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GRATITUDE IS THE BEGINNING OF A BLISSFUL LIFE

Gratitude Natural Stress Management

Are you stressed out or are you feeling stuck? So start being grateful! Being gratitude is mostly at the forefront of people’s minds with Thanksgiving. However if we start our day with gratitude on a daily basis, even in the midst of challenges, our life will start to change in a more positive direction.

I must admit that I have not always felt this way. You see I used to be upset with events and people when things did not go as I had planned. Things started to change when I started to apply the teachings of the Law of Attraction and observing my thoughts and guiding them.  Sometimes we get angry with the world or God (as we may perceive it), but this is exactly the time when we need to apply the Law of Gratitude. There might be lessons to be learned that we might not be aware of. 

 

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In the past I did a program called “The Science of Being Rich” by Nancy Matthews. A co-founder of Women’s Prosperity Network in Plantation, Fl. The program is based on the teachings of Wallace D. Wattles. Prior to that, I had also studied Harv Eker’s the Secrets of the Millionaire Mindset. Whatever book or program you decide to follow, the key is to be disciplined and consistent. Years of conditioning will not change overnight. It requires patience, faith, and willingness to change your outdated belief patterns. 

 

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Goodwill and Gratitude

You may even face resistance from your loved ones and people that are close to you! As the saying goes “misery loves company.” But so does goodwill and gratitude. Whenever possible, surround yourself with people who have a positive outlook on life. Don’t waste time by complaining, blaming others and playing a victim.

In his book, Wallace states that “the more gratefully we fix our minds on the supreme good, when things come to us, the more good we will receive, and the more rapidly they will come.“ Grateful mind brings us closer to the Creator, God, Life Force, Higher Power or however you want to call it, from which the blessings come.

He further states that it is absolutely necessary to follow the Law of Gratitude in order to achieve the results we are seeking. Whether this is financial prosperity, health, relationships or buying a new home.

 

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Changing your thoughts in order to change your emotions

When I work with clients, they often become angry, depressed, and anxious, as well as hopeless about their life, not knowing how to change things. The first thing I tell them is to start focusing and observing their language and their thoughts. Then to start changing their thoughts in order to change their emotions.

I believe that we are all the creators of our life. By choosing our thoughts and being grateful for everything in our life (yes even tough lessons and pain) we will create a life that we have always wanted. Wallace also adds that “without gratitude you cannot long keep from dissatisfied thoughts regarding things as they are. The moment you PERMIT your mind to dwell with dissatisfaction upon things as they are, you begin to lose ground.”  The grateful mind is constantly fixed upon the best.

Faith in ourselves

In addition, FAITH is born of gratitude. We need to have faith in ourselves that we can overcome our “Conditioned Self”. Primarily this is based on fear, worry and negativity. This is the time to perform a daily action of thinking about what we are grateful for. It could be as simple as being grateful for a nice sunny day (and we are very lucky here in South Fl when the rest of the country has winter storms and cold).

I suggest to my clients to keep a daily gratitude and intention journal. Writing things down can make a huge difference. We want to live in our “Authentic Self” which is based on love, gratitude, joy and faith.

 

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What is PTSD and 5 Tips for Treatment

WHAT IS PTSD AND 5 TIPS FOR TREATMENT

 

What is Post Traumatic Stress Disorder or PTSD? It’s Veterans Day 2018. In recent years so many war veterans have been diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). In addition to the above average incidents of shootings, and specifically the recent event close to my home, in Parkland, Fl, I decided to write this article that will hopefully help to bring some clarity as to what PTSD is and some suggestions as to how it can be treated.

There is no one correct treatment for PTSD. I base this on my personal experience of having suffered significant trauma which was a result of all types of abuse during my childhood and adolescence. As well as experiencing trauma related to being in abusive relationships later on in my adult life. I have experienced nightmares and some flashbacks for as long as I remember. This just serves as a guideline therefore I strongly recommend that if you feel that you suffer from PTSD that you consult a licensed clinician or a psychologist.

 

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Let’s first take a look as to how the psychology field defines PTSD.

 

In 2013, the American Psychiatric Association revised the PTSD diagnostic criteria in the fifth edition of its Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5; 1). PTSD is included in a new category in DSM-5, Trauma- and Stressor-Related Disorders. Full copyrighted criteria are available from the American Psychiatric Association (1). Here I am just listing a few.

To be diagnosed with PTSD, the person was exposed to: death, threatened death, actual or threatened serious injury, or actual or threatened sexual violence, or similar, including any kind of abuse or domestic violence, experiencing it directly or indirectly by observing it.

 

Typical symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

 

Typical symptoms include: nightmares, flashbacks, emotional distress, and intrusive thoughts.

For example, for years following the abuse, I would have continued nightmares and I also developed sensitivity to criticism and aversion to anybody talking loudly. I would experience physical sensations, such as vomiting or upset stomach. Basically, I developed a trigger – in this case, a loud voice.

Another example, in the case of people that were exposed to violence – including shooting and guns, they develop emotional distress with ANY loud noises that resemble a gun shot. It can take years to heal and not to experience emotional distress when the trigger presents itself.

For a person to meet the criteria for PTSD, the symptoms need to last at least a month and they also experience distress and functional impairment in several key areas of life such as social and occupational

(See  https://www.ptsd.va.gov/professional/PTSD-overview/dsm5_criteria_ptsd.asp)

So what can we do about Post Traumatic Stress Disorder?

 

 

1.     Most of all, know that you are not alone. What helped me most is to seek support of friends who normalized my feelings that what I was experiencing was not the norm. My boyfriend’s family was nothing like my own and I experienced joy and laughter, and not abuse and tension, which was the norm in my family when I was an adolescent.

 

2.     I also worked with several therapists, coaches, and healers and learned how to identify my triggers and how to manage my emotions and “rewrite my story”. One approach that was helpful with a pervasive memory of being severely beaten was finding a therapist that was trained in EMDR and after few sessions I was able to tell my story without crying and was able to emotionally detach from the incident.

However, the approach that finally started to help me in stopping intrusive and limiting thoughts and beliefs is when I learned and received training in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). In essence, this approach focuses on the linguistic and how we store and process memories. I have been able to start understanding that my negative programming due to being exposed to abuse and trauma colored my world. Largely I saw the world as a threat and subconsciously sought experiences and people that confirmed that the world is not a safe place and that people cannot be trusted. Only when I started changing my beliefs did my life and my well-being improve.

 

3.     Join a support group. Other people who have gone through similar experiences can not only offer validation, you will also feel understood. Not many people (including some therapists) really understood why I am not able to get better – in spite of years of therapy and medication. Medication can be helpful in the initial stages, but the key is to understand the root causes and how your beliefs and thoughts contribute to the disorder.

 

4.     Keep journaling. When we are overwhelmed with thoughts, it’s key that we find healthy ways to manage them and get them out of our head.

 

5.     Learn stress management and breathing techniques. I think meditation literally saved my life. I studied different modalities including mindfulness, zen, guided meditation, and meditation based on mantra (the Art of Living Foundation). I was able to heal insomnia and significantly reduced anxiety and depression symptoms.

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