stress free living.